Long Distance/Internet Relationships?

[blackops121]

I was coming home from college one day as I was having a 'deep and meaningful' conversation with my good friend Liam. He was telling me about his girlfriend in America who he hasn't actually met yet but is going to fly over to see her at christmas, he was also saying how they met on Omegle of all places and then added each other on facebook and just became close extremely quickly. It touched me quite a lot to be honest, with the way he was saying he doesn't care what others think unless they have experienced it and that he can't help who he falls for. It was really cute!

But then it got me thinking, I've heard of people meeting over the internet obviously and then being together, I'm sure like a certain percentage of married couples these days have met online and stuff. So where do you draw the line?

Right now I am speaking to a girl who I know in England that I met from Twitter (I live in Scotland), and we've been talking all year and became extremely close as well, you know those 24/7 conversations that just don't get boring? We have that. Now we've agreed that whenever she comes to Scotland and I go to England, because we both have family in each country, as well as the fact I might be moving down to England for good because I want a change of scenery - we said we would meet up whenever we could.

If she lived closer I would ask her to be in a relationship with me in a heartbeat, but because of the distance it would be quite unrealistic for it to work. Yet Liam is making it work with someone who isn't even in the same time zone, they have Skype calls every single day and are happy with that. It makes me think the England/Scotland divide isn't that bad at all... but what do you all think of these type of things?

Do you think relationships that stem from the internet work? What is the longest distance you would be with someone? Ways to make it work?

[scottish]

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=759298&highlight=long+distance+relationship

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=759170&highlight=long+distance+relationship

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=711380&highlight=long+distance+relationship

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=684307&highlight=long+distance+relationship

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=620922&highlight=long+distance+relationship

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=584324&highlight=long+distance+relationship

and so on

http://www.habboxforum.com/search.php

not going to look at every thread to see the specific but most of them are 'do you think they'll work' even debates on it.

[blackops121]

Ah balls did not think about the fact they might have topics about this already!

Allow me to re-phrase my first post briefly then, do you think a Scotland/England divide would work?

[dbgtz]

Depends where in Scotland and where in England.

[blackops121]

Depends where in Scotland and where in England.

Central Scotland and Cheshire.

[Sharon]

ok so i was like "omg" when i saw the thread title as i'm developing an obsession towards long distance relationships

anyway i love the idea of them and i think they sometimes work better than living close to them because you'll appreciate the time together more and wouldn't get to the point where you're seeing each other TOO much. but like i think both people have to really trust each other and know each other well if they're going to take it serious because obviously if there's no trust/commitment then they're both going to be ***** and see other people behind each other's backs etc. basically i love it

we've had enough relationships out of this forum to say i think they do work, but obviously getting too much exposure of your online relationship can put a negative effect on it as proved here too

oh i actually just bothered to read your post (nothing personal to u, just cba reading) and aw no actually omegle isn't bad at all you actually do come across some lovely people (then the small minority who ask you to get your **** out or ask if you want to see their penis but ok) so i can totally understand your friend's feelings and i think that's extremely cute and i wish him the best. and i've spoke to twitter guys before! most are lovely and if i lived closer to some i'd jump at the chance (dan...... to anyone who knows who i'm talking about) but unfortunately i don't and i currently don't have serious enough feelings about anyone to even attempt holding a long distance relationship :P i'd never completely rule it out though, can't help who you fall for right?!?!?!?!

[David]

nope wont work

[Samantha]

Me and my boyfriend were introduced online, it was over a month before we met and 19 months on were doing ok. Yeah we dont live that far apart, 12 miles/20 minutes drive but it's the fact we met online. The first time i met him i was completely nervous and i agree with Sharon; me and him work more as we dont see each other all the time, yeah sometimes I wish things were different but you cherish the time you have together. A Scotland and English divide could work, just needs effort x.

[RyRy]

I think they work if both people are willing to put the effort into making it work. If not, it's destined to fail. So in answer to your question, if she's willing to put her all into it then yeah I don't see why not. It won't be easy though, so you should really consider whether you're happy with the way things are or whether you feel progressing a friendship to a relationship would be best for both of you.

All the best though mate.

PS. Cheshire & Central Scotland isn't that bad at all.

[blackops121]

I think one of the stories I know is that my step-dads mate is quite an overweight guy, not particularly attractive, yet he met this girl online who was a slim, extremely pretty girl - they met and got married not too long after. They fell in love with each other regardless of looks. Just thought I'd share..

Anyways, I guess it isn't that bad.

[dbgtz]

I think one of the stories I know is that my step-dads mate is quite an overweight guy, not particularly attractive, yet he met this girl online who was a slim, extremely pretty girl - they met and got married not too long after. They fell in love with each other regardless of looks. Just thought I'd share..

Anyways, I guess it isn't that bad.

Maybe she's a gold digger..

Either way I think the answer has been said, effort is needed on both ends & remember, what may work for one person may not work for another.

[Cerys]

I've been with someone from the very south of england, whereas im at the very north. This is kinda like the distance you're looking at *depending where in central scotland and cheshire*
Anyway, it took effort and loads of phone calls to make us work. I can say that with the right amount of commitment it can work if you put your mind and heart to it.

The main reason why I'll try avoid edating again is how she ended up 'cheating' on me with someone she actually knows in real. She assumed I'd never find out so it'd be fine.. but I did find out.
So due to this I feel like you can't really trust who you're with due to the complications with edating.

If you see what I mean. :P

But if you do decide to get together, I wish you luck. :)

[Zak]

My relationship stemmed from Facebook, but the girl I met was very local. She lived just down the road in fact. Personally, long distance relationships do nothing for me. It's far too much work but if both participants are willing to a huge commitment like that I don't see why it wouldn't work. I just think it's highly unlikely it will work.

[buttons]

I think one of the stories I know is that my step-dads mate is quite an overweight guy, not particularly attractive, yet he met this girl online who was a slim, extremely pretty girl - they met and got married not too long after. They fell in love with each other regardless of looks. Just thought I'd share..

Anyways, I guess it isn't that bad.
this is going to be me and scottish; x

they OBVIOUSLY DO WORK as you've seen from dating sites, of course they can work but when you're younger it's probably harder as you can't just make decisions to move in together and have a family. eh id rather date someone i met online as there is absolutely no-one even close to my ideal where i live so would have to try further away :p

[Eric]

Yes, any type of relationships work if both love and trust each other, willing to put time and give great effort into their relationship but it could fail too. with the internet and all the dating websites nowadays, i believe long distance internet relationship has become really easy and common but to keep the relationship going communication is important then you will need love, trust and faith in each other. i've never had a internet relationship myself but i know it probably won't work for me.

meet up with her face-to-face, good luck.

[Absently]

I think long-distance relationships are far better than meeting someone locally. On the internet, you basically get to pick and choose who you want, unlike meeting a randomer and falling for them and eventually going out. When you're talking over the internet, you really need to keep the conversation going. This really helps you to get to know the other person (minus those that lie ;)). I don't know if I could handle a distance between America and the UK! It really is all about trust and a lot of it. There's always the thing that when you do meet up you'll actually hate each other, which is so worrying - but I suppose if you get to know each other well enough it most likely won't happen. I think it's very easy to be a different person online though, saying that. You could be the quietest person ever in the world, but yet online do talk quite a lot. It's not exactly lying about yourself, but it is a big difference to what you really are. SAYING ALL THAT THOUGH, long distance is bloody hard, especially when you really want someone and you can't just invite them over as it's impossible, unless you want to wait ages. It really makes you appreciate your partner, knowing that they wont be there just when you want and that you have to wait for them. You just don't take them for granted as you want to make every moment special!! Although, maintaining a long distance relationship is very costly and if you can't afford it, it's very hard to keep and is very frustrating - so unless you can earn the cash you can make it last ;)

[MKR&*42]

Yes they can work if both are willing to commit and eventually meet up with each other IRL. I don't think there's a limit to where 'love' can occur.

[kfc]

My boyfriend lives in Scotland, and we've been together a year in December, (he used to live where I live then moved so yeah it's probably different to your situation) it's complicated and I don't see him often because of 6th form and he has work so I see him around once or twice a month, but we make it work, because we want it to work. So if you want it enough and you're serious about it, then it will work. Yeah, it's hard and takes a lot but if the person means enough to you then you can do it.

[The Don]

I personally don't see the appeal

[iCandy]

If your both willing to put in the time and effort for a relationship, then yes, it will definitely work!(':
But I do think it may be harder..just to keep in touch, ect than in a normal relationship. But if you really like her and think it'sall worth it then go ahead. Good luck!

[wendi]

If you like each other you should at least try to work it, that's better than giving up before even trying , but do think about the fact that she may not be as she is online. And you maybe shouldnt expect something really serious, like marry her.