View Full Version : dumper or dumpee?
velvet
14-05-2013, 03:46 PM
are you usually the one to end your relationships? ... or do people usually end them with you?
why'd you think that is?
Cerys
14-05-2013, 03:57 PM
It's complicated - I'm a messed up person who generally doesn't think of other peoples feelings SOO
When I want to end it, I don't wanna feel bad about ending it. So what I do is I ignore them etc until they break up with me.
But in effect it's me who has started the.. breaking-up-ness?
im a bad person i know.
AgnesIO
14-05-2013, 04:02 PM
It's complicated - I'm a messed up person who generally doesn't think of other peoples feelings SOO
When I want to end it, I don't wanna feel bad about ending it. So what I do is I ignore them etc until they break up with me.
But in effect it's me who has started the.. breaking-up-ness?
im a bad person i know.
Sounds more like a gutless person than a thoughtless person lol
MKR&*42
14-05-2013, 04:29 PM
Only dated twice, first one dumped me, I dumped second one.
In the future they'd probably dump me causeee im awf.
wixard
14-05-2013, 04:34 PM
it's really quite even, saying that i've only ever had 4 boyfriends
only one of them was longer than 5 months...
Cerys
14-05-2013, 04:38 PM
Sounds more like a gutless person than a thoughtless person lol
No, I COULD Break up with them if I wanted to, but that would leave me feeling guilty/bad. so.
dont really wanna feel bad yeah.
Samantha
14-05-2013, 04:49 PM
I've only had 2 proper boyfriends, but my first few, non serious ones I broke up with them. My ex broke up with me, but I could tell he was going to and I'm glad he did as I wouldn't know what to say.
Disney
14-05-2013, 05:02 PM
I've had 3 serious relationships, with the first 2 girlfriends we ended it neutrally. With my last gf it ended ugly and me being dumped because we lived together and got sick of eachother which caused many fights.
Inseriousity.
14-05-2013, 05:09 PM
Dumpee. Don't think I've ever broke up with anyone, mainly cos I'm a go with the flow type person who is relaxed and laidback about people's flaws. Need someone who can put up with mine haha
David
14-05-2013, 05:18 PM
only been dumped once, i dumped the rest.
FlyingJesus
14-05-2013, 05:19 PM
Ummm dumped 1st, dumped by 2nd, dumped 3rd, dumped 4th, dumped by 5th after I just sort of ignored her for a while
Empired
14-05-2013, 06:06 PM
Only dated twice, first one dumped me, I dumped second one.
In the future they'd probably dump me causeee im awf.
i would never break up with you :love: cos i'd never go out with you
I am would dump them if I got the slightest inkling of them not liking me anymore because it would be embarrassing if I was dumped...
Martin
14-05-2013, 06:08 PM
dumpee haha
MKR&*42
14-05-2013, 06:08 PM
i would never break up with you :love: cos i'd never go out with you
I am would dump them if I got the slightest inkling of them not liking me anymore because it would be embarrassing if I was dumped...
I was happy until the strikeout :(
Oh erm yes id be dumped because i wouldnt have the guts to dump anyone lmfao.
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No wait ive dumped before how awk of me.
buttons
14-05-2013, 06:33 PM
lol ive always been to scared to do it so i just act all moody n off with them until they dump me lol think ive been dumped by everyone except one cause i heard he was gonna dump me so i wanted to do it first.. we still joke around saying "i dumped you" "no i dumped u" lol ive wanted out of all my relationships but always tried to fix it, wait and see if it gets better etc. next time will be different :) was thinking how much ive changed attitude since my last proper boyfriend then realised it was 2 and a half years ago that's why... :'(
uH i haven't really had many serious relationships and the ones i kinda saw as serious (and the ones that lasted the longest) were a looong time ago as now i'm just living the single life for the rest of my life.
going with the 2 i count...
1st - i got dumped
2nd - i ended it with them
i assume i'd be the dumpee now though because of what i'm like. i always hope things to do with love will get better and i literally just try so hard for them to work, so i wouldn't wanna be the one that ended it just incase. also people can't put up with me so they'd end it
Aiden
14-05-2013, 06:52 PM
with gitls i dumped :L
but got dumped wid guy
Explorator
14-05-2013, 06:56 PM
Dumpee, I don't really date unless i know the girl well and i know i would have a serious relationship with her. I've been dumped once though, a couple of years back. I wasn't too bothered about it because it was one of those childish Year 8 relationships people have for 2 weeks.
Only been in one relationship, pretty mutual ending.
I've pretty much ended all of my relationships except one I think?
it's usually like i would break up with them and then go back to them kinda thing until they get tired of me dumping them and running back and they dump me lala, im just super moody and terrible with relationships
I don't really like ending relationships. Only had 1 serious one to be honest and didn't wanna finish with her even though it wasn't working. I guess I could be on the end of one or the person that finishes it, dunno if I have the heart and depends on my feelings lol
!x!dude!x!2
15-05-2013, 09:47 PM
the dumpee , they got "bored" of me :/
JACKTARD
15-05-2013, 11:15 PM
I'm usually the one to do the dumping, or at least I have been the past few years because I can't stand all the commitment and I get cold feet and just end up hating relationships.
Gibs960
16-05-2013, 05:16 PM
If I can see where the relationship is going (either they're going to dump me or we don't talk or whatever) then I'll dump them.
Only really been caught by surprise once or twice.
I tried to dump someone but they wouldn't let me................. then dumped me 2 weeks later.
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