Rebound Relationships

[Daltron]

Do you think rebound relationships are a bad thing? Ie getting with someone soon after they have broken up with someone else?

Currently I am being asked out by someone who I know wants to enter a relationship, but he just came out of a relationship and I am 100% sure it will just be a short term, maybe few months rebound sort of thing. I'm keen for it, he seems keen for it, but I am not one to get mixed up in emotions, I just go with the flow, but he seems the total opposite.

Would you leave them to be or take up the opportunity, or have any similar stories?

(I attached a poll, I hope it works!)

[FlyingJesus]

As with absolutely all things: it depends. Everyone involved has to be on the same page for any relationship to work out, so obviously you need to find out what he's wanting from this and see if it gels with what you're after

[LiquidLuck.]

Tbh I think it depends. If you are using the rebound person and the person doesn't know.. then that's really a bad thing to do. In my case, I prefer to suffer what I need to suffer and then go back to a stable relationship instead of just having rebounds, because I get attached too quickly.

[Yawn]

if ur both keen tell him ur ready for the p and jump on

[Narnat,]

I can't do rebounds I need the time to get over the person and sort of collect my thoughts and get my **** together. In think a lot of it depends on the person but I would think if he's just come out of a relationship his emotions could be a little raw?

[Tom]

Some people are different, if the rebound is because they just want to get over that person, it'll never work and will just hurt the other person more than you're feeling hurt (if that makes sense). If they left them because they just love you not them and you loved them back, then I don't see why not, it may work (unless they do that a lot).

It all depends on how you're both feeling I guess, like others have said already. Personally, I'd leave it for a few months and, if your feelings don't die down, go for it. If they do die down, one of you obviously doesn't want it as much as the other.

[Empired]

Depends what you want, to be honest. If you're sure the relationship will definitely end in a few months and you're both ok with that, then go for it. If you feel uncomfortable in any way at all though, don't do it 'cause it'll just end in tears.

[Shockwave.2CC]

Depends

[Sieglinde]

Not good, not bad.

I guess if there's a personal good reason...

[Bradley.]

no bloody way, they just want someone so they aint be hurting!!!!!!

[Yawn]

no bloody way, they just want someone so they aint be hurting!!!!!!yh but dalty dont care he just wants some pounding

[Samantha]

Me and my ex broke up and then I got a new boyfriend really quickly, regardless of being with the first one for 21 months. To me the current one didn't seem like a rebound and 5 months later we're still happy, nor did my current boyfriend think of it as a rebound, it was just a better relationship. However, some people do think that it was a rebound, but it's been proven that it isn't - it always depends really, I've never had a rebound relationship nor have I been the rebound and I think that if both people know it's just rebound then it isn't as bad. For me though I prefer proper relationships.

[Demi]

Everyone needs a rebound.

[GoldenMerc]

Never works, done it a few times and its just a way to make your ex jelous... mean also on the person your doing it with

[lawrawrrr]

I think that one of the best ways to let off post-relationship steam is to go for a rebound but it's not right for everyone. When I did it I just got sadder, even when I was the one who wanted to break up more than the boyfriend at the time. For some people, it works, especially when you've already 'got over' your partner a bit but idk.

Besides when does a new relationship become not a rebound? Is there a time limit? It's just too difficult to objectively explain as it's a subject which is so subjective.

[Teabags]

Daltron updates!
hope it all worked out whatever.

[Daltron]

Daltron updates!
hope it all worked out whatever.

Well I am going through with it haha, we just made sure we both know what this is. All good :D

---------- Post added 03-05-2013 at 01:55 PM ----------

Thanks for all the advice everyone!

[Rachel]

It's good and bad situation. You cannot expect someone breaking up with someone and be able to love the other person just a quick. Some people can take time to recover and sometimes they just find it hurts to much so they break up and wants to be alone for a while. Just do what is best for you x

[BlooBanana]

Some ways good some bad :S, I've been with my BF for 4 years and we are very serious, but If we broke up I have no doubt in my mind I'd try to get with someone else to make him jealous. Because I know if we broke up tomorrow It wouldn't be what I want, and as selfish as it is I'd want him to make him realise **** what have I done. I've done it once before to him and he got jealous, but I think if I done it again there would be a huge chance of him telling me to get lost. I think because I've been with him so long I'd hate to be alone, so thats another reason to get on a rebound.

[Rixion]

Bad from my experience as I was the one that got with the girl after she broke up and then they just drew closer together again, which evidently sucked. Not that this always happens.

[MKR&*42]

I don't largely agree with them and I wouldn't date someone who had only just broken up with someone else.

But yes the whole thing is subjective and it's lovely that you 2 are going along with it (basing on your prev post) :)!

[e5]

I think they turn out bad because youve never really got over your ex, and you're just going for someone to help you move on