Stuck in a rut

[Gibs960]

As some of you may know I moved to live with my Dad about 2 years ago and it was going alright until last year. I don't know what changed exactly but I could feel myself getting sadder and lonelier every day. I've always had problems with school but it reached a climax at my previous school where I was abused by teachers and some times pupils, I think that was the spark that started the fire. I am an extrovert but I have found myself with no real friends to talk to besides old friends that I had from when I lived at my mums and even then, there's only two people who I can really call friends. I spend most of my time alone in my bedroom now, I don't really socialise a lot even though I love to.

But now I find myself feeling worse than ever because I've been living with my mum for 4 weeks during the holidays and I was so happy and forgot about how lonely I was, but as soon as I stepped in to my room I remembered and I cried for an hour or so.

I don't know what I expect to gain from this post, advice probably or reassurance?

Thanks for reading this anyway.

[Absently]

have you thought about maybe joining some clubs either outside or inside of school? i'm sure that could help with making new friends and being out socialising will help a lot

[Empired]

I have to say: been there, done that. Uhh I think you need to remember that (regardless of what people say) your teenage years are pretty much the worst years of your life. You're trying to get out there, bend the rules, stretch the boundaries and explore new things. However, you have to do all of that while battling your own body which is basically working against you for the moment. It sucks, but if we think positively then we have to think about how from here it can only get better.

Perhaps you should join some classes and find some hobbies (not the internet ok) because if you find something you really enjoy doing, you're inevitably going to meet people who share the same interests as you. I suggest you really do make an effort at this and then stick with these friends rather than the people at school. I think adults often assume that forcing a bunch of teenagers within the same age group together will make them friends but it's basically exactly the opposite of that.

I notice you're a Hopeful and I really encourage this. I know I said try to find hobbies that aren't internet-related but I always find Carrie such a lovely spirit who can't help but bring a smile to my face that I almost forget she's only on a screen. I know she tells a lot of you that you can get in contact with her (I forget how but I assume you could do it by facebook, twitter, youtube comments or possibly even email) and tell her your trouble. I know it seems weird telling a stranger something so personal but you've just done it for us, right?

Anyway, good luck with life (lol). I know we don't know each other but I would be more than happy for you to PM me if you really feel like you're heading in a downward spiral :)

[mrwoooooooo]

get off habbox and habbo

[Gibs960]

have you thought about maybe joining some clubs either outside or inside of school? i'm sure that could help with making new friends and being out socialising will help a lot

I live in a small town, everyone of my age group goes to the same school, so I know everyone it's just I don't feel that I'm friends with them.

[lawrawrrr]

It sounds like you're one of those people who hate being stuck in a routine or in the same place to be honest. If you say moving to each place you were happy at first, then get stuck in a routine/rut (however you wanna describe it) and get fed up and revert to the stage you're in.

It's easy to get memories flooding back when you go to an old place, but you just need to tell yourself... that's in the past, I'm a different person now etc etc. As for friends, if there are only two you can really call friends, focus on those, it's better than having none, right? Otherwise try activities which might make you friends, I know being back in roles at Habbox means I've been talking to people more, old and new, which keeps me busy more than anything!

Even if you like, go out, it doesn't even need to be with people, and don't turn down invitations because you might not know who they are completely.

The only thing I can advise is finding different things that keep you happy and/or occupied, I've not been in quite the same situation as you but I do understand what it's like to get stuck in that rut and get quite depressed over it.

I hope this helps at all :)

[Gibs960]

It sounds like you're one of those people who hate being stuck in a routine or in the same place to be honest. If you say moving to each place you were happy at first, then get stuck in a routine/rut (however you wanna describe it) and get fed up and revert to the stage you're in.

It's easy to get memories flooding back when you go to an old place, but you just need to tell yourself... that's in the past, I'm a different person now etc etc. As for friends, if there are only two you can really call friends, focus on those, it's better than having none, right? Otherwise try activities which might make you friends, I know being back in roles at Habbox means I've been talking to people more, old and new, which keeps me busy more than anything!

Even if you like, go out, it doesn't even need to be with people, and don't turn down invitations because you might not know who they are completely.

The only thing I can advise is finding different things that keep you happy and/or occupied, I've not been in quite the same situation as you but I do understand what it's like to get stuck in that rut and get quite depressed over it.

I hope this helps at all :)

I don't know if I should tell my mum or dad or something though?

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[Empired]

I don't know if I should tell my mum or dad or something though?

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Always do! The more people that know (who you trust :rolleyes:), the more chance of it getting fixed.

[lawrawrrr]

I don't know if I should tell my mum or dad or something though?

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It depends what sort of relationship you have with them; if you think they'd help and/or come up with suggestions then maybe think about telling them?

[Gibs960]

It depends what sort of relationship you have with them; if you think they'd help and/or come up with suggestions then maybe think about telling them?

Well I'm thinking of moving back to my Mum's, but I really like my school. Thats the only reason I'm staying at my dads

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[lawrawrrr]

Well I'm thinking of moving back to my Mum's, but I really like my school. Thats the only reason I'm staying at my dads

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Is there no way to stay at your mum's and commute to school?

What about living at your dad's at the weekend, maybe not every weekend but some weekends? That gives it a bit of a change?

[Gibs960]

Is there no way to stay at your mum's and commute to school?

What about living at your dad's at the weekend, maybe not every weekend but some weekends? That gives it a bit of a change?

My mum lives in Manchester and my Dad lives in Stoke. Not ages away but I dunno about commuting.

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