Insecurities

[Narnat,]

I was just wondering what is one thing that you're insecure about or has anyone been insecure about something and over come it? - mines has got be scars on my body I hate people seeing them so I go that extra mile to hide them.

[bam..its..abbz]

My body ? :/

[AlexJRiley]

All of me

[buttons]

yeah i'm not going to pick out my main insecurity, i always fear if i do pick it out people will start to notice when they wouldn't have if i didn't say so. i'm pretty much insecure about every individual feature on my face but i don't mind how they look altogether most of the time :S i focus on my face so much i haven't had much time to scrutinise my body, which other people do for me anyway :).


i think it's important to see the bigger picture rather than focus on detail. the only way i overcome it is by asking people to not tag pictures of me (although i usually look back years later and realise it's not that bad), get rid of people who think it's banter to pick on your appearance, avoid mirrors when im with others (at home ill get up and check every mirror in the house hoping ill somehow look better than the last time i checked and see if one mirror makes me look better than the other). probably not the most healthiest of choices but it seems to work especially the mirror one as it allows me to stop worrying what i look like and focus on other people.

i have body dysmorphia according to my GP but i dont believe it, i know my flaws simple as, i do place too much importance on them though.

[wixard]

WELL my body obviously, and i have a hole in my chest :(
and my ribs are deformed and don't go around so they stick out
and my legs are too thin
my hair is flat/stringy
my skin
my nose

that's it, well that's a lot. i'm insecure about all those things BUT at the same time, i've accepted that it's who i am so it rarely bothers me. there are one or two things that are on my mind constantly that i'm extremely insecure about but not too big of a deal

overall i'm happy enough

[dbgtz]

My mind.

[Cerys]

My hair
My face
My voice
My body in general
My personality

so you know, pretty much everything. I hate everything about who I am, I don't understand how anyone can like me

[Adam]

None because I don't seek attention. If people aren't willing to accept who you are they are not people worth knowing.

[MKR&*42]

A lot of stuff but I try and just get over it nd "man up" (?) :P


If people aren't willing to accept who you are they are not people worth knowing.

This has (and always will be) a good message for people to aspire to follow though^

[geo]

Pretty much every single bit of me, I hate. I really don't like my legs, my stomach, my face, my hands, my hair, my nose. The only thing I like are my eyes and that's about it. I think I have an annoying personality and I don't see how people put up with it. I've started pretending that I don't really care what people think about me (even though it kills me inside when people try hurting me) so people would hopefully pick at my flaws less. Some of the things I hate about my self I really can't change, so I've had to just face them and get over the fact I don't like them, as there's nothing I can really do.

[wixard]

None because I don't seek attention. If people aren't willing to accept who you are they are not people worth knowing.

everyone has insecurities, anyone who says otherwise is lying. also, you definitely can't say people that claim to have an insecurity are looking for attention...

people seek approval from others and that's just human nature, you can say you don't, or that you don't care but it's still an insecurity. you might have identified a flaw/imperfection in yourself but have learnt not to be defined by it.

[Adam]

Okay maybe I phrased it wrongly.

I do, but I get over them and get on with life without letting them affect me. I wish people would see this way and I understand that some people don't 'cos to be honest everyone who posts in here who hates their body is probably beautiful. It's a ******* shame they don't see it and I wish it could change.

That's probably a better way to put it.

[buttons]

A lot of stuff but I try and just get over it nd "man up" (?) :P



This has (and always will be) a good message for people to aspire to follow though^
its good advice and one i follow when it comes to my personality but its not always as easy as that. when im happy with my looks, for myself, idc what others think but when I'm feeling bad I'm more affected by what others say. it's bout accepting yourself not always what others think, I accept my personality but not my looks most the time

adam, you don't understand mental illness, you've shown that before. my bdd has led to depression and social anxiety, it's not as easy as hey i accept my looks it's sometimes more than a cognition thing. body dysmorphia can be a genetic or brain chemical issue.

[Absently]

err, i really don't like my eyes, but i like their colour. my nose is too chunky and i think it really sticks out in photos. i have a sort of love-hate relationship with my thighs, i like them sometimes but then sometimes i think it makes me look sorta fat. i always moan about my stomach and its size, but i can change that.

this rly isnt a nice thread lol :(

[Adam]

its good advice and one i follow when it comes to my personality but its not always as easy as that. when im happy with my looks, for myself, idc what others think but when I'm feeling bad I'm more affected by what others say. it's bout accepting yourself not always what others think, I accept my personality but not my looks most the time

adam, you don't understand mental illness, you've shown that before. my bdd has led to depression and social anxiety, it's not as easy as hey i accept my looks it's sometimes more than a cognition thing. body dysmorphia can be a genetic or brain chemical issue.

I can have an opinion though, right? Just like you can.

[wixard]

it's not a nice thread but i think it's vital to help those who do have a lot of insecurities that they're not so accepting about and see that others are just like them, and that they're not alone in feeling the way that they do about their self image.

@adECW (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=35978); yeah, now that you've rephrased you're quite right. it pains me to see so much self hate, especially among younger people

@buttons (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=42203); with mental illness as a factor for perceiving body image, i understand completely
but saying that, a lot of people who are extremely insecure are not facing a mental illness, but rather due to the pressures of being accepted by society and not straying from the norm

[buttons]

[QUOTE=wixard;7873733
@buttons (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=42203); with mental illness as a factor for perceiving body image, i understand completely
but saying that, a lot of people who are extremely insecure are not facing a mental illness, but rather due to the pressures of being accepted by society and not straying from the norm[/QUOTE]
ye i deffo know that or else almost everyone would have a mental illness lol i didnt mean to say everyone who has insecurities has a mental illness but those who do have insecurities that are caused by mental illness can't always accept it and move on just like that. i don't know anyone who doesn't have an insecurity but like u say they accept them or in some cases cover it up. some really 'vain' people act vain in order to cover up insecurities, i tried it for a while but in the end we'll always have insecurities in some form

[le harry]

nothin really. i'm pretty pale compared to my mates and get dark rings under my eyes cuz i'm up to 4am but apart from that i like me.

[Empired]

Like most people, I'm not a huge fan of my own appearance but I suppose I've come to accept that. Acceptance is the only way forward.

But I constantly worry that I am some kind of social-freak. I've had so many different friends and almost every single time we've ended up drifting so far we never even speak, or having a roaring argument which means we hate each other. I've been "through" about five different "groups" of friends like this, so I don't feel it's fair to keep blaming them. There can hardly be five coincidences involving me, so it must be me :P

[Derrener]

Mainly my speech but it doesn't really bother me that much no more. This has affected me socially because I'm scared people won't be able to understand what I'm saying but my speech has got a lot better over the years though :)

[Zelda]

My voice
My face
My hair oh god my hair
My hands and arms

I think the only part about me I like is my eyes literally I always feel like my eyes and eyebrows belong to someone else ;l

Thing is for me when you have persecution complex and social anxiety disorder and depression it really is hard to just ignore it all and accept me for who I am, the amount of times I've considered suicide and I honestly don't think its fair for anyone to say to just grow a pair when you have all of this behind you making you actually fear humanity near enough ;l

[royltan]

I hate the people who are habitual in figuring and noticing your personality, body, and other attributes even when you are not having any concerns with them. This is really irritating. I can't understand why the hell people can't stop noticing others.

[Shar]

I have a number of insecurities. my physical appearance is on the bottom of the list because I know I'll always be picking at something when it comes to that. I'd rather just try and put them aside and not think about them tbh

[lawrawrrr]

I also think that insecurities are used a lot for attention seeking, but then again, there's nothing wrong with having those insecurities, god knows I have tons. I don't usually express them to anyone though, I think the only person I show my true feelings about myself too, and that's my boyfriend, and I guess in a way he's helping me to 'get over' them a bit, or at least accept them.

anyway, i hate my stomach/body (it's too thin - i know this is the opposite of what *so* many teenagers are saying, but i actually can't help it), i hate my knock knees, i hate the acne on my face, i hate my toes, my feet, i hate how my mind works, i hate my man shoulders, my nose...

that's just the main ones anyway. but yeah i accept them all (obv can't change them) and some of them i'm just learning to actually be okay with.

[Clumping]

hope i'm not late
i've come to peace with most things that I before didn't like at all. the one that i can't settle with however is my nose, its fine from the front but from the side its big
lol =[

[beth]

christ almighty this is uplifting
very few insecurities now i've grown up. mostly revolve around my career.