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buttons
20-01-2014, 10:59 AM
progressive means that the illness only gets worse, may lead to complications such as being wheelchair bound or early death

so say u had an incurable, progressive disease where death is certain, would u stay with ur partner? cause i have the feeling at my age I would dump them so they could live a happy life
and vice versa, if your partner had an incurable disease, would u stay with them? i most likely would

Kardan
20-01-2014, 11:10 AM
I would stay, so would she.

Cassiieee
20-01-2014, 11:13 AM
I would stay. It's the only right thing to do.

lucaskf390
20-01-2014, 11:16 AM
If real love exists, no one will leave your half.

Shar
20-01-2014, 11:18 AM
I would stay.

buttons
20-01-2014, 11:23 AM
well yeah am assuming most people would want to stay if their partner had it
but is it just me who would feel guilty if my partner had to give me round the clock care, what would u do if u were in the position? I would prob tell them to go live their life with someone else cause no point being with me if I can't provide them with anything but sadness. obviously if my partner was to say that to me I'd find it ridiculous but i just know that's what id feel like.

Shar
20-01-2014, 11:26 AM
I would tell them to go and live their life and not feel bad or like they are betraying me. I'd want them to be happy.

Eric
20-01-2014, 02:16 PM
I would stay

Charz777
20-01-2014, 02:20 PM
I would stay. I couldn't possibly leave him.

If it was me, I'd really want him to stay, and be eternally grateful if he did, but I wouldn't expect him to as I'd feel guilty.

wixard
20-01-2014, 02:31 PM
yeah of course id give them the option to leave, imo the relationship would probably deteriorate on it's own after awhile anyway

Phil
20-01-2014, 03:39 PM
Is scottish; okay?!?!?!

And yh I would

Cerys
20-01-2014, 03:42 PM
I'd want him to go if I had the illness, I'd feel guilty I guess?

But if he had the illness I wouldn't leave even if he wanted me to.

buttons
20-01-2014, 04:40 PM
Is @scottish (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=53890); okay?!?!?!

And yh I would
was waiting for that but no, maybe it's about me...

sex
20-01-2014, 04:41 PM
would kill them to end it quicker

-Amyy
20-01-2014, 04:47 PM
If it was them then yes I would definitely stay and do everything I could to help them

But if it was me then I wouldn't expect them to stay and kinda wouldn't want them to unless they really wanted to because I'd feel like I was ruining their life and they should go be happy etc

Empired
20-01-2014, 04:53 PM
I feel so mean saying this but *at this moment in time* I would leave if they had some incurable disease. Not because I stop loving them but because I'm already losing 2 people in my immediate family to incurable diseases now. I'm not going through a third. I'd help in any way I could but I wouldn't want to be in any kind of romantic relationship with them. I'd want to distance myself from them as much as I can before they're gone so it hurts less (if that makes sense?).

Same the other way round. If I found out I had an incurable disease I don't even think I'd give them a say or a decision. Unless we were married or had been together for years and years, I would just leave without telling them about whatever I'd got. It would be easier for them in the long run that way.

I guess I can't really say what I'd do though. I suppose I'm only saying these things now because I don't have someone. It would probably be totally different in the moment..

buttons
20-01-2014, 05:06 PM
I feel so mean saying this but *at this moment in time* I would leave if they had some incurable disease. Not because I stop loving them but because I'm already losing 2 people in my immediate family to incurable diseases now. I'm not going through a third. I'd help in any way I could but I wouldn't want to be in any kind of romantic relationship with them. I'd want to distance myself from them as much as I can before they're gone so it hurts less (if that makes sense?).

Same the other way round. If I found out I had an incurable disease I don't even think I'd give them a say or a decision. Unless we were married or had been together for years and years, I would just leave without telling them about whatever I'd got. It would be easier for them in the long run that way.

I guess I can't really say what I'd do though. I suppose I'm only saying these things now because I don't have someone. It would probably be totally different in the moment..
i feel u but i think if you're completely in love with someone then ul devote yourself to them no matter what
n im the same i think i would make up excuse to finish the relationship even make up lies to hurt them n make them stop loving me but yhhh dunno

Chris
20-01-2014, 05:25 PM
I would stay and I would like to think they would too.

karter
20-01-2014, 05:29 PM
i would stay but it'll be so sad :(

FlyingJesus
20-01-2014, 08:30 PM
Would it make them ugly

e5
20-01-2014, 08:31 PM
I'd stay. But I'd insist they left me so they could live a happy life.

Aiden
20-01-2014, 08:39 PM
I would stay, so would she.

CONTROLLING. CHANGE THAT WOULD TO WILL.

:D

I'd leave them.

Kardan
20-01-2014, 11:06 PM
CONTROLLING. CHANGE THAT WOULD TO WILL.

:D

I'd leave them.

Saying will would imply that it is happening, wouldn't it?

Aiden
20-01-2014, 11:07 PM
Saying will would imply that it is happening, wouldn't it?

i dunno
ur the smart one

buttons
20-01-2014, 11:14 PM
Would it make them ugly
Er lets say no...? but they'd be in a wheelchair cud u handle tht
n would u be comfortable with allowing ur partner look after u or would be like NOR LEAVE ME

Catchy
20-01-2014, 11:23 PM
One of my sisters friends mum had some disease (can't remember what it was but she was really disabled). She was with a guy who took care of her and think he felt like he had to, she was obviously in no fit state to fulfil his 'needs' so to speak so he got it else wear, pretty sure she knew about it too but didn't say anything. Dunno what I'd do, at this age I'd leave them as I wouldn't be able to cope with it but obviously if you've been in a long term relationship say 10 years plus, I think it would be different.

FlyingJesus
20-01-2014, 11:36 PM
Wheelchairs are fun so idk, if I was able to support them then yeah why not it's not like my love life would need to involve playing football with them or w/e

As for if it happened to me then sure I like being looked after it makes things easy and if I can't use my legs then they'll get really thin *+*+*

scottish
21-01-2014, 05:19 AM
i feel u but i think if you're completely in love with someone then ul devote yourself to them no matter what
n im the same i think i would make up excuse to finish the relationship even make up lies to hurt them n make them stop loving me but yhhh dunno

god forbid you ever get an incurable disease, but if you do I know your plan, so it won't work anymore.

But OP we'd both stay apparently (I deffo would)

Daltron
22-01-2014, 06:26 AM
If they wanted me to stay I would

despect
22-01-2014, 01:41 PM
I'd stay for sure. I really couldn't leave them, that is just heartless.

Liva
24-01-2014, 01:45 PM
I would like to think I would want them to get over me and move on so they don't suffer when it happens, but knowing my boyfriend, I really don't think he would go anywhere. He'd ride it out with me until the end.

If it was reversed, I would definitely stay with him and make his life as enjoyable as it could be. ♥

-Moniquee.
24-01-2014, 11:54 PM
I would stay, I would just want them to be positive and happy.

OldLoveSong
25-01-2014, 01:54 AM
HONESTLY DNO WHAT ID DO ID PROB STAY WITH THEM ......MAYBE

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