I just want to 'do something'

[MKR&*42]

*Sigh*

Lately I've just been really discontent with my life and just want to "do something" but I'm really not sure exactly what I mean by it. I just am really sick and tired of like sitting on my bed for so many hours in the day and not going out or anything, but when I go out I don't really know what to do... I only really hang with friends during college times (we'll prob meet up 2/3 times over summer) and I'm cool with it being only a couple of times, but I really wanna do something to like improve myself? Like how people say do 1 thing every day that scares you haha.

I enjoy typing and stuff (hence why all my depts on here are content based haha) and writing a bit irl and I'd love to kinda go out and get to know more people and stuff but I don't really like my personality and I don't have enough money to just go out and join clubs and stuff argh.

Idrk if you can gather what I'm saying but I'm fed up of wasting my life doing **** all really and idrk how to improve with no money/not such great personality.

[Chippiewill]

Get a Hobby

[wixard]

could you not make more of an effort with your friends? like ask them to do something?

or maybe get a job, i don't understand people who don't have a job and then complain about sitting around all day being bored!

[MKR&*42]

could you not make more of an effort with your friends? like ask them to do something?

or maybe get a job, i don't understand people who don't have a job and then complain about sitting around all day being bored!

I have been trying for a while haha, I'm going round town tomorrow and asking in-store/giving CVs etc. but I've applied online for months and months to find some kind of job because I know it would kill loads of time :P

[wixard]

I have been trying for a while haha, I'm going round town tomorrow and asking in-store/giving CVs etc. but I've applied online for months and months to find some kind of job because I know it would kill loads of time :P

yeah just keep trying and ask your parents to ask their friends if they know of anything, connections for part time jobs are vital these days!

anyway i know what you mean, when none of my friends are free and i've a day off i hate being stuck in the house, i'll usually walk my dog or go shopping or something. you could exercise or join a gym? i do yoga like 3 times a week and it'd take up about an hour and a half of my day and then i feel like i've actually done something that day and not feel so lazy

[-:Undertaker:-]

I am the same lately, especially being away from home. At least at home I have the garden to do and sometimes go for a walk to Liverpool town centre even on my own. Strange really, its a bit of a dilemma - mates here in university I love going out with at night, mates back home are always skint so we don't really go out .. but I love going for meals with some of them. Then on the other hand, back home I also have the garden to do.

So torn between two lovers is the theme. :P

[Shar]

firstly, don't tell yourself that you don't have a great personality. try and be confident, believe in yourself.
if you enjoy writing why not start a blog or something or try getting some experience from the local papers if you like.

[e5]

Best thing, and how I met all of my best friends was getting a hobby. mine was in sport, they're now my best friends and I do so much with them all... drinking, cinema etc. I guess you just need to find a group that you feel comfortable with and it will all fall into place :P

[buttons]

lol this is me all the goddamn time....

i would turn off my Internet, get up and dressed everyday which forces me to go outside and do something. i used to take walks in the morning (until my iPod broke :() which would always get me in the mood for going out and grabbing the world. so be ready everyday instead of sitting on the internet waiting for it to come to you.

do you have a local paper? people in my town complain about nothing to do but there are always activities going about. my church has suppers and activities during the summer (yknow just like mini sports days for families etc) which is always good. it's kinda hard to do these sorta stuff on your own like all my friends live out of town so im always alone and can only be with them if i go into town and i have no desire to hang out with anyone around here. id rather spend my time with older people. i would look for voluntary jobs if there aren't any jobs going about, i know my churches are always looking for volunteers and don't force you into anything you don't want.

also, take any opportunity. don't be like me weighing up the pros and cons and mulling it over for weeks on end. just look at the pros and go for it.

anyway this has inspired me to go out and do something yay. BUT I NEED TO REVISE.

[e5]

Blogs are an amazing way to meet new people! Girl in my school has gone massive with her blog and has met so many people through it!

firstly, don't tell yourself that you don't have a great personality. try and be confident, believe in yourself.
if you enjoy writing why not start a blog or something or try getting some experience from the local papers if you like.

[geo]

I'm kinda like you Warren, I want to do something but for reasons I feel like I can't. Anyway, a few weeks ago I saw Zoella post this YouTube video and it really got me thinking that the message is good, I should just start saying 'yes' to a few more things that I'd think were out of my comfort zone. You should take a watch, it could give you some ideas or a little bit more motivation. :D


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HG-WbtoAf2k

If you don't want to watch the video, she mentions something called NCS on there, and NCS is basically a 2 week activity course (that's not too expensive) and seems like a load of fun and an opportunity to do something and meet new friends.

Here's the website (http://www.ncsyes.co.uk/)

I'm really sorry if this isn't what you're looking for really but the idea of NCS does sound fun and would get you out and get you doing stuff you might never have done before.

[Ardemax]

*Sigh*

Lately I've just been really discontent with my life and just want to "do something" but I'm really not sure exactly what I mean by it. I just am really sick and tired of like sitting on my bed for so many hours in the day and not going out or anything, but when I go out I don't really know what to do... I only really hang with friends during college times (we'll prob meet up 2/3 times over summer) and I'm cool with it being only a couple of times, but I really wanna do something to like improve myself? Like how people say do 1 thing every day that scares you haha.

I enjoy typing and stuff (hence why all my depts on here are content based haha) and writing a bit irl and I'd love to kinda go out and get to know more people and stuff but I don't really like my personality and I don't have enough money to just go out and join clubs and stuff argh.

Idrk if you can gather what I'm saying but I'm fed up of wasting my life doing **** all really and idrk how to improve with no money/not such great personality.

In your spare time at home, why not start something like writing your own book? I'm sure it will keep you pre-occupied for long periods of time.

[Yawn]

get job

[Zelda]

I completely suffer from this too. I just wake up literally, go get my laptop sit on my bed and just mull over how terrible my life is every single day.

Knowing me I probably won't even see anyone over the holidays at all cause i'll just be so scared to do so or ask them or something. I know i've like made a list of things to do for myself, like a load of video games to play tv shows to catch up on series to watch etc, but I really want to get something done with my life really.

I've like been looking at jobs too like you Hayden but every single time I do I just can't find anything around me at all. I have sort of given up really ngl

I really want to actually do a project for myself really but I'm not sure what, something to keep me going and help me meet targets. I honestly not sure what I would do though, as I honestly don't know what I'm into anymore :(

[Kardan]

If you're really bored with your life, and really want something to do, and can't find a job... Why not volunteer work? Not only does it do something good for the community and those around you, but it gives you something to do and gives you valuable experience that can either help you later in life, or help you get a job :)

[Jurv]

i understand where you're coming from completely. i only ever seem to do something when i have money (which is hardly ever) getting a job is easier said than done too, there's so many places to apply but it's hard to actually get the job or even get an interview, i've been looking for months and not managed to get anywhere. whenever i do have money though i try to make the most out of it and go places i know i'll enjoy nd stuff. i've been going to the cinema and gigs quite a lot whenever i've had money which has been good & got me out the house for most of the day. idk what else to suggest rly as i'm sort of in the sitchuashoon

edit: why don't you ask if there's any jobs to do around the house or s/t to earn some money? or maybe ask other family if they have any jobs going
i've been doing some gardening for my nanna and her neighbours for the past couple of days (sweet aren't i) which has earned me some dolla dolla $$

[geo]

Just been talking to Tom about this and this could work:

Set yourself a bucket list, but start off with small achievements that still aren't in your comfort zone. So not even extreme activities or anything, but maybe just something you'd be too scared to do right now. If you put the tasks in order of how difficult you think they're gonna be, then you should start from the low end and work your way up. Each task you do you can kind of tick it off and feel like you've achieved something, and then always strive to better yourself. This might be able to help your confidence levels if you're struggling with that as you think you can achieve more and you can look back on the things you've done and know that you're able to do them. Or as Zoella said (I think) keep a diary. Write down the things you've done, so the next time you want to do something and you're feeling a little worried about doing it, read back on your diary and realise that you've already achieved so much and the next thing you want to do will be fine. Building up your confidence would really help with saying 'yes' to more things.

[MKR&*42]

I'm really sorry I haven't quoted all of you but thanks for all the replies so far, didn't expect this many :P


If you're really bored with your life, and really want something to do, and can't find a job... Why not volunteer work? Not only does it do something good for the community and those around you, but it gives you something to do and gives you valuable experience that can either help you later in life, or help you get a job :)

I wouldn't mind doing some volunteering if I'm stuck with no job, but I'm not too sure what most volunteering jobs entail exactly. I know there's a vast majority of stuff to do... but I honestly can't think of what most volunteers do haha.


In your spare time at home, why not start something like writing your own book? I'm sure it will keep you pre-occupied for long periods of time.

I wouldn't even know where to start with a book, I just can't develop plots and characters that easily in my mind. I wouldn't mind just writing some kind of journal or s/t if that's a bit similar :P


I'm kinda like you Warren, I want to do something but for reasons I feel like I can't. Anyway, a few weeks ago I saw Zoella post this YouTube video and it really got me thinking that the message is good, I should just start saying 'yes' to a few more things that I'd think were out of my comfort zone. You should take a watch, it could give you some ideas or a little bit more motivation. :D


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HG-WbtoAf2k

If you don't want to watch the video, she mentions something called NCS on there, and NCS is basically a 2 week activity course (that's not too expensive) and seems like a load of fun and an opportunity to do something and meet new friends.

Here's the website (http://www.ncsyes.co.uk/)

I'm really sorry if this isn't what you're looking for really but the idea of NCS does sound fun and would get you out and get you doing stuff you might never have done before.

Thank you so much for that video haha, I've needed something/someone for a long time to tell me "just say yes" and after I watched that video I decided to go and watch "Yes Man" which ran along the same theme (good film, everyone watch it). We were informed of the NCS back in school but I wasn't that interested in it back then, definitely seems more appealing right now.

In regards to your other post I have a mini set of goals for over summer but they're only very basic, so some stuff that's out of my comfort zone would probably help towards the whole "just say yes" attitude and it would be nice to look back and see all I've achieved so far.

Ty loads Geo :love:


also, take any opportunity. don't be like me weighing up the pros and cons and mulling it over for weeks on end. just look at the pros and go for it..

Never considered this stance, thank you for this great advice jen :)


Best thing, and how I met all of my best friends was getting a hobby. mine was in sport, they're now my best friends and I do so much with them all... drinking, cinema etc. I
guess you just need to find a group that you feel comfortable with and it will all fall into place :P

From your personal perspective, do you think it's ever too late to get into sports? I've never been a massive fan of them really but I'm going to try and get fitter over this summer - but I'd just feel a bit awkward if I was to join some kind of sports club with very little experience in said sport haha.


firstly, don't tell yourself that you don't have a great personality. try and be confident, believe in yourself.

I think I can be confident when I need to and out of all but 1/2 of my friends I seem to be the most confident, but around certain groups of people (primarily males if I'm honest) irl I lose all the confidence. I also don't consider myself to be that nice a person hence why I didn't really try and make that many friends in the past :P

thanks for the replies all

[buttons]

From your personal perspective, do you think it's ever too late to get into sports? I've never been a massive fan of them really but I'm going to try and get fitter over this summer - but I'd just feel a bit awkward if I was to join some kind of sports club with very little experience in said sport haha.
stop this right now! you are entitled to join a free for all club as much as anyone else. you can only improve in something if you try, so cliche but everyone starts somewhere! even if you're not good you can still enjoy it. not everything in life is something u have to be perfect at yknow. go enjoy life, it's your world too

as for volunteering here you can do volunteering such as those buckets for charity in the town centres etc or soup kitchens for homeless people, stuff like that. my gran used to do marie curie leaflets for free too. uh and there are volunteering groups to help disabled adults or kids. try volunteerscotland.org.uk lots of charity work

[Zelda]

mm yea I'm interested in getting into sports a bit too really, I've always been dreadful and been made fun of how bad I was though and it always put me off :( but I needa get fit too anyway tbh, and I just am struggling so much because I am in such a sticky situation that I can't even get out of.

I've started applying for jobs now at least anyway though, only done a Waitrose app so far but gonna be like really looking into it all this half term so at least I have something to do in the holidays and might make a few friends possibly lmfao.

I'm gonna like start writing that thing I was talking to geo about though cause that will definitely help me, just needa like start getting to going out with people a little more I suppose, but I just feel that I am such a boring person with no personality that I don't get why anyone would want to do anything with me really, which is sorta why I'm so reluctant to ask the girl out that I fancy too, even though I think she probably does like me from the way she acts around me.

The NCS stuff Geo was talking about too looks really good tbh but in all honesty I think it's that fear of actually just applying to it and getting into it really, surrounded by people I don't know and not one person I do I would probably just break down completely really and I just would be so uncomfortable.

Also been thinking about writing a diary recently though of just all the things that are plaguing me in life so I can actually start to deal with them really and also anything that's gone well that day so I can actually see how I'm progressing. With no-one to really talk to about everything that goes on irl I sorta just bottle everything up and I really think like a diary would be great to just let my feelings out really

[MKR&*42]

stop this right now! you are entitled to join a free for all club as much as anyone else. you can only improve in something if you try, so cliche but everyone starts somewhere! even if you're not good you can still enjoy it. not everything in life is something u have to be perfect at yknow. go enjoy life, it's your world too

as for volunteering here you can do volunteering such as those buckets for charity in the town centres etc or soup kitchens for homeless people, stuff like that. my gran used to do marie curie leaflets for free too. uh and there are volunteering groups to help disabled adults or kids. try volunteerscotland.org.uk lots of charity work

Link doesn't work atm but I'll check back later :P That type of volunteering doesn't sound too bad in all honesty.

Thank you for that advice on starting a new hobby/sport as well xD.

[e5]

From your personal perspective, do you think it's ever too late to get into sports? I've never been a massive fan of them really but I'm going to try and get fitter over this summer - but I'd just feel a bit awkward if I was to join some kind of sports club with very little experience in said sport haha.


No not at all. I am constantly trying to get all and any new players trying to play my sport - hockey. I captain our 2nd team and run alot of the stuff within the club, including our website and i get emails all the time from parents wanting their kids to join and I welcome it and encourage them. I'm one of those who will automatically assume people will shy so make a special effort to make them feel welcome and get to know them personally so they feel welcome. become friends with so many of the new lot through this, and we have people of all ages joining, from ages 12-40+ haha! It's never too late :D

[Shar]

You're a wonderful person. believe in yourself. you can do anything if you put your mind to it. always believe that you can, never think you're not good enough.

[Mark]

Find a hobby or get a job of some sort. Maybe volunteer at a charity shop or something just to pass the time?

[Catchy]

write a book?????? oh and to pick up on what Mark; said, volunteering is a great way to improve your skills and meet new ppl plus employers love voluntary work on your cv.

[Metric1]

have a ****.. always makes me feel better!

[Empired]

Think of things you really enjoy doing and then see if you could do something productive to do with them? For example, I am a huge Harry Potter fan and overheard this girl I don't really know talking about this meetup thing so I thought I'd ask her about it and I've met like 20 people from it. Maybe this was a bad example. Don't judge me :'(

YEAH OTHERWISE.. Just go to a gym, start jogging, whatever. Exercise makes you happy (so I've heard ;) )

[Gibs960]

I feel exactly the same way, basically everyone in my area, that is my age, goes to the same school, so I have to hang around with certain people, not really by choice, tbh I don't really like them but without them I wouldn't have any friends around here. So I just spend all my free time inside.

[Zak]

*Sigh*

Lately I've just been really discontent with my life and just want to "do something" but I'm really not sure exactly what I mean by it. I just am really sick and tired of like sitting on my bed for so many hours in the day and not going out or anything, but when I go out I don't really know what to do... I only really hang with friends during college times (we'll prob meet up 2/3 times over summer) and I'm cool with it being only a couple of times, but I really wanna do something to like improve myself? Like how people say do 1 thing every day that scares you haha.

I enjoy typing and stuff (hence why all my depts on here are content based haha) and writing a bit irl and I'd love to kinda go out and get to know more people and stuff but I don't really like my personality and I don't have enough money to just go out and join clubs and stuff argh.

Idrk if you can gather what I'm saying but I'm fed up of wasting my life doing **** all really and idrk how to improve with no money/not such great personality.

I used to think like this. Like no friends, wasting life etc.. but I don't really like having friends.. and I don't really like going out all that often. I guess I just accepted who I am - I like sitting on my computer (playing games) on my own and keeping myself to myself :)

You're not wasting your life if you enjoy what you're doing... and I enjoy what I'm doing :) do you?

[MKR&*42]

You're not wasting your life if you enjoy what you're doing... and I enjoy what I'm doing :) do you?

I enjoy some stuff, like I wouldn't really give up the internet fully because, although it is 1 of the main reasons I had no social life, I still enjoy using it. But I don't enjoy the fact I could be out there doing more stuff, gets really irritating doing the same thing every day.

[geo]

mm yea I'm interested in getting into sports a bit too really, I've always been dreadful and been made fun of how bad I was though and it always put me off :( but I needa get fit too anyway tbh, and I just am struggling so much because I am in such a sticky situation that I can't even get out of.

I've started applying for jobs now at least anyway though, only done a Waitrose app so far but gonna be like really looking into it all this half term so at least I have something to do in the holidays and might make a few friends possibly lmfao.

I'm gonna like start writing that thing I was talking to geo about though cause that will definitely help me, just needa like start getting to going out with people a little more I suppose, but I just feel that I am such a boring person with no personality that I don't get why anyone would want to do anything with me really, which is sorta why I'm so reluctant to ask the girl out that I fancy too, even though I think she probably does like me from the way she acts around me.

The NCS stuff Geo was talking about too looks really good tbh but in all honesty I think it's that fear of actually just applying to it and getting into it really, surrounded by people I don't know and not one person I do I would probably just break down completely really and I just would be so uncomfortable.

Also been thinking about writing a diary recently though of just all the things that are plaguing me in life so I can actually start to deal with them really and also anything that's gone well that day so I can actually see how I'm progressing. With no-one to really talk to about everything that goes on irl I sorta just bottle everything up and I really think like a diary would be great to just let my feelings out really

Chances are that a few people at NCS are going to be like you, just trying to get out instead of doing nothing. :P You're not the only one so I wouldn't think you'd be alone, and people would make efforts to meet new friends I'm sure.

[Zak]

I enjoy some stuff, like I wouldn't really give up the internet fully because, although it is 1 of the main reasons I had no social life, I still enjoy using it. But I don't enjoy the fact I could be out there doing more stuff, gets really irritating doing the same thing every day.

It's unusual because I've felt the same way for a long time. You feel like you're missing out?

My life actually isn't that bad. I do go out quite a lot - that's because I have a girlfriend though. Without her I'd be in your situation (A situation I was in like for years).. It can be hard sometimes.. being on the internet ruined my social life too but would I change what I did? No. I'm a loser, I love the internet and I love the people I know on the internet :)

[MKR&*42]

It's unusual because I've felt the same way for a long time. You feel like you're missing out?

My life actually isn't that bad. I do go out quite a lot - that's because I have a girlfriend though. Without her I'd be in your situation (A situation I was in like for years).. It can be hard sometimes.. being on the internet ruined my social life too but would I change what I did? No. I'm a loser, I love the internet and I love the people I know on the internet :)

I love the majority people I've online (mainly hxf) too, but yeah i still feel like I wanna go out and see more haha. You might be used to doing the same thing on the internet but after 4 or so years (my god it's been that long :() I'm irritated from it.

Each to their own I suppose :P

[Zelda]

I do wonder if I'm missing out on much sometimes really with the lack of social life tbh. Like I've always thought it just seems boring to go out and do something with friends, can't really see anything that would be particularly interesting with that, (not interested in parties or anything and hate shopping etc) while I would much rather sit at home and play through like a zelda game or whatever and do what I enjoy.

makes me wonder like if I should just do what you said Zak and do what I enjoy really, instead of just like trying to make a massive effort to break through my horrible social and mental problems to try and get even a small social life that I probably wouldn't enjoy lmfao

[Zak]

I do wonder if I'm missing out on much sometimes really with the lack of social life tbh. Like I've always thought it just seems boring to go out and do something with friends, can't really see anything that would be particularly interesting with that, (not interested in parties or anything and hate shopping etc) while I would much rather sit at home and play through like a zelda game or whatever and do what I enjoy.

makes me wonder like if I should just do what you said Zak and do what I enjoy really, instead of just like trying to make a massive effort to break through my horrible social and mental problems to try and get even a small social life that I probably wouldn't enjoy lmfao

I think a lot of people on HxF feel the same way. I think just like you, going out with friends? That's jsut effort on my part - and if I do go out I'll only be bored. Even more creepy that I played Zelda on Saturday for 3 hours - completed the Great Bay Temple on Majora's Mask :P

I eventually just gave up trying to be someone I'm not. I like being on my own, playing Runescape.. watching wrestling in my room. Playing with the dogs, collecting Pokemon cards! :P I think when you give in you'll feel better.. but don't let that stop you from doing anything. I still go out and do things but that's only because I have Laura .. Like I said.

I'm very lucky to have someone like that.

[Zelda]

I think a lot of people on HxF feel the same way. I think just like you, going out with friends? That's jsut effort on my part - and if I do go out I'll only be bored. Even more creepy that I played Zelda on Saturday for 3 hours - completed the Great Bay Temple on Majora's Mask :P

I eventually just gave up trying to be someone I'm not. I like being on my own, playing Runescape.. watching wrestling in my room. Playing with the dogs, collecting Pokemon cards! :P I think when you give in you'll feel better.. but don't let that stop you from doing anything. I still go out and do things but that's only because I have Laura .. Like I said.

I'm very lucky to have someone like that.

o god majoras mask was all i was doing a couple of weeks back tbh LMAO but I halted game playing after I finished it while I do my exams :(

yea I have felt really tempted to give in at the moment, the thing is for me I'm not lucky enough to have someone like that around me :( That might change if I can pluck the courage to ask this girl I really care about out but I doubt that'd happen tbh knowing what I'm like.

[Kardan]

o god majoras mask was all i was doing a couple of weeks back tbh LMAO but I halted game playing after I finished it while I do my exams :(

yea I have felt really tempted to give in at the moment, the thing is for me I'm not lucky enough to have someone like that around me :( That might change if I can pluck the courage to ask this girl I really care about out but I doubt that'd happen tbh knowing what I'm like.

Today I learned that you're male.

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[Catchy]

I think what you're all going through is completely normal. Everyone has a stage like this in their lives but things DO get better! mcdonalds; you're still young so you're really limited in what you can do, I was the same at your age but as I got older I started to do more things and then once I went to college my social life really had improved, you meet new people and make new friends it's totally different than your school days. Just try and enjoy the time you have with your friends at school right now because honestly, you'll be sat there in a few years thinking "where did all that time go?".

But yeah, everyone is beating themselves up about not making the most out of life or whatever, instead of doing that take onboard what others have suggested. At the end of the day it's your own lives and you're the only ones who can change them.

[Shar]

I think what you're all going through is completely normal. Everyone has a stage like this in their lives but things DO get better! mcdonalds; you're still young so you're really limited in what you can do, I was the same at your age but as I got older I started to do more things and then once I went to college my social life really had improved, you meet new people and make new friends it's totally different than your school days. Just try and enjoy the time you have with your friends at school right now because honestly, you'll be sat there in a few years thinking "where did all that time go?".

But yeah, everyone is beating themselves up about not making the most out of life or whatever, instead of doing that take onboard what others have suggested. At the end of the day it's your own lives and you're the only ones who can change them.

Totally agree with you. I bet there's a few people off here including myself who need to sit around on hxf/habbo/laptop etc all day and mope around thinking wth am I doing with my life. It is up to you to take some action and make things better by doing something with yourself. It's easy for people to give advice but the hard part is for you to actually wanting to take it and act upon it and make the best of it otherwise ite just pointless words that won't make you feel better no matter why anyone days.

[Zak]

o god majoras mask was all i was doing a couple of weeks back tbh LMAO but I halted game playing after I finished it while I do my exams :(

yea I have felt really tempted to give in at the moment, the thing is for me I'm not lucky enough to have someone like that around me :( That might change if I can pluck the courage to ask this girl I really care about out but I doubt that'd happen tbh knowing what I'm like.


Today I learned that you're male.

Yeh wtf ??????????????????? :S

What - I just looked and your name is Tom and you're a boy. *REMOVED*

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[Soy]

Shot in the dark with this one, but you sound either depressed or lack self confidence. Im no psychologist, but trust me these types of issues are alot more common than you think and you can seek guidance and advice online on how you are feeling.


Google the two, there are many different kinds of mental problems one can go through in life, don't be afraid to tackle your emotions and be in control of your thoughts. I've gone through it.