Long distance relationships..

[Fuseless]

So i came across this video thanks to my girlfriend, and its absoloutly the cutest thing i have ever seen :') I was just wondering what you guy's thought about long distance relationships? (And yes im in a long distance relationship too, but not quite that kind of distance)
(The couple in the video did meet in the end and now live together)


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_oIaWEKrx4

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[Samantha]

Yeah saw that ages ago it proves that some work etc.

[buttons]

awww i'm sitting watching youtube clips of people meeting for the first time aww so cute


of course it works but i think it's harder if you meet them close by you THEN one of you move. most my relationships have been long distance but only cause i live in the middle of nowhere lol which i prefer as i need lots of alone time and not have people 'surprising' me and turning up at my door when im lying in pyjamas looking a mess. have had a relationship where i met someone on the internet but met up purely as friends then it became more, it worked alright and the distance wasn't the reason for it turning sour. i think it's cute, just makes it more special if you hardly see them then you can really appreciate them when you get together. if people are happy then why not...

[Fuseless]

awww i'm sitting watching youtube clips of people meeting for the first time aww so cute


of course it works but i think it's harder if you meet them close by you THEN one of you move. most my relationships have been long distance but only cause i live in the middle of nowhere lol which i prefer as i need lots of alone time and not have people 'surprising' me and turning up at my door when im lying in pyjamas looking a mess. have had a relationship where i met someone on the internet but met up purely as friends then it became more, it worked alright and the distance wasn't the reason for it turning sour. i think it's cute, just makes it more special if you hardly see them then you can really appreciate them when you get together. if people are happy then why not...

I prefer it too :) Yeah the first time i saw the video it made me so happy i cried :)

[A4R0N]

awww i'm sitting watching youtube clips of people meeting for the first time aww so cute


of course it works but i think it's harder if you meet them close by you THEN one of you move. most my relationships have been long distance but only cause i live in the middle of nowhere lol which i prefer as i need lots of alone time and not have people 'surprising' me and turning up at my door when im lying in pyjamas looking a mess. have had a relationship where i met someone on the internet but met up purely as friends then it became more, it worked alright and the distance wasn't the reason for it turning sour. i think it's cute, just makes it more special if you hardly see them then you can really appreciate them when you get together. if people are happy then why not...

get a life poof

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[Kardan]

I've never experienced one, but personally I could never see it working out... I prefer intimacy over a nice skype call or hand written letter...

[Charz777]

I've never experienced one, but personally I could never see it working out... I prefer intimacy over a nice skype call or hand written letter...

Intimacy, physically connecting, just being able to touch, hold hands, embrace is so so important. Knowing the person's smell and the tiniest details of their body.

[buttons]

er yeah it's important to meet a person, body chemistry n all that is important for attraction but you don't have to be there with them every single day or every week or every month for it to work. maybe not for you but it evidently does work until they maybe move together or whatever..

[Teabags]

It'd be okay, but the problem is most people are really different online to real life. It's just the way it seems to be. So long distance could work, but if you've never met them and are going to be with them for a long period of time; hate to be a pessimist, but it generally wouldn't work out.

Russell - you can explain.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sNn2ItJ-FVQ

[Kardan]

er yeah it's important to meet a person, body chemistry n all that is important for attraction but you don't have to be there with them every single day or every week or every month for it to work. maybe not for you but it evidently does work until they maybe move together or whatever..

I'm not saying it can't work, I'm just saying it can't work for me :)

[Jurv]

videos of people holding up pieces of paper are cringeworthy. nuff said.

but yeah, i personally can't see long distance relationships working in the long run. perhaps if they weren't planning on meeting up it could work, but if they were then i can just imagine them being disappointed at who they thought was someone else, if you know what i mean? people get all dolled up online.

[Kardan]

videos of people holding up pieces of paper are cringeworthy. nuff said.

but yeah, i personally can't see long distance relationships working in the long run. perhaps if they weren't planning on meeting up it could work, but if they were then i can just imagine them being disappointed at who they thought was someone else, if you know what i mean? people get all dolled up online.

I must have totally got the wrong end of this thread :P I thought long distance mainly meant you were in a relationship with someone and then moved apart, like people starting university, whereas most people in here are talking about online relationships which are a totally different thing :P

Online relationships, I consider them more of a middle aged persons sort of thing, using dating websites - of course you get the odd teenage couple that fall in "love" but people are a lot different in real life than on the internet...

[Catchy]

I'd never want to be in a long distance relationship again. There, that's my opinion.

[lawrawrrr]

NGL this video actually made me cry. Doesn't help I've reached that totally depressive holy-crap-noone-will-ever-love-me-again phase of being single ANYWAY

So cute, can't even say. Long distances relationships are so hard but can really work. Sometimes they feel real, sometimes... they just don't. I've experienced both (don't flatter yourself into thinking you know who I'm talking about) and it can really suck. Especially as it sometimes feels as if you're more into it than the other person, but that's the risk you have to take, I guess.

It's so public, so open, OMG LETS POST YOUTUBE VIDS ABOUT HOW MUCH WE LOVE EACH OTHER relationships that annoy me, if they're that superficial can they actually be real? Seriously? I get you want to flaunt how much you mean to each other but it's the same issue with real relationships - from my experience, if you're writing on each other's Facebook walls 24/7 about how 'in love' you are, you're probably not 'in love'.

[FlyingJesus]

i think it's harder if you meet them close by you THEN one of you move

I'd say the opposite tbh, if you've never met then you've never had the physical bond (not just sex, even just a hug or something makes a difference) and are therefore in my view more likely to look for that elsewhere. If the people involved are fine with that then it's not a problem but I think the jealousy of knowing that other people are constantly near the person you've never had the chance to touch can be very damaging.

Also as a real life example, my sister got married this weekend to the guy she started seeing when she was 15, then he moved to New Zealand and they did long distance on/off for a few years until she moved out there to be with him, and obv I have bias in this because she's my sister but they genuinely are perfect together and always were regardless of the distance that occurred partway through it all


but yeah, i personally can't see long distance relationships working in the long run. perhaps if they weren't planning on meeting up it could work, but if they were then i can just imagine them being disappointed at who they thought was someone else, if you know what i mean? people get all dolled up online.

If you're serious about the relationship and it's a long-term thing then it's absolutely possible to know the "real" person before meeting them and not get disappointed. A big part of the emotional connection in a romantic relationship is allowing yourself to be vulnerable with your partner, so if someone's constantly hiding behind a mask or refusing to let their real self be shown then that's a problem with the whole relationship not just the distance aspect of it

[Stephen]

That video was well gay

Like it's nice and all why do you even need to put that **** on youtube

[dbgtz]

To me that video wasn't cute or anything like that, it seemed like he made that video for the gain of getting compliments like "that video is cute". Personally I think you have to be close enough to see the personal on a fairly regular basis (once a fortnight, something like that) for it to work, though it probably does depend on the people, but I just don't see how it could work just being online 24/7.

[Sian]

my previous relationship became long distant because of uni. If you have a strong relationship it will work (maybe not forever) but we stayed together for another year whilst I was at uni, it ended but not because of the distance.

Depends on the people really.

[Charz777]

Just watched the video, it's sweet, don't get me wrong. But it's not ideal. Fair play to them if they made it work :)

I'm not going to knock their relationship because they've probably got more romance going on there than a lot of couples. Writing songs, making videos for each other, well that's something a lot of us won't experience, but we're lucky to be able to see our partners every day or week. I'm a big romantic and think all the cheesey-ness in there is sweet and would love that.

The distance though, it's just not doable for me. How could you have a serious relationship? I'd feel I was missing out an awful lot not knowing his smell, his touch and so on... And don't think you get to appreciate a person for who they truly are unless you get to see them in all situations in many places, and not just by camera.

Meh, still good on them. I wouldn't want people to think negatively about my relationship, and I'm sure they feel the same and it's been difficult enough for them.


That video was well gay

Like it's nice and all why do you even need to put that **** on youtube

Also, this. I thought a relationship was supposed to be between two people, not the rest of the world. I don't like the whole 'broadcasting' it side of things :/

[JerseySafety]

Oh thats cool. Glad they got together in the end. Shows they can work!

[Fuseless]

I dunno i guess i thought it was sweet coz my girlfriend lives at the moment 417 miles away from me, but i get to see her maybe twice a month at the moment if im lucky, and i think we are quite strong, were both happy and have skype calls almost everyday to stay in touch with each other, ill soon be moving closer to her though as ill be working out there. To be honest i knew the video wouldn't be everyone cup of tea, i think they were just showing to everyone else that they can work, because they are happily living together now. Guess it depends a lot on who you are, whether you become so dependent on that person or if you can wait to see them again.

I just wanted to know everyone's opinions on whether for them personally it would work, or if anyone has been in one in the past and what it was like, as i hadst had very good relationships in the past with girls that lived so close to me.. I just like the fact that when i see her it feels like its been forever and we are always happy, no arguing or anything just happy

[lawrawrrr]

awwwwww i just watched the video where they met!!

they're engaged and everything now how sweet! sometimes it can work. In this day and age with so many online dating websites you're more likely to find a compatible 'mate' online. IMO anyway!!

[Fuseless]

awwwwww i just watched the video where they met!!

Yeah that one is sweet :P

[Absently]

i don't really consider relationships that just stay online to be a long distance relationship, that's what the video seemed to me anyway (until they met yada yada)

for a relationship where one moves away and becomes a long distance relationship, i dunno how i could handle that. it must be so horrible!! especially if one is off to uni, i'd have such trust issues, but that's just me. i don't think for me it would ever work.

welllllllll, i know all about the whole long distance since you've started dating. pasta; and i waited until we met first to begin dating, but it is so hard. i lived in ireland and he lived in england so you either had to get a boat or flight to get to one another. after he went home the first time i think it was about a month before we met again and that was so stressful for me anyway. you get used to being with them all day then they're gone (same applys to the person moving above) after that though, we met every two or less weeks so we were quite lucky there i suppose!! now we live together you just forget about all the time waiting for eachother and dont really care anymore. if i was to do a long-distance relationship again, i don't think i would. they are horrible, especially when you're alone for so long and you just cant hold the person you are with

[Neversoft]

I'm in a long distance relationship and my girlfriend lives over two hundred miles away, we had to go further apart because of university. It's really difficult at times, but it definitely works. It's annoying it's so hard to meet up for just a day, and we can't really just spontaneously go somewhere or do something or see each other, then there's all the extra expense and waiting, but we talk to each other all the time, and we stay with each other when we can, and it just feels all that more special. Though I find there's so many more worries with distance. In fact all of our worries are probably the result of distance; other people, seeing each other, jealously, not being able to be there, etc. I find there's more you have to talk about and make clear, but when you have trust and an understanding you can get over them or deal with it. They also say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and I think that is true. I just feel like I'm longing for her all the time, and being away is very painful. But I would never say it's more pain than pleasure, every relationship has it's ups and downs, and every couple will have their own things to work out. If two people truly love each other, there's no reason why distance can't work.

[wixard]

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[Demi]

The video is awesome, so glad she took her nose ring out though.