Estranged family members

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Estranged: Adjective(of a person) No longer close or affectionate to someone; alienated.
so for example, if your parents are divorced and you no longer hear from one of them. or you have a family member who has done a lot of damage to your family + so you don't keep in touch. or even just a whole side of your family.

ive been thinking about this a lot & gonna ask 2 questions, for ppl who already are estranged/not close to a family member/members.

1) would you invite them to your wedding?
2) would you go to their funeral?

i will post mine once others do

[j0rd]

1) would you invite them to your wedding? no.
2) would you go to their funeral? yeah to celebrate

[lemons]

no and no

[karter]

there is no way i am inviting them to my wedding

funeral probably because not attending funerals is just disrespectful and uncultured and i wasnt raised in a jungle

[wixard]

my mum would make me do both out of respect
and i wouldn't refuse

i will not however, let my dad walk me down the aisle
my brother will do that, if it ever happens

[Cerys]

um ima do this about my dad who i hate with all my heart and i wish to never see/speak to him again. ever.

1) would you invite them to your wedding? no. or maybe yes and send him to the wrong location. ;/
2) would you go to their funeral? no .

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my mum would make me do both out of respect
and i wouldn't refuse

i will not however, let my dad walk me down the aisle
my brother will do that, if it ever happens
yes im going to ask my eldest brother to do the same

would prob do more damage to not invite my other brother so i prob will but he will hopefully be a million miles away or in jail by that time, prob won't go to his funeral unless my mum is still alive, just to keep her happy.

wont invite my dad to my wedding incase he says no and if he does want to then he deserves to miss out seeing as he has missed out on my life since i was 12 anyways. prob not go to his funeral as hate his family n couldn't care less if they think im disrespectful. prob just go to the viewing of the body (w.e that's called) and/or pay my respects at the grave.

not going to my grandad, that's any easy one seeing as he doesn't even know me & prob won't go to my grans unless mum makes me, she usually gives me the choice tho unless its her own family (who i would go to)

[lawrawrrr]

My uncle is estranged, mum & man cut him off when he moved to Canada. Last I heard was about 10 years ago. I've found out I have at least 2 more cousins but I'm not supposed to know that - I'd like to meet them!

I wouldn't know how to invite him or anything but I would like to meet him again.


on phone xx

[MKR&*42]

My dad is the only one I can think of oh and step dad but he's a **** so ye

i would invite my dad to my wedding and go to his funeral.

[Kardan]

I don't have any contact with my Dad's side of my family even though I still live with him. My mum and dad are seperated, and my Dad's side of my family can't stand my mum (they never did really), and with that they've pretty much bundled me and my mum together, which sucks.

I wouldn't invite them to my wedding, but would probably attend the funeral for my Dad.

[geo]

1. possibly, but only if it was a request from my parents. if i really hated them then i probably wouldn't.
2. same again, only if my parents really wanted me to unless i hated them.

[e5]

1) would you invite them to your wedding? no
2) would you go to their funeral? yes if my other close family did

depends how distant they were from us now or w/e. luckily don't have any like that

[FlyingJesus]

I don't have any estranged family members, if there was anyone who'd get cut off it'd probably end up being me lol

[Shar]

1) would you invite them to your wedding? Yes
2) would you go to their funeral? Yes

[Elegance]

yes to both. no matter how much damage they have done, they are still family :)

[Ekelektra]

1) would you invite them to your wedding?
For my mum's parents no, they never made any effort to get to know my mum's kids and never offered help to my mum so I wouldn't make the effort to invite them to my wedding when they wouldn't even come. They'd see it and probably think "who on Earth is this girl??" I've never even met them and I know my mum wouldn't mind.

For my Auntie who kinda cut herself off, I would. Because although we haven't talked in years and she was basically like "no one talk to me" we were once really close and I know she still lives where she always has so I would invite her. If she comes then that's great if not I wouldn't mind. We still send her invitations to family things even though she never turns up. I also get the impression that this "no one talk to me" thing is something she has done before, so by the time I'm engaged she might be speaking to us again.

2) would you go to their funeral?
For my mum parents no, I don't even know if my mum would although she would get told it was on by her siblings.

For my Auntie yes I would.