If you adopted...?

[Aiden]

If yu adopted a child, would you want them to keep their last name or have yours? Would you be upset if they wanted to keep their own name? :/ I'd be sad if they didn't want my name but its up to them. :) (I won't be adopting anytime soon lol) :)

[Shockwave.2CC]

I wouldn't mind if they didn't want to change it or not

[Stephen]

if you get upset cos a child who might have gotten used to and liked their name says they don't want it change then maybe you should adopt a baby who doesn't even know what a name is instead

[Martin]

I wouldn't mind, but I think it would also depend on their age really. If they were really young then it wouldnt make much difference, but if they were old enough to make the decision themselves then obviously I would be fine either way :P

[Chris]

If the child was old enough to say that they like their name then I wouldn't mind.

[iLogan]

If it's a baby then leave its real surname and let the choice be theirs went they're old enough to make a decision

[lawrawrrr]

If it was a baby I'd probably give it mine, or my partner's name, if it was older then the child could make it's own decision. I'd not hide the fact that they were adopted at all though.

[Narnat,]

I think it's completely up to them of course it would be lovely if they wanted to take your last name. I feel like if it was a baby and you where to give it your last name wouldn't it be a little bit harder to break it to them that they're adopted? I don't know I might be wrong

[Special]

if they wanted to i'd be honoured but i wouldn't force it upon them

[Samantha]

I wouldn't mind either way as really it's a name - it's not say something that someone would just come up to you in the street about and think it's weird as after all it should really always be the child's decision. Even if they were younger I would probably be more inclined to let them keep their original name as then they could ask why whenever they wished and I would attempt to tell them they're adopted, but if they wanted to know I wouldn't keep it from them. Moreover, it's like if I had a child now, I'd want to give them my partner's name, that might seem the opposite to adoption, but really I'm just thinking for the future as if you then married your partner your child wouldn't need the option to change their name etc. although I wouldn't mind them having the surname they wanted, I wouldn't be hurt if they didn't want mine and I wouldn't mind if they wanted mine.

[karter]

umm honestly yeah I would like to give them my name and would be bothered if they didn't want to

[Cerys]

It depends on the age.
If they are young so they won't remember their previous name, yeah change it to my name.
But if they are gonna rememeber it then no it's their choice

[geo]

I think it's their choice. Like, if they wanna keep their own name then fair enough, if they want mine then that would be lovely and I'd be happy and do it because that's what they want. If they were a baby I'd probably give them my name though, but like Laura said, in no way hide they're adopted.

[LiquidLuck.]

I would want them to at least add mine into their previous names, but if the child really opposed to it, I'd still love him or her.

[MKR&*42]

I would keep the name as it is. From a moral point, it really shouldn't be my decision, if that child asks for their name to be changed in the future to my last name then let it be.

Or I could just ask them at the time if they were old enough to understand what I meant.

[James]

Personally, I would like to change their name, however I would only do it if they strongly agreed. If they didn't want to, I'd be perfectly happy with it. :)

[Ekelektra]

I would let them keep whatever name they wanted.

My mum was adopted when she was a teen and her new parents said that they (all her siblings) could keep their old name. Later they said that they would have to change it to 'oldname-newname' and later just before everything was finalised the mother said that they would all be changing to the new last name or they wouldn't be adopted and they'd all be split up. It really hurt my mum and her siblings and helped to create a lot of arguments in their family so I would be absolutely fine if my adopted kids didn't want to change their name.

[Empired]

When I was adopted I was given a different name to my old one and my adoptive parents' one for "safety reasons". I honestly don't think the name matters, lol. If you get upset because your child doesn't want the same last name as you, I think you should be questioning your motives as to why you chose to adopt this child in the first place.

[Demi]

Babies won't even know...
Older kids, probably will want to change their names.

[JACKTARD]

I think it's up to the child. I changed my surname to include my step-dad's surname when I turned 16 because he was the one who raised me with my mum after my parents got divorced when I was young. It must be a nice gesture for a parent and it signifies a lot for the child to do it but it doesn't mean anything until an effort has been made either way