He said he loves me :|

[Conspiracy.]

Now I think our relationship is going really fast :| Me and my boyfriend have only been together 2 weeks, we have had sex and he told me he's falling in love with me. It's starting to scare me :/ I have feelings for him but I don't "love" him yet. It just seems like we're on a roller coaster right now.

I've never been in a situation like this. I normally fall for guys quickly, not the other way round.

Is this going to quickly? what should I do? :| I like him but I can't love someone after 2 weeks.

[DamienMarj]

Why you sleeping with him so fast woman!

tell this loser you wanna take things slowly, don't see him everyday, have him ring you now and then but dont always be available even though you are? remember this guy probally just lost his virginity to you babes, so make sure his a good boy and listens to you.

[Conspiracy.]

It just kind of happened. He wasn't a virgin btw :P

[DamienMarj]

Wow, just read your previous thread.

let me get this straight, this guy aint a virgin, you was. you lost to him, he telling you HE LOVES YOU aint it meant to be the other way round? you sure are mature for your age. alot of young people these days try to be like the grown-ups but fail.

[Inseriousity.]

falling in love isnt the same as saying 'lets have babies' sounds to me he's on the same level as you maybe slightly ahead but nothing much to worry about imo.

[Conspiracy.]

I don't think sex should really have a stigma attached to it anymore. It's natural and normal, I shouldn't follow society's norms just to "fit in" If I want to have sex I should be able to have sex. We aren't hurting anyone.

This isn't really about sex anyway it's about him telling me he loves me.

It just kind of feels like a manic trip right now.

[Futz]

love is just a word, dont say it back to him until you want to, if you never do I guess you never will

people like to overcomplicate this ****

[DamienMarj]

he is not in love with you and for anybody to say that he is ''falling in love with you'' is ignorant. he is just a child at heart and im sorry you lost your virginity in a stupid way, ive never heard of it ''just happening'' leave him, you're find more casual with someone else. if i was with someone who was a virgin, i wouldnt just let it happen. it'd have to be about 4-5 months of being with them. i have more repect like that you see.

[buttons]

yeah i'd be worried, don't want to be the man hating feminist (ok i do a bit) but I see this happen all the time!! even kiss a guy and they suddenly think they own you. they go on about psycho, clingy girls when they seem to 'fall in love' way quicker than girls do. like I say it's probably not love but thinking he owns you especially as its only 2 weeks, how did you react to his declaration and how did he react to your reaction? Kinda makes sense for a guy to fall quicker than a girl though as generally guys can just move on to the next girl whereas girls have to be choosier if we take this from an evolutionary view point. anyway I don't think there's anything at all positive from a guy telling u he loves you at 2 weeks but ive heard of people knowing someone is the one for them after the first hour or whatever but generally people keep that to themselves.. Take it as you will BUT DO NOT LEAD HIM ON (altho hell say u did anyway ok no don't listen to me

[Inseriousity.]

wow jen has someone ripped your heart out and stuck it in a box? :P
going to scare the poor girl half to death! Don't know much about the guy so seems a bit premature to jump to these big assumptions. he might just be a big softie!

[DamienMarj]

yeah i'd be worried, don't want to be the man hating feminist (ok i do a bit) but I see this happen all the time!! even kiss a guy and they suddenly think they own you. they go on about psycho, clingy girls when they seem to 'fall in love' way quicker than girls do. like I say it's probably not love but thinking he owns you especially as its only 2 weeks, how did you react to his declaration and how did he react to your reaction? Kinda makes sense for a guy to fall quicker than a girl though as generally guys can just move on to the next girl whereas girls have to be choosier if we take this from an evolutionary view point. anyway I don't think there's anything at all positive from a guy telling u he loves you at 2 weeks but ive heard of people knowing someone is the one for them after the first hour or whatever but generally people keep that to themselves.. Take it as you will BUT DO NOT LEAD HIM ON (altho hell say u did anyway ok no don't listen to me

baring in mind this guy has influenced her into losing her virginity with him. you can tell right away he had it planned all along. you cant just say ''it just happened'' after two weeks, that'd be like going into the big brother house a virgin, getting along with someone for two weeks, and then ''it just happening'' unfortunately it doesn't happen like that. he must have pushed it for it to go that way.

And also buttons is right, your probally gonna end up with someone who is very clingy, controlling and for you to worry about what he is saying you must be very uncomfortable to hear it. tell him, then tell him to get lost. what a loser.

[Futz]

this thread is full of two extremes lmfao

[DamienMarj]

wow jen has someone ripped your heart out and stuck it in a box? :P
going to scare the poor girl half to death! Don't know much about the guy so seems a bit premature to jump to these big assumptions. he might just be a big softie!

I've no idea what banana boat you come off from, but if anything you seem like your the guy she is talking about. LOSER.

[Conspiracy.]

But I do like him :/ He is the best thing that has happened to me in a while. I'm just scared it's going too quick that's all. He hasn't done anything wrong, I'm not going to leave him for caring for me :/

[Sian]

just let him know that you care but would feel more comfortable taking things a bit slower and just having fun so to speak (the relationship fun of course).

[buttons]

But I do like him :/ He is the best thing that has happened to me in a while. I'm just scared it's going too quick that's all. He hasn't done anything wrong, I'm not going to leave him for caring for me :/
how long have u known him since before going out this 2 weeks? how long were you close before being officially together? I guess it would be different if you've known each other a while :p

[Rozi]

just let him know that you care but would feel more comfortable taking things a bit slower and just having fun so to speak (the relationship fun of course).

Yeah this, communicate with him, if you're seeing him everyday then try to see him a bit less

Just out of interest, how old are you?

[Inseriousity.]

I've no idea what banana boat you come off from, but if anything you seem like your the guy she is talking about. LOSER.

Lol if you knew me you'd realise how stupid you sound.

[FlyingJesus]

May just be that he isn't that good at expressing things in a non-scary way, sounds to me like the initial hyperlust where you've met someone new and it's all kicking off and everything seems perfect and wonderful without really knowing them all that well. I imagine he hopes that it's love and because he's in this state of emotion is probably trying to make himself believe that it is, and at a guess it's just an inexperience thing. It's nearly always the case that one falls harder than the other at first so if you do like him stick at it, but do let him know if it starts getting annoying.

[The Don]

I can't believe some of the responses I've read. If you think somebody has malicious intent from saying "I love you" then you must have some trust issues.

People take relationships at different paces and love is subjective so what he sees as 'love' might not necessarily be how you would define it. You're probably worried because the relationship seems to be moving quite fast and in general terms two weeks is pretty quick for somebody to fall in love. Don't rush into it and say it back just because you feel obliged to otherwise you're giving him false pretences.

I sincerely doubt he planned it out in any particular way to make you his 'object' unless he's a sociopath (which I very much doubt).

[Teabags]

baring in mind this guy has influenced her into losing her virginity with him. you can tell right away he had it planned all along. you cant just say ''it just happened'' after two weeks, that'd be like going into the big brother house a virgin, getting along with someone for two weeks, and then ''it just happening'' unfortunately it doesn't happen like that. he must have pushed it for it to go that way.

And also buttons is right, your probally gonna end up with someone who is very clingy, controlling and for you to worry about what he is saying you must be very uncomfortable to hear it. tell him, then tell him to get lost. what a loser.
I can't see why you really don't like this guy? You're really aggressive and all he has done is said that he's falling for her a little.
It does not mean anything like he's totally manipulative and he's had some kind of master plan all along. If anything, it proves he's not in a relationship for sexual gratification at all.

You seem to have an aura of 'bible bashing' about you but against sex. It's okay to say that you love someone, it's not taboo.

[RyRy]

He's probably not falling in love with you, its infatuation! Easy mistake to make.

[Empired]

Why are people shouting about this guy being evil?? All he said was 'I love you'!! The word Love means different things to everyone. Everyone says OMG I LOVE THIS GAME all the time. Does that tie you to the game for life?? Obviously not.

If you like this guy, stick with it. Go at your own pace and let him go at his. If something's troubling you, tell him. If he genuinely does love you, he'll want to sort it out.

[Catchy]

You should really talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication is key.

[lawrawrrr]

Only read half the thread before I got annoyed at the replies. It's ridiculous to try and label him with 'other guys' because he is his own person. About the virginity thing, I support you exactly when you say it's your choice - who cares how long you've been with someone? If you're ready, you're ready.

Anyway for the love thing, a lot of people do prematurely say it. Don't feel pressured into saying it back, if he confronts you and asks WHY you aren't saying it back, just say "I don't feel ready to say something like that yet", because if he really does (think he) loves you then he won't mind and will wait. Although I do agree 2 weeks is a very short time to fall in love, I do think it's possible, but it's probably more likely he is infatuated, an emotion a lot of people confuse with love (not that it can't develop into love, most times I believe it does).

[DamienMarj]

Lol if you knew me you'd realise how stupid you sound.

I guess I do in a way, I apologize

[Glen Coco]

he is not in love with you and for anybody to say that he is ''falling in love with you'' is ignorant. he is just a child at heart and im sorry you lost your virginity in a stupid way, ive never heard of it ''just happening'' leave him, you're find more casual with someone else. if i was with someone who was a virgin, i wouldnt just let it happen. it'd have to be about 4-5 months of being with them. i have more repect like that you see.

who the hell are you to judge her.

[Conspiracy.]

I'm 21 and he's 22. I kind of knew him in school. We have been talking/hanging out properly about 3/4 weeks before getting together.

[RyRy]

I'm 21 and he's 22. I kind of knew him in school. We have been talking/hanging out properly about 3/4 weeks before getting together.

Have you spoken to him since you've heard all this, and is he still saying he loves you? I mean has he said it again in conversation since he last said it?

[Charz777]

I personally find it hard to see why anyone would have sex after 2 weeks. But that's just my opinion and I'm not here to judge. As for 'I love you,' just no. Pah, it makes me laugh. You cannot love someone after two weeks. You hardly know a person in two weeks. Does this guy know what love is? When you adore almost everything about them and you accept and cherish the differences? Where you have complete and utter trust and understanding? Where they are the most important thing in your life? I could go on but all I have to say is this guy doesn't love you, he has no idea what love is by the sounds. He's obviously saying it because he got in your pants and wants to keep it that way.

[DamienMarj]

I personally find it hard to see why anyone would have sex after 2 weeks. But that's just my opinion and I'm not here to judge. As for 'I love you,' just no. Pah, it makes me laugh. You cannot love someone after two weeks. You hardly know a person in two weeks. Does this guy know what love is? When you adore almost everything about them and you accept and cherish the differences? Where you have complete and utter trust and understanding? Where they are the most important thing in your life? I could go on but all I have to say is this guy doesn't love you, he has no idea what love is by the sounds. He's obviously saying it because he got in your pants and wants to keep it that way.

Finally somebody with sense, do you understand how many -reputations and abuse on the comments I got by people who do not believe in peoples opinions.

[Charz777]

Finally somebody with sense, do you understand how many -reputations and abuse on the comments I got by people who do not believe in peoples opinions.

I'd have thought it was common sense, and it's not like she's a teenager.

You're 21? How can you not see what game he's playing. If you continue in this relationship it will never be balanced. He has got himself all the power and control now. You let him sleep with you after two weeks and now he thinks he owns you. He's clingy and protective because he wants you for himself and he's misinterpreting that as 'love'. Before long you won't have a life of your own because he will run it completely.

[Conspiracy.]

Are you serious? You've never met him, you have no idea what he's like. If he starts getting manipulative and over-bearing I will leave him, right now he isn't so I don't see the problem.

I'm allowed to have sex with who I want -____- If I want to have sex with 50 guys at once I should be able to. I'm 21, not 12. Sex means different things to different people.

he doesn't "own" me just because we had sex, nobody owns me.

[Glen Coco]

Finally somebody with sense, do you understand how many -reputations and abuse on the comments I got by people who do not believe in peoples opinions.

no, everyone believes that others have opinions but rather than sticking on the subject of the thread all you've done is been aggressive towards the lad.
yes they've slept together, so what? it's not victorian times. i'm sure she's old enough to decide for herself what she wants to do. at the end of the day, sex isn't a big deal anymore; it's sticking something in a hole, woodedoo.

Anyway on topic; maybe he does love you, love means different things to different people and trying to define what 'love' means is impossible as the same definition isn't the same for everyone.
if you don't feel that you love him, don't feel that you need to say it back and if you feel that things are moving too quickly, tell him you'd be more comfortable moving at a slower pace :)

[Conspiracy.]

Thanks :) nice to see another person here who's open-minded. My parents even like him so their opinion is more valid to me (because, y'know, they've actually met him) than someone who hasn't met him. Losing your virginity at 21 to your boyfriend where I live is worth a medal -____-

My mum even said she prefers him to my sister's boyfriend.

I thought I loved my ex boyfriend but that was infatuation, maybe it's the same with him to me.

[Inseriousity.]

Are you serious? You've never met him, you have no idea what he's like. If he starts getting manipulative and over-bearing I will leave him, right now he isn't so I don't see the problem.

I'm allowed to have sex with who I want -____- If I want to have sex with 50 guys at once I should be able to. I'm 21, not 12. Sex means different things to different people.

he doesn't "own" me just because we had sex, nobody owns me.

:O 50 guys? if you ever do, here's my card ;) -makes the 'call me' gesture-
No you're right so good luck to you both! :)

[buttons]

Thanks :) nice to see another person here who's open-minded. My parents even like him so their opinion is more valid to me (because, y'know, they've actually met him) than someone who hasn't met him. Losing your virginity at 21 to your boyfriend where I live is worth a medal -____-

My mum even said she prefers him to my sister's boyfriend.

I thought I loved my ex boyfriend but that was infatuation, maybe it's the same with him to me.
well go ask their opinion instead of ours :s yeah u know him better than us, we're all making obersvations and guesses over our own experiences and beliefs with this limited information. if he's so great then that's good, common sense advice is tell him you think he's going too quick, you like him but don't want to get too serious yet. Damien has a point, you might think its just sex but you still should make it clear what you think of the relationship and where it's going before ******** at him for falling in love with you, it might mean more to him than it does to you. it's not good to lead him on, tell him you're not at that point yet. Infatuation can be dangerous so don't put off other views like mine and charz off when it can be true...

[Zak]

baring in mind this guy has influenced her into losing her virginity with him. you can tell right away he had it planned all along. you cant just say ''it just happened'' after two weeks, that'd be like going into the big brother house a virgin, getting along with someone for two weeks, and then ''it just happening'' unfortunately it doesn't happen like that. he must have pushed it for it to go that way.

I can kind of relate to using a few people just for a bump. Some men do plan it, though I don't mention stuff :P Like "I loveee yu" that's just harsh.. but anyway that was in the past.

She is 21 though and he is even older.. by this stage these things don't seem to happen anymore.. though you never know you could be right!


But I do like him :/ He is the best thing that has happened to me in a while. I'm just scared it's going too quick that's all. He hasn't done anything wrong, I'm not going to leave him for caring for me :/

He sounds like a nice guy, there are loads out there. If he makes you happy then go for it :) Keep us informed on how it's going as well :)


You should really talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication is key.

YES agree with this comment so much.


Only read half the thread before I got annoyed at the replies. It's ridiculous to try and label him with 'other guys' because he is his own person. About the virginity thing, I support you exactly when you say it's your choice - who cares how long you've been with someone? If you're ready, you're ready.

Anyway for the love thing, a lot of people do prematurely say it. Don't feel pressured into saying it back, if he confronts you and asks WHY you aren't saying it back, just say "I don't feel ready to say something like that yet", because if he really does (think he) loves you then he won't mind and will wait. Although I do agree 2 weeks is a very short time to fall in love, I do think it's possible, but it's probably more likely he is infatuated, an emotion a lot of people confuse with love (not that it can't develop into love, most times I believe it does).

I agree with laura in thinking 2 weeks is a very short amount of time to fall in love. Her comment is really good though and I totally agree with what she has said.

[Kardan]

:O 50 guys? if you ever do, here's my card ;) -makes the 'call me' gesture-
No you're right so good luck to you both! :)

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Also, this thread is pointless if you can't accept people's opinions that don't agree with yours. We don't have to meet your boyfriend to be able to give advice, many men take advantage of people like yourself. I personally think that having sex two weeks into a relationship is a bad idea.

[Samantha]

Not taking sides but just taking my views here, I believe that say sex in this case can just happen. It happened with me but we weren't virgins or anything, we were safe and both of us didn't want to go too fast; we were well over the 2 week period though but it's obviously upto you when you're ready. Don't feel pressured or anything into saying you love him, in the relationship I'm in now we were both to say it even over a text message as I'd just come out of a long term relationship and he'd said it before and that didn't end well. At the moment we do say it to each other but it's more 'love you' in a 'I might do something wrong or upset/make you mad but saying I love you will make it all ok' like an innocent way. We spoke yesterday (which is key for you two I believe) and I told him that I felt as though I did love him but I can't exactly at the moment due to my ex still badgering me and I love him as both a best friend but still can see my life with him. Anyway, what I'm saying is, me and my boyfriend have an understanding, if anyone is moving too quickly we'll tell them; I did it when he got a little carried away and he was fine with it, our relationship didn't suffer and really it made it much better. Last night we just cuddled, talked, things like that and that's what we love the most; I think you're right in waiting to say you love him, you need time and I don't know him personally but if he does feel like that, properly and not infactuation he'd wait a lifetime for you.

[Teabags]

Finally somebody with sense, do you understand how many -reputations and abuse on the comments I got by people who do not believe in peoples opinions.


Why you sleeping with him so fast woman!
don't you have kids already?

[Zak]

Not taking sides but just taking my views here, I believe that say sex in this case can just happen. It happened with me but we weren't virgins or anything, we were safe and both of us didn't want to go too fast; we were well over the 2 week period though but it's obviously upto you when you're ready.

*****. ;) lol


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Also, this thread is pointless if you can't accept people's opinions that don't agree with yours. We don't have to meet your boyfriend to be able to give advice, many men take advantage of people like yourself. I personally think that having sex two weeks into a relationship is a bad idea.

Once again agree with everything Kardan has said.. I hate people who -rep for simply stating their opinion :P

[DamienMarj]

*****. ;) lol



Once again agree with everything Kardan has said.. I hate people who -rep for simply stating their opinion :P

Well I've even just got a -rep saying ''You've probally never touched drugs'' when I said I'd rather smoke cannabis then cigarettes in a quit smoking thread :/ some children on here obviously need to understand we live in the 21st century, not Habbo hotel.

And the views and opinions on this thread has just been opposed but the whole idea of the thread was for an opinion.

[Samantha]

*****. ;) lol



Once again agree with everything Kardan has said.. I hate people who -rep for simply stating their opinion :P

You didn't complain last night ;).

Anyway, yeah if you don't want to say it yet, you shouldn't have to. Maybe he felt he needed to? Knowing he took your virginity and everything?

[Zak]

Well I've even just got a -rep saying ''You've probally never touched drugs'' when I said I'd rather smoke cannabis then cigarettes in a quit smoking thread :/ some children on here obviously need to understand we live in the 21st century, not Habbo hotel.

And the views and opinions on this thread has just been opposed but the whole idea of the thread was for an opinion.

Yeh don't worry I get it too :P

I'd rather smoke cannabis too, it's a lot better for you than tobacco.. and alcohol :P Though I don't smoke at all :P

People grow up from different backgrounds though, they're bound to have different opinions on things :D

[Glen Coco]

Well I've even just got a -rep saying ''You've probally never touched drugs'' when I said I'd rather smoke cannabis then cigarettes in a quit smoking thread :/ some children on here obviously need to understand we live in the 21st century, not Habbo hotel.

And the views and opinions on this thread has just been opposed but the whole idea of the thread was for an opinion.
funny that you state that we live in the '21st century' but you're slating her for having sex... wow.

[DamienMarj]

Funny how you think just because its the 21st Century and your trying to say sex is a norm between young people. what are you, some kind of cheap *****?

[FlyingJesus]

Sex is a norm, nothing to do with being cheap. 2 weeks sounds like ages tbh, pretty sure these days most people get it on before they're even official - I know that's been the way with me for all mine except for one, and it doesn't make anyone involved a bad person in any way

[Glen Coco]

why isn't sex normal? they're 21 & 22, not 12 & 13.
yes i'm clearly a massive **** because i believe that people have a say in something that isn't a big taboo. i think it's a bit rich for you to judge people when you're trying to look 'hard' for smoking weed when you've got a young kid to be honest.

[DamienMarj]

why isn't sex normal? they're 21 & 22, not 12 & 13.
yes i'm clearly a massive **** because i believe that people have a say in something that isn't a big taboo. i think it's a bit rich for you to judge people when you're trying to look 'hard' for smoking weed when you've got a young kid to be honest.

I'm trying to look ''Hard'' because I expressed that I'd rather smoke cannabis then cigarettes? Now tell me in that sentence where does it state that I'm trying to say that I'm ''Hard'' I'm 20 years old, not 14.


Sex is a norm, nothing to do with being cheap. 2 weeks sounds like ages tbh, pretty sure these days most people get it on before they're even official - I know that's been the way with me for all mine except for one, and it doesn't make anyone involved a bad person in any way

I'm not saying that sex isn't norm, its the most natural act in the world, but when it comes to a virgin, it should be a little more mature then just having sex after two weeks and 3-4 weeks of knowing them. Theres been girls I've slept with after knowing them for two hours but their not virgins

[Glen Coco]

I'm trying to look ''Hard'' because I expressed that I'd rather smoke cannabis then cigarettes? Now tell me in that sentence where does it state that I'm trying to say that I'm ''Hard'' I'm 20 years old, not 14.



I'm not saying that sex isn't norm, its the most natural act in the world, but when it comes to a virgin, it should be a little more mature then just having sex after two weeks and 3-4 weeks of knowing them. Theres been girls I've slept with after knowing them for two hours but their not virgins



OH SO IT'S OK FOR YOU TO SLEEP WITH GIRL AFTER 2 HOURS AND HAVE A KID AT 20 BUT SHE CAN'T LOSE HER VIRGINITY WHEN SHE WISHES TO?
ok, i understand now.

[FlyingJesus]

Virginity means literally nothing in real terms, it's just got a stigma about it because of outdated social roles from a time before contraception. That aside, most people have been sexually active in some way long before PiV sex (if they're straight). Oral sex, manual sex, anal sex, and wherever else you might put bits of each other are still sex, hence the name, the only link between PiV and "purity" of any kind is the risk of pregnancy which in the educated First World these days shouldn't be a huge issue

[DamienMarj]

OH SO IT'S OK FOR YOU TO SLEEP WITH GIRL AFTER 2 HOURS AND HAVE A KID AT 20 BUT SHE CAN'T LOSE HER VIRGINITY WHEN SHE WISHES TO?
ok, i understand now.

I work for my child and partner to eat every night. When I am working I am away from home even up to two weeks to make sure my family have the nice things in life! And the circuimstances are ALOT different from someone telling someone they love eachother after 6 weeks of knowing them, two weeks of a relationship. ive known my partner since I was 6, been with her for three years but you could say ive been with her for 5 years!

[Glen Coco]

I work for my child and partner to eat every night. When I am working I am away from home even up to two weeks to make sure my family have the nice things in life! And the circuimstances are ALOT different from someone telling someone they love eachother after 6 weeks of knowing them, two weeks of a relationship. ive known my partner since I was 6, been with her for three years but you could say ive been with her for 5 years!

she's old enough to do what she wants, she's older than you and only just lost her virginity yet you're trying to judge her. you have no right. she wanted advice on what to do but all you've done is slate him and her for decisions that can't be changed and are perfectly normal in today's society.
can i just add that you say that you've been with your partner for 3 years (or 5 ) which would make you 15/17 years old. you then say you've slept with girl after 2 hours. so are you saying you cheated on her or you lost your virginity at a young age?

[Zak]

She has the right to do what she wants with her body but he is entitled to his opinion

[Charz777]

But I do like him :/ He is the best thing that has happened to me in a while. I'm just scared it's going too quick that's all. He hasn't done anything wrong, I'm not going to leave him for caring for me :/

Your reaction to people's opinions shows a serious lack of maturity. If you don't want to get the response you don't want to hear, then simply don't ask... As for thinking he's 'the best thing that's happened to you in a while' after just two weeks. Well, that just adds emphasis to the immaturity if you ask me.


Funny how you think just because its the 21st Century and your trying to say sex is a norm between young people. what are you, some kind of cheap *****?

This ^^ People who want to jump right into bed for whatever reasons (Whether they think they're in love, or they want to be well-liked or they're just a *REMOVED*) always say that 'Hey, it's the 21st century, stop living in the past! Blah blah, I'm free to sleep with who I want.' Well, yes, you are, but that doesn't make it morally right. And yes, that's just my opinion but it just makes the person look cheap. So, too bad on them I guess. That's the consequence of jumping into the sack after 14 days.

It isn't the norm to just sleep with people. Try getting to know the person first, which fyi isn't something that happens in a matter of weeks.

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[Glen Coco]

Your reaction to people's opinions shows a serious lack of maturity. If you don't want to get the response you don't want to hear, then simply don't ask... As for thinking he's 'the best thing that's happened to you in a while' after just two weeks. Well, that just adds emphasis to the immaturity if you ask me.



This ^^ People who want to jump right into bed for whatever reasons (Whether they think they're in love, or they want to be well-liked or they're just a *REMOVED*) always say that 'Hey, it's the 21st century, stop living in the past! Blah blah, I'm free to sleep with who I want.' Well, yes, you are, but that doesn't make it morally right. And yes, that's just my opinion but it just makes the person look cheap. So, too bad on them I guess. That's the consequence of jumping into the sack after 14 days.

It isn't the norm to just sleep with people. Try getting to know the person first, which fyi isn't something that happens in a matter of weeks.

i understand what you're saying but, sadly, it ha become a norm to have sex early on in relationships and 2 weeks now adays is actually quite a long time for some; yet this doesn't automatically make someone 'cheap' or a '****'.
personally, i wouldn't, i waited 4 months with my boyfriend (we were both virgins so that may have made a difference) but i think it's a lot different if both partys aren't virgins.
i think it's wrong trying to completely blame the lad though, if she didn't want to have sex with him then he most likely would have mentioned it and if it was consensual who is anyone to judge? they arent harming anyone else

[Charz777]

i understand what you're saying but, sadly, it ha become a norm to have sex early on in relationships and 2 weeks now adays is actually quite a long time for some; yet this doesn't automatically make someone 'cheap' or a '****'.
personally, i wouldn't, i waited 4 months with my boyfriend (we were both virgins so that may have made a difference) but i think it's a lot different if both partys aren't virgins.
i think it's wrong trying to completely blame the lad though, if she didn't want to have sex with him then he most likely would have mentioned it and if it was consensual who is anyone to judge? they arent harming anyone else

No, they aren't harming anyone. But I get the impression that they are being very immature about the entire thing. She 'gave up' her virginity to someone she was with for 2 weeks! Me and my boyfriend waited 9 months (but, as you say, probably different when you are both virgins as we were). However, if there is someone who isn't a virgin, he likely led her into it, because anyone who is a virgin will be hesitant at their first time, and especially considering she hardly knows this guy. Again, back to maturity and her main question, to think that he loves her is beyond immature. It sounds like a nice line to keep her in the sack.

[Glen Coco]

No, they aren't harming anyone. But I get the impression that they are being very immature about the entire thing. She 'gave up' her virginity to someone she was with for 2 weeks! Me and my boyfriend waited 9 months (but, as you say, probably different when you are both virgins as we were). However, if there is someone who isn't a virgin, he likely led her into it, because anyone who is a virgin will be hesitant at their first time, and especially considering she hardly knows this guy. Again, back to maturity and her main question, to think that he loves her is beyond immature. It sounds like a nice line to keep her in the sack.

but from another view, he may actually believe that he does love her. when someone has never felt 'love' before it can be hard to recognise that with just liking someone a lot. without her going into detail about her sex life and relationship, and probably with that information, it's impossible to judge accurately

[Samantha]

I work for my child and partner to eat every night. When I am working I am away from home even up to two weeks to make sure my family have the nice things in life! And the circuimstances are ALOT different from someone telling someone they love eachother after 6 weeks of knowing them, two weeks of a relationship. ive known my partner since I was 6, been with her for three years but you could say ive been with her for 5 years!

I thought she knew him longer than 6 weeks? Unless you don't mean her.

Also, before your long relationship did you have many girlfriends as if you didn't how would you know what girls want? I agree with Glen Coco; with the age thing, 21 is great compared to some people and I remember in my maths class when I was about 15, only 6 out of what 20 of us were virgins? Society has changed.

[Zak]

If this solves any arguments Laura made me wait 2 months before we had sex.. we talked to each other for about 2 months before we even met up too.. but yeah 2 months since we first met.

She was a virgin at the time. She did it to see if I would stick around I guess, it worked obviously lol

edit: yeh just to add I wasn't a virgin at the end either

[Kardan]

If this solves any arguments Laura made me wait 2 months before we had sex.. we talked to each other for about 2 months before we even met up too.. but yeah 2 months since we first met.

She was a virgin at the time. She did it to see if I would stick around I guess, it worked obviously lol

edit: yeh just to add I wasn't a virgin at the end either
laura;?

Wow, I thought it was only RyRy; and xxMATTGxx;

I'm slow...

[xxMATTGxx]

laura;?

Wow, I thought it was only RyRy; and xxMATTGxx;

I'm slow...

Different Laura.

[DamienMarj]

she's old enough to do what she wants, she's older than you and only just lost her virginity yet you're trying to judge her. you have no right. she wanted advice on what to do but all you've done is slate him and her for decisions that can't be changed and are perfectly normal in today's society.
can i just add that you say that you've been with your partner for 3 years (or 5 ) which would make you 15/17 years old. you then say you've slept with girl after 2 hours. so are you saying you cheated on her or you lost your virginity at a young age?
We split up for about 3 months in the middle of our relationship when I lost my dad because I suffered from depression, paranoia and anxiety problems, the girl in question was simply a mistake.

[Glen Coco]

We split up for about 3 months in the middle of our relationship when I lost my dad because I suffered from depression, paranoia and anxiety problems, the girl in question was simply a mistake.

you know what causes paranoia... weed.

i don't get it, you're saying that it was ok for you because you waited with said girlfriend, but then you met someone and after 2 hours had sex with them (how would you even know if they were a virgin or not after 2 hours!) and that's ok but for a 21 year old to have sex with someone who she's been speaking to for 6 weeks it's wrong?

[Kardan]

Different Laura.

Ahh, didn't think I was right :) Apologies :)

[Matthew]

Ahh, didn't think I was right :) Apologies :)

yeah its Shoe; I think? :P

[lawrawrrr]

@laura (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=61966);?

Wow, I thought it was only @RyRy (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=81175); and @xxMATTGxx (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=1020);

I'm slow...


No, @Shoe (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=77507); - we have the same name, it's quite common ;)

note to self... read other replies before replying yourself (sorry for telling you for the 4th time lmao)

[Kardan]

No, @Shoe (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=77507); - we have the same name, it's quite common ;)

note to self... read other replies before replying yourself (sorry for telling you for the 4th time lmao)

It's because your username is Laura, I think of you before any other Laura :P

And I can't see anywhere else in this thread where he says which Laura he is talking about :P

[lawrawrrr]

It's because your username is Laura, I think of you before any other Laura :P

And I can't see anywhere else in this thread where he says which Laura he is talking about :P

You wouldn't be the first person to think it's me, but this has come up multiple times before :( :( i get enough schtick for dating guys off here!! :'(

[Teabags]

We split up for about 3 months in the middle of our relationship when I lost my dad because I suffered from depression, paranoia and anxiety problems, the girl in question was simply a mistake.
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[Sian]

by the way, a **** / ***** etc is someone who is sexually promiscuous, it's not promiscuous to have sex quickly into a relationship.

If you feel comfortable with having sex when it actually happens, then there's no problem and no harm done. Fair enough if you're opinion is that you don't think you should have sex that quickly, but don't slate people who do.