Relationship help?

[Gibs960]

Okay, so I get jealous easily because I have massive trust issues with women (mum, friends, nana), and one of my friends started flirting with my girlfriend, after a while I told him but I started going on about it to my girlfriend and she got a bit pissed off and ended it with me. We got back together and everything was going fine until today.

I started mentioning stuff again for no reason whatsoever and then I was in a bad mood anyway and then the lad who started flirting originally put a snail on my leg, for a laugh I pretended to put a snail down my girlfriends back (looking back now it was stupid anyway). I didn't know she had a phobia and she started cryin, I went up to her to apologise but her friends started kickin me.

I walked off and I got a text from my friend saying she'd ended it, I spoke to her and said sorry and said that I still loved her and everythin but she wouldn't listen and said she didn't want to go through the same thing again.

I don't know what to do because I feel sick because of everything, I don't wanna eat because I feel like I'd be sick. I don't wanna live without her because she's like my bestfriend but being just friends isn't good enough.

Sorry for bad grammar and stuff but I'm too upset to care.

[mrwoooooooo]

If she don't like snails she's not worth datin'

[buttons]

well it's understandable that you got jealous and not because you have trust issues. your girlfriend sounds so immature. you should be the one pissed off, not her. i don't understand why she got pissed off that your friend was flirting with her. she probably feels like you're blaming her.

also not your problem that she had a phobia you didn't know about, that's ridiculous. she really needs to grow up but kids will be kids. i don't have advice for you as it seems like a cycle that will go on and on. SHE'LL get upset and make YOU feel bad about it and that's just not right. but you 'love' her i guess and we're blinded by that. you might not like to hear it and i don't know your relationship other than that but imo you deserve better but yknow. she isn't treating you right or handling it maturely so it's not a very good relationship......

[Gibs960]

I think she tries to be mature but her friends don't make it any better by not letting me be her boyfriend and letting themselves be her friends. She says she's not been the same because her granddad has got cancer but I don't see why that makes a difference with how she acts/treats me.

[Paige.]

I think she tries to be mature but her friends don't make it any better by not letting me be her boyfriend and letting themselves be her friends. She says she's not been the same because her granddad has got cancer but I don't see why that makes a difference with how she acts/treats me.

Other people getting involved with other's relationships just messes things up anyway and she shouldn't let her friends stop you from being her boyfriend and she shouldn't let them get involved as a relationship is made up of two people not any more. I don't know how she feels as I'm lucky enough to never have had to go through that but maybe she's just so upset and frustrated about it that she doesn't know how to let her feelings out and just takes it out on you. I know this isn't fair on you but perhaps try and talk to her about it and see how she's feeling. Also, it wasn't your fault you didn't know she had a phobia so don't beat yourself up about it because you were only having a laugh and if she can't see that, well that's her problem. You were mature enough to go up to her to try and apologise and I think it was very immature and ridiculous of her friends to start kicking you. Her friends need to get a grip and keep their nose out of your business and evidently grow up. This isn't really your fault so don't think it was because it seems like you did the mature thing and try to resolve the situation by trying to apologise but I don't see why she said she 'didn't want to go through the same thing again' when surely, now that you know she has that phobia you won't be doing that again so maybe she needs to understand this? Hope it works out but truthfully I don't think she's worth all this hassle, especially since her friends are just making the whole situation worse.

[Gibs960]

I just felt like she never wanted to hug me, kiss me or do anything with me but I still feel like I need her :(

[Paige.]

I just felt like she never wanted to hug me, kiss me or do anything with me but I still feel like I need her :(

Try and get her on her own to talk to her and tell her this and tell her how you feel and hopefully she'll tell you how she feels about it and you can talk it through. Don't keep it bottled up :)

[Samantha]

Your friend probably flirted with her as he knew it would annoy you and she wouldnt stop him, did she stop him? By looks of it she didnt thus may not have thought much of you at the time.

She gave you another chance and again she may have looked for another way to blame you for something stupid. This being the snail incident, giving the excuse that her grandad has cancer I feel means that shes looking for someone to blame, she knows you'll fall for it and so does it

You don't love her Daniel, you loved ellie too remember? Is this the same girl or Simone different, you push the word round too much it has to be said, were good friends thus I'll be honest with you. Not going to say youre only blah blah years old but I don't think she's worth your time. Instead of finishing straight up she waits until you do naff all tbh and then ends it, if she comes back to you shell probably try it again and one day you'll say no as this isn't your fault afterall.

[Richie]

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Edited by Jordan (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not pointless post!

[Gibs960]

Every time I ring her up and text her she just says that she doesn't want to go through the same thing again, all my friends think that she's overreacting and has literally acted spontaneously but doesn't want to admit it. At first she wouldn't speak to me at all, I had to speak to my friend who was with her and he'd pass on the message, later on I spoke to her and it was like speaking with a stranger. She was like that on the texts we sent last night, just oblivious to what had gone on as if she was the only that got hurt.

[Phil]

Okay this might not help but I'll give it a go!

I had a massive fight with my girlfriend over something a while ago. We didn't talk for a few days over it and although she wanted to forgive me she didn't know if she could because even though what I did was so minuscule (which everyone except her could see) she didn't want us to be in another fight because she can't handle being so hurt.

Eventually we got back on track and are better than ever but it took a lot of (UNREAL) effort. I basically kept apologising, telling her a loved and trying to show her that she can trust me again. See that's probably what's happening with your girlfriend, since you've done that she might think you'll hurt her again so just ensure her of how much you love her and that you'd never do anything to purposely hurt her. A line that got me somewhere was "This is all new to both of us so everyday is a learning experience so of course mistakes are going to be made, you just need to see that once that mistake has happened once, it's not going to happen again because I'd do everything in my power to kept it from doing so" but I'm not sure how much that can apply to you.

I'll keep an eye on this thread and offer whatever help I can.

[mrwoooooooo]

Every time I ring her up and text her she just says that she doesn't want to go through the same thing again, all my friends think that she's overreacting and has literally acted spontaneously but doesn't want to admit it. At first she wouldn't speak to me at all, I had to speak to my friend who was with her and he'd pass on the message, later on I spoke to her and it was like speaking with a stranger. She was like that on the texts we sent last night, just oblivious to what had gone on as if she was the only that got hurt.
dont talk to her for a week and she'll come crawling back, if she does actually like you

[GoldenMerc]

dont talk to her for a week and she'll come crawling back, if she does actually like you
Exactly my words.

[Gibs960]

Today I got back with her and we spent most of the day together but she just kept texting this guy and even if she was sitting right next to me holdin my hand she'd walk off, text him back and then come back to me.

I got thinking about it and I thought "that's weird considering she said she had no texts left and that's why she couldn't text me back."