Girls who give out their numbers while seeing someone.

[blackops121]

I attend college 4 days a week where I am studying Health, Fitness and Exercise so that I can become a PT in the future. To get to college however I need to get a train every morning. There was a girl I always seen on the same platform, that got the same train. She was pretty damn gorgeous I have to say, also just looked like a nice girl and wouldn't be one of those '******' nice looking girls. Soo... I worked up the courage one day and finally asked her for her number, she had a big smile and said yeah and gave me it, it went well quite obviously since we continued to speak afterwards and spoke on the train. She text me within no time at all, and we had been texting all that night. I obviously wanted her to know I did like her in that way... if the asking of the number wasn't quite obvious enough, hahaha. So I called her beautiful in one of the texts, she replied though saying;

'I feel kind of bad saying this, but I think I probably should tell you because you should probably know, I'm kind of seeing someone right now, but you seem really nice so I want to text you :/'.

I brushed it off with some quirky replies, saying how I can wait because it won't be long until she realised how simply amazing I am ;) Ect. Haha. Since then she has said she has been impressed with some of the things I do, like play guitar and sing, work out, box ect. Quite often she does it in a very flirty way as well.

So anyways, my point is this... What do you think of girls who give our their numbers while 'seeing' someone else? What do you think of my situation? Do you think it's acceptable?

[Lee]

Kind of sounds like she may have originally been leading you on or could have been innocent and is just friendly and gave out her number due to that...

[GoldenMerc]

some girls who give out there numbers while being with guys is okay, as some girls prefer to hang around with guys than girls, but i still think it gives out the wrong impression

[Inseriousity.]

It's only a number lol. They don't just have their boyfriend in their phone!

[blackops121]

Totally understand that. Although in this day and age a guy asking for a girls number does majority of the time mean they are attracted to them and if the girl gives him it usually it means the same back. Let's be honest, not many people would go and ask for someones number straight up because they think 'She looks like she would be a very good friend.'. Or perhaps they do, I can't speak for 7 billion other people, but you get the idea!

[LiquidLuck.]

I agree with Mike. Giving out your phone number isn't asking someone to date you. It's just a new friend you can make so I don't see the problem with it.

Also if the guy is actually attracted to her, doesn't mean he'll stop being just because she has a boyfriend and if she is ''seeing'' someone doesn't have to mean they are in a really serious relationship or I think she'd have said it. They might just be trying to see how things go between them and if things go wrong, at least she gave her number to someone who is interested in her.

I think now it's kind of up to you to decide if you want to carry it on even though you'll have no idea how things will be going with her and her boyfriend, or if you think you're falsely being led on and it's not worth it.

[DPS]

If you want me to be honest.. if you want her get her! dont let her bf or whatever stand in the way lol. go out for what u want.

[e5]

Girls shouldn't really give out their numbers whilst seeing someone, but she may have wanted to see the type of guy you are and so it seemed okay to give you the number, but she should have said she was seeing someone in the first place rather than just being flirty and leading you on

[buttons]

Girls shouldn't really give out their numbers whilst seeing someone, but she may have wanted to see the type of guy you are and so it seemed okay to give you the number, but she should have said she was seeing someone in the first place rather than just being flirty and leading you on
girls can do whatever they want lol just as guys can

tbf you haven't been texting long right? at least she told you BEFORE anything happened with you two. theres also a possibility you took her compliments about being impressed with you as flirting when she was really being friendly.... it happens.
yeah it's acceptable cause she's not a toy and doesn't belong to you or the guy she's seeing.

[blackops121]

I guess it is sort of like keeping all options open, was just wondering what people thought of it :)

[lawrawrrr]

If they want to give it out, fine, they might want a friend yeah. But if she was flirting with you blatantly before telling you, that's not really on. She did admit it though so yeah, can't really say she was only interested in leading you on or whatever.

Would you say it was out of order for a guy to give his number out to another girl when he has a girlfriend?

[Empired]

Probably not what you want to hear and pretty unlikely as well, but it's possible that she wanted to see what you were like so she gave you her number but then didn't really like you. Hope this really isn't the case 'cause you seem like a pretty nice person from what I've read, but it happens unfortunately.. She might not even have a boyfriend :(

Trust me to be the negative one :S

[blackops121]

Probably not what you want to hear and pretty unlikely as well, but it's possible that she wanted to see what you were like so she gave you her number but then didn't really like you. Hope this really isn't the case 'cause you seem like a pretty nice person from what I've read, but it happens unfortunately.. She might not even have a boyfriend :(

Trust me to be the negative one :S


Lmao, that would be gutting on so many levels if true :L!!!!

Also anyways, yeah I don't even know. I'm not sure if I'd give out my number or not if I was seeing someone... I don't really know :S.

[buttons]

Lmao, that would be gutting on so many levels if true :L!!!!

Also anyways, yeah I don't even know. I'm not sure if I'd give out my number or not if I was seeing someone... I don't really know :S.
well if you're only seeing someone it could go either way, really well or badly. if I was her I'd take the number as she's still technically single and now has another option if the other guy goes badly, baring in my mind she's obviously known him before she met you so it's not like she's a player. i'd take an opportunity in case it didn't come again but not if I was in a serious relationship.

[Sian]

if she is literally only "seeing" this guy, it probably is nothing serious as of yet and if you ask me, when it's just seeing it usually means they're figuring out if they like each other but are allowed to do other things, at least she warned you and maybe she's just flirt naturally? So many people are flirty these days accidentally.

[Munex]

Some girls would feel pressured into giving out their number when asked - it's hard to say no and then sit on the same train as them every single day... awkward...

[Glen Coco]

Girls shouldn't really give out their numbers whilst seeing someone, but she may have wanted to see the type of guy you are and so it seemed okay to give you the number, but she should have said she was seeing someone in the first place rather than just being flirty and leading you on

why shouldnt a girl give out her number just because shes 'seeing' someone or already with someone, since when did being with someone mean that a girl can't use her phone?
She did say that she was seeing someone as soon as he said that she was beautiful so why isnt it ok?
she hardly lead him on just by giving him her number.

[blackops121]

I think it all would depend on the seriousness of any relationship though, I know for a fact if I was casually seeing someone or dating them, I probably would give my number out to someone attractive because obviously that chance might not come again. However, if it was a serious relationship I was in I probably wouldn't. Just like what someone above me said.

[e5]

I am just saying, that in my opinion a girl shouldn't give out their number is their intention is to lead someone one when they are going to let them down and say they are seeing someone else. It's unloyal and the same applies to lads. I am speaking from experience here and wouldn't find it appropriate for a girl I was seeing to start giving out their numbers with that intention. Not saying they cant, but I think they should explain the situation before getting flirty.


girls can do whatever they want lol just as guys can

tbf you haven't been texting long right? at least she told you BEFORE anything happened with you two. theres also a possibility you took her compliments about being impressed with you as flirting when she was really being friendly.... it happens.
yeah it's acceptable cause she's not a toy and doesn't belong to you or the guy she's seeing.


why shouldnt a girl give out her number just because shes 'seeing' someone or already with someone, since when did being with someone mean that a girl can't use her phone?
She did say that she was seeing someone as soon as he said that she was beautiful so why isnt it ok?
she hardly lead him on just by giving him her number.

[Grimmauld]

imo, if you are dating someone you shouldnt be giving your number out casually (like in your case), unless you guys were meeting up to like study or something. it could possible that she was just being friendly, but a lot of times that isnt the case. on the bright side, at least she told you before you wasted anymore of your time. no offense, but if she wasnt being friendly in giving her your number, i couldnt help but think if she was willing to do that while dating someone, what are the chances of her doing if it you eventually dated her? would she give someone else her number while being with you, with totally "friendly" intentions? :P

[Gibs960]

I wouldn't be very impressed if I was in your situation but it wasn't as if she actually got intimate with you in any way. I'd guess she's just being friendly because you see her on the train and she enjoyed your company.

[Absently]

tbh, just because she's seeing someone doesn't mean she can't give her number to someone. nothing is wrong with harmless flirting, she could have just thought you were being friendly. a guy and girl can be friends even when one of them is in a relationship, there is nothing wrong with it one bit. just because you're with someone doesn't mean you're tied down to that one person. i'd be happy that she actually told you and didn't lead you on one bit. you're most likely not even her type one bit and she's just making a new friend.

[Kardan]

I'm against this really, I mean, a girl and guy can share phone numbers if they're friends, thats obvious, but in a flirting type of way - no.

[Samantha]

The other week my boyfriend began texting his ex best friend who happened to be a girl again, I knew full well he had feelings for her before we got together (as one of his best friends made a move on her and they began dating) so yes I was a bit annoyed at him. I could tell me was a bit narked off at me for being paranoid because he corrected my spelling and he doesn't listen anyway. I told him straight what will happen (but now I'm swayed that it won't happen after thinking about it) but really I think it's also about trust. My boyfriend did trust me talking to other guys, I messed up and so did he but the trust is still there and we know where the score lies. My boyfriend flirted on Facebook mainly (just like aww I'll hug you) to other girls, not proper flirting etc. but both of ours was down to not being noticed previously (not saying it's an excuse) and then beforehand we'd hardly had anyone as a bf/gf then we got into a relationship. If they're just seeing someone then harmless flirting perhaps is ok as long as both people know that's all it is. When it becomes a bigger thing you know it's gone too far.

[Cerys]

Imo; if a girl gives her number, then great! It doesn't always mean she wants to be with you. Sometimes it's just the fact that she wants to get to know you or whatever.

If a girl gives her number out and starts heavily flirting whilst in a relationship, she's not worth it anyway.

I'm glad she was honest with being with someone, though.

[MKR&*42]

A male and a female have every right to exchange numbers if they wish to do so. An act of giving someone a number does not necessarily equal "Let's progress this to the next level ;)". If it's clear they're trying to get 'involved' with each other when one of them is dating, then it's an issue.

I've never got why some men are so paranoid of seeing a woman give a man her number? Happens all the time in friendships, I don't see why it should encounter a dramatic change at adulthood. Paranoia is only really "necessary" if she's leading him on/flirting/whatever.

[noddy]

To be honest, if she's 'flirtaciously texting' you, then she isn't worth pursuing. She is in a relationship, or at least seeing someone. How would you feel if you two ended up together, then discovered she was text-flirting at length with an unknown male? Women like that can't be trusted, but that's just my take on it