Bullying

[Absently]

Just curious as to whether anyone has ever been bullied, bullied someone or saw someone being bullied.

I can honestly say yeah, I've been bullied a few times. The time that sticks out to me most is when I was in primary school. A girl made a page relating to us on Bebo (lol) just to target us and say rude things about us. Turned into something really big so that our school got involved (when really they shouldn't have as it was outside school).

I can say I've bullied someone too, not the upfront type bullying though (but I've probably done that too without noticing). A friend and I went to a lot of effort to write mean notes about another girl, she found them and was really upset about them, as you would be. Funnily enough now, the same girl we were so mean to is one of our best friends now and she forgives us both for what we did. As harsh as it sounds, I'm sure a lot of people have done similar things and not realised they were being a bully.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure I've saw someone being bullied, but I don't really think the person at the time knew they were being a bully. I'm pretty sure they didn't set out to do it, but they did really hurt the person even if they didn't say it out loud.

I've made a poll so if you're not comfortable admitting to if you've been bullied, been a bully or have seen someone being bullied.

[Aiden]

i've bullied people, been bullied and seen LOADS of people be bullied. I got bullied for being gay... seen people being bullied because of issues at home, money, mental issues, friends etc. :( School sucks.

[lawrawrrr]

I've been bullied for almost everything under the sun, and seen lots of people be bullied too. I can't say I've explicitly bullied someone before, the worst I've done is laugh along or not intervene when someone else was being bullied in front of me.

[buttons]

see i think it's interesting you say; "I've made a poll so if you're not comfortable admitting to if you've been bullied, been a bully or have seen someone being bullied.". I used to be reluctant to admit i had been bullied before because it was something you had to be ashamed of? i don't think being bullied is something to be ashamed of. i have been bullied yes and i wouldn't say i'm the stereotypical bully victim. + it's not like i'm someone who deserves to be bullied either? i guess most bully victims aren't. they're victims because they won't stand up for themselves... and that used to be me to a T.

anyway i was bullied by my brother badly since i was about 7 year old and not in a harmless sibling rivalry. it was more abusive like when no-one was around he'd tell me i was a loser, that all my friends hated me and would encourage others to bully me at school. + when we were older it was blackmail, physical abuse and more verbal abuse yaddy ya. when i was in high school i REALLY don't know why i was picked on, generally boys gave me nicknames for being 'anorexic' (i wasn't and never have been). in gymnastics i was moved up a level so i didn't have my own group of friends in there and i was the coaches pet so i was bullied due to jealousy lol i had my clothes put under the shower, shoes stolen, forced to take away the gym equipment, shoved out of line for air track etc. i remember being asked if i wanted to be class rep by a group of girls and i said definitely not so they all voted me. i was alwaaaayyyyys picked on and i dont even know why other than being short and weak and quiet. really though, i think as with most bullying, it was more to do with the type of person THEY were, not me. But yeah one point it was so bad, sly digs picking me to do stuff etc that I stopped going to classes for weeks at a time.

then i started using the internet more but noooo, still bullying. hxf msn convos were the worst. adding everyone in and picking on their flaws but i got in with one certain crew (lol) so i learned to stick up for myself and try to impress them by bullying others. such a huge mistake. even to this day i have people from this forum writing on my ask.fm about things i've been made fun of YEARS AGO (i know who you are and you know who you are...) but i don't find that bullying anymore as it doesn't affect me now. so good luck using any of this against me and if you do, thanks for reading this far ;). i was friends with those people too and i honestly don't know why. i grew out of bullying pretty quickly.


im not ashamed to be a bully victim actually... im ashamed that at one point i have bullied or at least made fun of someone... + i know to never, ever do that again. and it makes me sick that people still do this even at the age i'm at :S it's not hard to have empathy, is it? isn't it more rewarding to help a bully victim rather than be a bully yourself? probably for people who have never been through it it's easy to do, you can go home at the end of the day forgetting about it, not knowing who you've harmed or even caring about it. so i guess even though i've been bullied i'm not ashamed and i like who i am because of it so whatever. if i have kids i will deffo teach them to be stronger than i was, my little cousin is bullied now and i want to rip their heads off. kids are EVIL.

why is it always me doing the essay. im procrastinating.

[Kardan]

Well, I've been bullied countless times over the years for being intelligent and ginger. Got bullied in Year 7 by some guys throwing rocks at me, in Year 8 some guy threw a 2p at my head and cracked my head open and in Year 12, some Year 13s decided to create a facebook group to get me and my girlfriend banned from the sixth form common room for being ugly. Had about 190 people signed up (including teachers) by the time it got taken down. So yeah, I'm used to it, doesn't phase me anymore...

[Absently]

see i think it's interesting you say; "I've made a poll so if you're not comfortable admitting to if you've been bullied, been a bully or have seen someone being bullied.". I used to be reluctant to admit i had been bullied before because it was something you had to be ashamed of? i don't think being bullied is something to be ashamed of. i have been bullied yes and i wouldn't say i'm the stereotypical bully victim. + it's not like i'm someone who deserves to be bullied either? i guess most bully victims aren't. they're victims because they won't stand up for themselves... and that used to be me to a T.

anyway i was bullied by my brother badly since i was about 7 year old and not in a harmless sibling rivalry. it was more abusive like when no-one was around he'd tell me i was a loser, that all my friends hated me and would encourage others to bully me at school. + when we were older it was blackmail, physical abuse and more verbal abuse yaddy ya. when i was in high school i REALLY don't know why i was picked on, generally boys gave me nicknames for being 'anorexic' (i wasn't and never have been). in gymnastics i was moved up a level so i didn't have my own group of friends in there and i was the coaches pet so i was bullied due to jealousy lol i had my clothes put under the shower, shoes stolen, forced to take away the gym equipment, shoved out of line for air track etc. i remember being asked if i wanted to be class rep by a group of girls and i said definitely not so they all voted me. i was alwaaaayyyyys picked on and i dont even know why other than being short and weak and quiet. really though, i think as with most bullying, it was more to do with the type of person THEY were, not me. But yeah one point it was so bad, sly digs picking me to do stuff etc that I stopped going to classes for weeks at a time.

then i started using the internet more but noooo, still bullying. hxf msn convos were the worst. adding everyone in and picking on their flaws but i got in with one certain crew (lol) so i learned to stick up for myself and try to impress them by bullying others. such a huge mistake. even to this day i have people from this forum writing on my ask.fm about things i've been made fun of YEARS AGO (i know who you are and you know who you are...) but i don't find that bullying anymore as it doesn't affect me now. so good luck using any of this against me and if you do, thanks for reading this far ;). i was friends with those people too and i honestly don't know why. i grew out of bullying pretty quickly.


im not ashamed to be a bully victim actually... im ashamed that at one point i have bullied or at least made fun of someone... + i know to never, ever do that again. and it makes me sick that people still do this even at the age i'm at :S it's not hard to have empathy, is it? isn't it more rewarding to help a bully victim rather than be a bully yourself? probably for people who have never been through it it's easy to do, you can go home at the end of the day forgetting about it, not knowing who you've harmed or even caring about it. so i guess even though i've been bullied i'm not ashamed and i like who i am because of it so whatever. if i have kids i will deffo teach them to be stronger than i was, my little cousin is bullied now and i want to rip their heads off. kids are EVIL.

why is it always me doing the essay. im procrastinating.i more so put the poll for people who didn't want to admit they have bullied or watched someone being bullied, not for people who have been bullied. for me, it was hard to write about bullying someone as short as it was. i'm not sure what the right word for it is, but i'm very ashamed of myself for bullying someone to this day even if it was a long time ago. but yeah, just thought i'd clear that up :) sorry if that wasn't what you were saying at all!!!

[buttons]

i more so put the poll for people who didn't want to admit they have bullied or watched someone being bullied, not for people who have been bullied. for me, it was hard to write about bullying someone as short as it was. i'm not sure what the right word for it is, but i'm very ashamed of myself for bullying someone to this day even if it was a long time ago. but yeah, just thought i'd clear that up :) sorry if that wasn't what you were saying at all!!!
yeah fair enough, i used to find it hard to admit i was bullied cause people would be like "haha you got bullied" as though it was something i should keep hidden? I was okay with admitting to bullying someone (well wouldn't say I ever singled anyone out but I was mean to people before..) because it was more of a control thing and to stop myself feeling ashamed about being bullied but its the opposite way around now :p would be more ashamed to admit to bullying too

[Martin]

Yeah have always been bullied in some shape or form really, and kind of just got used to it. Bullied through primary school for being 'quiet and different', didn't really have any friends like everyone else so I guess people just thought that was something fun to bully someone about haha. Used to stay in at breaktimes and stuff because I would end up just wondering round the playground by myself, whenever I tried to join in or talk to anyone I would just get laughed at. :P

High school was pretty much the same but I had got used to my own company by then, so often worked on group projects by myself etc. P.E used to be awful, I hated P.E so much, I was rubbish at most things, hated running, people would laugh etc, usual name calling/tripping over etc. Used to walk down the corridor wondering whether the person coming the other direction would trip me over or not so quite often stood still when someone walked past me just in case. Got pushed around quite a bit really, but just got on with it. Got bullied about my weight quite a bit too, as well as my voice, I would say even now my voice gets me bullied quite a bit at work and stuff, even customers like to have a laugh :P


I would never bully someone, just wouldn't be able to sleep at night knowing I had made anyone miserable or unhappy. I used to skip school a little during high school, purely because it didn't seem worth it. I was getting good grades, always did well in tests and in class, but as soon as other people were thrown in it was living hell. I used to like Art a lot at high school and did it for GCSE, unfortunately most of the rest of the class were the rebels who thought art was an easy option to take and they could just doss around, they would quite often 'accidently' spill a glass of water over my work etc. Things like that just stick in your mind. That group also sent me a valentines day card through the post, then had so much fun the next day laughing about it saying how its the only one I will ever have etc. :P I guess in some respects you just laugh along with them- but some of the things they say can hurt quite badly at the time really.

After getting good GCSE results (A's and B's and a couple of C's), I went to college thinking it would all be completely different, that I would make friends, feel included and not get picked on so much. It wasn't the case, and from the bus journey to just hanging around in the libarary, it was all the same, people laughing, making comments etc. Anyway, that, along with the distance I had to travel to college (an hour to get there), was just too much for me and I decided it wasn't worth going through it for another 2 years, so decided I would drop all the hopes I had of becoming a teacher, going on to uni etc (which I really wanted to do), and 'chickened' out I guess and got a job and got myself a car and stuff. In some respects it paid off, since I do speak to people at work and there are a lot of nice people (and I get to hide away in an office/bakery most the day), but I guess primary and high school did impact on me a lot really, made me even more of a shy and self conscious person, made me be quite independant and used to working on my own and stuff, and generally it just knocked my confidence a lot- I didn't understand why I was so different and why others had it so easy and stuff.

These days things are a lot better, I do feel more confident some of the time, particularly last year when I did things I would never dream of doing, and for the first time in my life was able to talk to someone I consider a good friend, and it was so nice just to not be judged for once, not to be so different from everyone else. Yes- I still get the odd occasion at work where people will make comments which might get to me, but its nowhere near on the scale that it was during school. So yeah, for once the future is looking okay :)

[Clumping]

I've seen a lot of bullying. Mainly by the same people in school (when I was still there). I can't say I've bullied someone, I'm quiet irl so I probably just laughed along with it, or targeted a friend to take issues out on. I've not really been bullied either, the most that's happened to me is people being horrible, telling me I have a big nose :(

[Samantha]

I've been bullied before, mainly in primary school for no reason (that I knew of), I had to go round with the teacher at breaks and stuff because my mum phoned in (too right she did) but that failed sort of as the bullies knew they were wrong, saw me with a teacher and asked to play with me. I was forced to go play with them and the bullying stopped then, they acted as if they were my friends and I forgive them for what they did, it was more physical like pushing me and likewise to some replies they may not have known they were bullying me.

In high school I was bullied because I was short and quiet, but I just let it slide for most of the time but sometimes I'd let it out if I didn't like something - someone always poked me with pins in English, he then took it further than that and started fighting with me, he told me to hit him so I tapped him - I didn't get in trouble for retaliating but I did give him a black eye, I guess that's the only bullying I've done but not intentional as I was riled up with tears streaming down my face lmao, of course he didn't let it go and got sent out of the room when we were together due to it.

In year 11 notes were passed round about me in history, my teacher took them and after the class asked me if it bothered me, I said it was fine as they were only joking and that carried on a bit into college as they thought I had no friends yet I proved them wrong. In year 10 a rumour went around about me, I haven't been in year 10 for 5 years now and I still get asked about the rumour and it hurts me everytime yet again I don't think people understand.

I've seen people be bullied, my first boyfriend was forced to kiss me, neither of us had been kisses before but I refused so he kissed my cheek, the bullies hit him afterwards and whilst I was in class afterwards I had to endure seeing him crying outside, feeling helpless. I think I've told on a bully a couple of times, sometimes when they did things wrong etc. hopefully though the bullying stages for me have passed.

I was also bullied online lol scottish; :P and although it was online it did hurt a lot. That's when I was a noob and everything but I've learned that it shouldn't hurt that bad as sometimes it's more of something to do than bullying.

[zombies]

aw guys! really sad to read all your stories. everyone used to call me gay *sigh* and it hurt so much because i'm not and um i dont know how to explain i'm maybe just a bit happy and/or over the top. then my best friend decided to bully me for 2 years straight. just verbal abuse that carried on and on and on. everyone would see what was going on and nobody would help me, the teacher didn't do anything either. then one day i broke down and cried and the teacher knew why except she disguised it about me worried at the exam. the bully knew exactly what it was about. two years later he's always tried talking to me and i've always backed off.

[Empired]

I've never really had bullying problems in the past. Obviously I went through all of the days when you get pushed into a puddle in the playground when you're little or someone steals your hat and won't give it back for an hour or two, but that's not exactly bullying as it wasn't recurring, it was just a couple of one-offs and it happens to everyone at some point.

However recently I've broken up with a group of friends over a silly little thing that I thought would blow over in a few weeks, but that was three months ago now. At the start we just didn't talk, the group of six kind of broke in half and I was with one other person and there were another three who hated us with one stuck in the middle, not wanting to offend either group and it didn't really bother me 'cause I had someone who was my friend who was going through exactly the same thing. Oddly, it was almost exciting whenever I overheard them ******** about us because I could go and tell my friend and we'd ***** about them back, haha. It got worse later on, though, when the other group of girls started getting friendly with my friend again, saying it wasn't her fault and that I was the one who had done everything. She told me all of this and faithfully stayed with me at lunch and break and everything, but I could see that she wanted to be friends with the other group again so I told her I was OK with it and she went back to being friends with them.

Recently it's got a lot harder because it's stopped just being name-calling or whispering and giving dirty looks into other more physical things. Like the night we had the argument, I sent one of them a text apologising immediately after 'cause I'd said some things that were totally untrue just because I was angry and I didn't really want to stop being friends. I never got a reply or anything so I assumed she'd just kicked it aside. Anyway, I found that text posted on Facebook for everyone to see a month or so later, with about 87 comments which I decided it was best not to read.
There are other things too, like this group of girls have gone round telling everyone that I beat them up and that I'm a crazy sociopath who is dangerous to be around. Obviously when I first heard it I just laughed it off, but then when some boys in my class got hold of it it went round the whole school in the space of a lunch break and suddenly nobody would come near me in case they got attacked by me because I'm so unpredictable and evil :/

Nothing serious happened for a while or anything but I was still feeling uncomfortable and so I did try to talk to my form tutor about it last Tuesday but one of them actually came in before I started explaining properly and noticed that I was going to tell on them. Although, like I said, nothing bad had happened for a while, naturally when I was walking home I found an opened yoghurt box (which wasn't mine) had exploded all over in the inside of my bag.

I still feel like I can't tell anyone about it though because, although they're doing all this stuff to me, they were still my friends once and I know how they think and feel and how difficult it would be for them all at home. I know that one of their dads would actually take her away from the school and go mental at her if he ever caught wind of this and I don't want that to happen to her because we used to be so close.

Er, I went into an awful lot of detail there but I guess I'm glad 'cause you're all on the internet so there's nothing you can do. You can't make it worse, tell anyone, or do anything that would have an impact so I suppose it's nice to be able to get it off my chest for the first time. And, hell, congratulations if you're still reading after that essay. I probably bored you to sleep :P

[dirrty]

i wouldn't really say i was bullied. only the occasional verbal taunt in the past and i've never been in a fight, so nothing to the extent where i feel really uncomfortable, worried for safety, etc. i have bullied though, but i was a complete **** from an early age but obviously changed as i grew older; was mainly joining in with others though (verbally taunting). i do remember in high school (year 9), my now ex-friend wrote a very detailed sex-story about all the girls in our class and it was sent to me by our mutual best friend at the time to read (lol, i know). but i decided to send it to my friend, who i know was good friends with the girls & doesn't keep secrets (so sent it to them & everyone else on msn). the guy got excluded, friendships were ended and everyone hated the original kid with parents coming in wanting him to be expelled. looking back, i suppose that inadvertently counts as bullying, but i never saw it as that when i was younger. i think that's a big issue when it comes to bullying. whether it's obvious or not, bullying will continue to exist for some throughout their lives (from education, to employment). it's not a good thing as lives are, and can be ruined. but it's something which is, and will be very hard to eradicate. i personally think bullying will always exist, since it's embedded within a relationship of power amongst peers.

[Shar]

I've been bullied and always see people being bullied in one way or another. I think being bullied affected me later in life in many ways. Now its just something that was part of my childhood that I try to block out.

[The Don]

Everybody used to pick on this one kid in my primary school and i did take part in it. I do feel bad about joining in and if i could go back i would definitely do things differently but when you're younger it's hard to imagine the consequences your actions can have and what an impact it can make on that persons life. Some of the jokes we made about him stuck with him through secondary school (i didn't participate in it though since i realised how cruel it was) which makes me feel like scum.


Yeah have always been bullied in some shape or form really, and kind of just got used to it. Bullied through primary school for being 'quiet and different', didn't really have any friends like everyone else so I guess people just thought that was something fun to bully someone about haha. Used to stay in at breaktimes and stuff because I would end up just wondering round the playground by myself, whenever I tried to join in or talk to anyone I would just get laughed at. :P

High school was pretty much the same but I had got used to my own company by then, so often worked on group projects by myself etc. P.E used to be awful, I hated P.E so much, I was rubbish at most things, hated running, people would laugh etc, usual name calling/tripping over etc. Used to walk down the corridor wondering whether the person coming the other direction would trip me over or not so quite often stood still when someone walked past me just in case. Got pushed around quite a bit really, but just got on with it. Got bullied about my weight quite a bit too, as well as my voice, I would say even now my voice gets me bullied quite a bit at work and stuff, even customers like to have a laugh :P


I would never bully someone, just wouldn't be able to sleep at night knowing I had made anyone miserable or unhappy. I used to skip school a little during high school, purely because it didn't seem worth it. I was getting good grades, always did well in tests and in class, but as soon as other people were thrown in it was living hell. I used to like Art a lot at high school and did it for GCSE, unfortunately most of the rest of the class were the rebels who thought art was an easy option to take and they could just doss around, they would quite often 'accidently' spill a glass of water over my work etc. Things like that just stick in your mind. That group also sent me a valentines day card through the post, then had so much fun the next day laughing about it saying how its the only one I will ever have etc. :P I guess in some respects you just laugh along with them- but some of the things they say can hurt quite badly at the time really.

After getting good GCSE results (A's and B's and a couple of C's), I went to college thinking it would all be completely different, that I would make friends, feel included and not get picked on so much. It wasn't the case, and from the bus journey to just hanging around in the libarary, it was all the same, people laughing, making comments etc. Anyway, that, along with the distance I had to travel to college (an hour to get there), was just too much for me and I decided it wasn't worth going through it for another 2 years, so decided I would drop all the hopes I had of becoming a teacher, going on to uni etc (which I really wanted to do), and 'chickened' out I guess and got a job and got myself a car and stuff. In some respects it paid off, since I do speak to people at work and there are a lot of nice people (and I get to hide away in an office/bakery most the day), but I guess primary and high school did impact on me a lot really, made me even more of a shy and self conscious person, made me be quite independant and used to working on my own and stuff, and generally it just knocked my confidence a lot- I didn't understand why I was so different and why others had it so easy and stuff.

These days things are a lot better, I do feel more confident some of the time, particularly last year when I did things I would never dream of doing, and for the first time in my life was able to talk to someone I consider a good friend, and it was so nice just to not be judged for once, not to be so different from everyone else. Yes- I still get the odd occasion at work where people will make comments which might get to me, but its nowhere near on the scale that it was during school. So yeah, for once the future is looking okay :)

Why don't you go to college now since you'll be with older and more mature people. It's kind of 'letting them win' if you end up working a remedial job for the rest of your life because you felt you couldn't go to college.

[FlyingJesus]

I've never been bullied by anyone other than myself but have taken part in a lot of bullying in the past. I don't like the phrase "but then I grew up" because I haven't really grown up that much, I just became less ignorant of my effect on people. Some of the things I've said and I done I can't still can't quite get over even now, so I hope whoever they were aimed at is better than me at letting go. Still doing my time for that

Surprised that "I've seen someone being bullied" isn't at 100% unless someone here is blind

[GommeInc]

I don't think I've been bullied. People may of tried, but I got on well with my classmates at school and college, and usually if they tried to offend me I got them back with a remark of some sort :P I've seen people being bullied or be taken for granted, and gone on to treat the "bully" like the filth they are. I put that down as "I've bullied someone" but it's purely as a reactionary measure to them bullying someone else than doing it because for whatever reason bullies do it for.

[Martin]

Why don't you go to college now since you'll be with older and more mature people. It's kind of 'letting them win' if you end up working a remedial job for the rest of your life because you felt you couldn't go to college.

I do think about it a lot, and hopefully one day I will, but right now I have so many bills and stuff to pay, that I need to keep my job to pay them all! :P I wish it was as easy as just going to college/uni now etc, but I guess I've chosen the harder route and chickened out and so now I need to face the consequences haha. My car costs me a lot too. Ever since I was really young I dreamed of being a teacher, was always my dream and I even turned my bedroom into a lifelike classroom, complete with a massive whiteboard the school let me have, projector, proper school desks, filing cabinets, draws etc. Made so many lesson plans, was a proper sad child :P Had all my family up there 'teaching' them, and well yeah :P I look back and cringe haha.

Would love to achieve that dream some day, its just not the easiest of professions to get into I guess, involves lots of time and money, and I'm kind of stuck in this position now since I have so many outgoings :P

[GommeInc]

Ever since I was really young I dreamed of being a teacher, was always my dream and I even turned my bedroom into a lifelike classroom, complete with a massive whiteboard the school let me have, projector, proper school desks, filing cabinets, draws etc. Made so many lesson plans, was a proper sad child :P Had all my family up there 'teaching' them, and well yeah :P I look back and cringe haha.

Would love to achieve that dream some day, its just not the easiest of professions to get into I guess, involves lots of time and money, and I'm kind of stuck in this position now since I have so many outgoings :P
Go for it, you might be amazed at how rewarding it would be to go down the teaching route :) There are loads of different types of routes to take. You can do a Degree in Education or any Degree subject for that matter, (e.g. Child Psychology, Languages, Geography, History, Business - quite literally anything :P) and then go on to do a PGCE. If that's you're dream you might as well reach out to it than let it tease you each day ;)

It's hard to go by what to do about the finance aspects of your life as they currently are - like how your Bills are calculated and what you do for housing.

[Absently]

I do think about it a lot, and hopefully one day I will, but right now I have so many bills and stuff to pay, that I need to keep my job to pay them all! :P I wish it was as easy as just going to college/uni now etc, but I guess I've chosen the harder route and chickened out and so now I need to face the consequences haha. My car costs me a lot too. Ever since I was really young I dreamed of being a teacher, was always my dream and I even turned my bedroom into a lifelike classroom, complete with a massive whiteboard the school let me have, projector, proper school desks, filing cabinets, draws etc. Made so many lesson plans, was a proper sad child :P Had all my family up there 'teaching' them, and well yeah :P I look back and cringe haha.

Would love to achieve that dream some day, its just not the easiest of professions to get into I guess, involves lots of time and money, and I'm kind of stuck in this position now since I have so many outgoings :P
martin, i really do hope you go onto doing that :) i think you would be fab, especially if you really want to do it!!

btw everyone, thanks for sharing so far.

[Shar]

I do think about it a lot, and hopefully one day I will, but right now I have so many bills and stuff to pay, that I need to keep my job to pay them all! :P I wish it was as easy as just going to college/uni now etc, but I guess I've chosen the harder route and chickened out and so now I need to face the consequences haha. My car costs me a lot too. Ever since I was really young I dreamed of being a teacher, was always my dream and I even turned my bedroom into a lifelike classroom, complete with a massive whiteboard the school let me have, projector, proper school desks, filing cabinets, draws etc. Made so many lesson plans, was a proper sad child :P Had all my family up there 'teaching' them, and well yeah :P I look back and cringe haha.

Would love to achieve that dream some day, its just not the easiest of professions to get into I guess, involves lots of time and money, and I'm kind of stuck in this position now since I have so many outgoings :P
It's never too late Martin, I hope you pursue your dream some time soon :)

[FlyingJesus]

The opportunity will be there waiting for you Martin even if you're not ready for it right now - I myself had 3 years of doing absolutely nothing not even being able to work (though god knows I wanted to) and then I finally with a bit of help was able to get myself back into college and now uni where I like to think I'm flourishing. Our problems aren't quite the same but the principle and consequences are similar enough for me to be able to tell you that there will always be a place for you on the path you'd rather be walking, and that help is always there if you really look for it and try to let it work

[Martin]

Thanks guys :) I guess who knows what could happen really haha. So many unexpected things happened last year, things I would never have dreamed would happen and so I believe that life is what you make it really, but also some nice surprises can pop up along the way. :P Its a bit tricky right now since I'm kind of stuck paying off my car for a couple more years, as well as other bills, and I'm not full time at work so yeah :P but I guess there are other routes and alternatives too which I will definitely look into one day. I didn't spend all that time making my own classroom for nothing!! ;) but yeah, it really is a dream of mine.



The opportunity will be there waiting for you Martin even if you're not ready for it right now - I myself had 3 years of doing absolutely nothing not even being able to work (though god knows I wanted to) and then I finally with a bit of help was able to get myself back into college and now uni where I like to think I'm flourishing. Our problems aren't quite the same but the principle and consequences are similar enough for me to be able to tell you that there will always be a place for you on the path you'd rather be walking, and that help is always there if you really look for it and try to let it work

Aww thats such a nice story, I'm so glad you got help, were able to get back into things and you are enjoying Uni! :D I think you have to have a lot of motivation for something to happen and if you put enough determination into it, it will happen. I'm going to give it another couple of years perhaps, get myself sorted and then really look into following that dream path :P

[Charz777]

Well, I've been bullied countless times over the years for being intelligent and ginger. Got bullied in Year 7 by some guys throwing rocks at me, in Year 8 some guy threw a 2p at my head and cracked my head open and in Year 12, some Year 13s decided to create a facebook group to get me and my girlfriend banned from the sixth form common room for being ugly. Had about 190 people signed up (including teachers) by the time it got taken down. So yeah, I'm used to it, doesn't phase me anymore...

We weren't common room hated for being ugly, it's because we were kissing and people thought it was gross/were jealous! :P

Got bullied by some girl when I was in year 3, she was in year 6. It was like she forced me into being her friend and she was quite butch and tomboy-y and dominating. Sort of weird. Remember being scared ****less. At the same time I thought it was cool that someone 3 years older was forcing me to be their friend. Deluded child...

[Rozi]

hmm I've never had like a 'bullying campaign' against me, but girls can be very very ******.

In primary school we had like a 3 girl group and we were super close knit, so sometimes we'd deliberately exclude people, like ignore them, tell them to go away etc which is super cruel. I'd like to think it's because one of my friends used to be very dominating, but I obviously played some part in it. I was (and am a little (although I really try to control it)) very good at manipulating people to change their views on others, which is something I regret.

I also never ever used to speak up about things that made me uncomfortable. There was a girl who was just a bit of a *****, and after months of her making snide comments I decided to leave my group of friends (who are/were still very focused on loyalty, a concept I feel is ridiculous) and making friends with a girl called Cameo. I still remember exactly what she said cause I wrote it down aha; "Rosie, who do you hate the most", "I don't hate anyone....", "That's because you're weak haha" (seriously wtf....). So yeah basically I was great friends with this girl for like 3 months and they used to follow us round and go "mine, mine, mine" from finding nemo, which doesn't even make sense. But I started getting bored of her, and then just dropped her and went back to my friends (who I actually hadn't talked to in this time, it was super awkward because my old friend's mum used to give me a lot of lifts). They then started bullying her, like following her around the playground and saying horrible things, but I didn't say anything about it :( she ended up leaving the school - also partly because her dad had this massive beef with this other girls dad. but yeah I feel awful about that. OK THANKS GOT THAT OFF MY CHEST.

[Cerys]

Yep, I've been bullied too many times. In primary it was because I was a teachers daughter so apparantly I deserved people being rude to me for it. Then it moved onto calling me a rabbit as I had/have 'oversized' front teeth. 8 years on I still get the occaionl reminder of that name. Honestly, I've blocked out most primary memories xD
Then I moved onto the joys of highschool... how fun. I get comments on my weight and looks which has made me lose all self confidence or whatever it is. And as most of you know... this has led me to lie about who I am to perhaps be accepted, clearly going a bit over the top in some cases.
Then we get to my english teacher! Not really sure if she should be a teacher. She makes frequent comments on how I have a, according to her, severe mental disorder and how I should be banned from her classroom. Luckily she's on maternity leave atm (poor baby ;_;).

Would go into more detail but im on a tablet so typing is soo slow and gives many errors in spelling etc.