Crush [+Rep]

[Narnat,]

I went out with this boy a few years ago it was nothing serious and we both were really young. Last year he told me he had feelings for me again but I didn't have them for him so I told him I wasn't interested. We have always been really close friends and we have been good friends for about five years. The other night we went to a bar for a catch up and when I got home I had a text from him saying how much he still has feelings for me ect. However he has a girlfriend and he knows that I have a girlfriend too, he shouldn't be sending me things like that especially when he has a girlfriend. I told him that he was being a bit of a douche sending me things like that when he knows I don't see him like that. He keeps saying sorry but he can't help how he feels ect. I just don't know how to tell him to get a grip of himself. It's hardly fair on his girlfriend either if he is sending other girls that sort of stuff. It makes it so awkward when we need to work together because I don't want him getting the wrong idea.

[MKR&*42]

Can't you just threaten to show his girlfriend all the texts he's been sending? I would probably flip out at a person IRL if they tried to pester me to date them whilst they were dating someone else purely because it's disgraceful and very unfair on the person they're currently dating.

Only thing I can suggest is being incredibly 'stern' and telling him to stop it or you'll show his girlfriend everything. If he continues then go do it.

[JACKTARD]

I don't think threatening him will help but it sounds like you've dealt with it pretty well so far. Try and explain to him that he might think he likes you more than he does because of not being able to have you right now? If you tell him categorically that you do not see him like that and you're happy and that if any feelings do suddenly appear that you'll tell him, that way he might be put off from doing it again?

[LiquidLuck.]

I like both of the advises above. Maybe try Jack's first and then Hayden's? xD

[Daltron]

Tell his girlfriend! The worst thing on the world is cheaters and it sounds like he would easily go ahead and cheat (no offence... I am sure he is a great friend)

[Zak]

I went out with this boy a few years ago it was nothing serious and we both were really young. Last year he told me he had feelings for me again but I didn't have them for him so I told him I wasn't interested. We have always been really close friends and we have been good friends for about five years. The other night we went to a bar for a catch up and when I got home I had a text from him saying how much he still has feelings for me ect. However he has a girlfriend and he knows that I have a girlfriend too, he shouldn't be sending me things like that especially when he has a girlfriend. I told him that he was being a bit of a douche sending me things like that when he knows I don't see him like that. He keeps saying sorry but he can't help how he feels ect. I just don't know how to tell him to get a grip of himself. It's hardly fair on his girlfriend either if he is sending other girls that sort of stuff. It makes it so awkward when we need to work together because I don't want him getting the wrong idea.


Wait what? He has a girlfriend and you have a girlfriend?

[MKR&*42]

Wait what? He has a girlfriend and you have a girlfriend?

Have you not considered that she could be biromantic/bisexual? :P Or do you know her.

[Cerys]

I like all the advice above^

It's not fair on his girlfriend if he keeps on sending you stuff like that, and who knows - he could be sending other girls that stuff too.

I really think you should warn his girlfriend about it as she deserves to know

[Zak]

Have you not considered that she could be biromantic/bisexual? :P Or do you know her.

I have but I thought it was more of a mistake :P

Personally I've said I liked girls just to get in their pants. The girls were those type who are only good for using though, proper skaggy.

[BlooBanana]

Friend or not I'd feel so guilty and have to tell his girlfriend. I can't stand cheats so I'd have to :P. Good luck though, such a crap situation :(

[Gibs960]

Say two things:


You're not interested in him.
Threaten to show the messages to his girlfriend.


These should work, if not then just ignore his texts and block his number if it's bothering you.