Online Dating

[Becca]

I know it's a very weird question and I'm sorry if it's been made before but...

Would you e-date someone? Due to Habbox being a Habbo fansite I mean off Habbo Hotel. What if they are from another country? Just honest opinions that all.

I think if you're not under 18 and you can afford to meet someone even from a different country, why not? Who cares where you met them as long as you love them to bits, there should be no problem.

Holla at all the Habbox couples x

[lemons]

i agree with u!

[Futz]

long distance relationships can work if you both put the effort in

I love foreign girls so much

where can I meet eastern europeans

[Samantha]

I used to, I haven't for around 3/4 years now. As long as you put the effort in and agree on whether it's just an online relationship or a proper one (providing you meet) I think they can work even if they're in another country :P.

[lemons]

i remember when casinos existed so many of their owners use to date eachother

[Sharon]

i think if you're committed to making it work, it's the cutest thing and i completely support it. one of my fave scottish couples like eveeeeeer that i used to be close to know each other from hxf and have been officially together over a year now and are an irl couple!! (guess who) they're just proof it works, and so are other couples on here. idk it's cute and i would myself, but i can't see myself ever getting that close with some1 on here since no one is rly what im looking for to be honest

i couldn't do it with some1 from another country tho if i knew we would never meet, just wouldn't work on my behalf

[iBlueBox]

No I wouldn't e-date someone


my friend James is like on POF and all that weird stuff, he even signed up to match.com by accident and he's scared to tell his parents and tis taking it out his bank account

[buttons]

well i only count it as edating if you date exclusively online. i did do that when i first started using the internet frequently and no boys liked me irl but it was nothing serious, all lasted less than a week. this relationship we did wait until we met before deciding if we were going to get together.

if i found myself single again, i wouldnt try internet dating again. too much people thinking they know your relationship. too much questions of whether the attraction will be the same irl. if it's long distance then one will eventually have to leave their life at home to be with the other. i can barely handle being 200 miles away but it's a good thing we're in the same country otherwise id probably have never tried in the first place.

i follow a few long distance people on tumblr, they're rly cute. also watched videos of them meeting for the first time, sweet but cringy at the same time lol

[Absently]

i count e-dating as solely online and long-distance where you've met atleast once. i don't see the point in e-dating unless you actually have a set date to meeting and it's not just sticking to online. personally, i think you need the physical contact irl to maintain the relationship and also people are not exactly 100% the same irl as they are online no matter how open you are. long-distance is hard and i used to hate it so much, you just end up counting down each minute until you see each other again and trust is so important in the relationship. i remember just constantly rushing home so i could talk to my other half and unless you balance it correctly you can become really unsociable. jake and i didnt start dating until we met up because we wanted to make sure we both knew we'd made the right choice, but even though you say you're not dating, you may aswell be with how you act just without the physical and official title :P

[Sian]

i dont anymore, but i dont see it as that much of a problem. There's the whole catfish thing online, so people need to be wary but it can work.

[Futz]

I think you have to be a special kind of dumbass to get catfished though

especially with how easy it is for people to verify themselves nowerdays

[buttons]

ya i would webcam someone if i was meeting them alone. cammed w/ everyone iv met other than mike and simon but met them with other people so wasn't too worried if they ended up being weird. didn't rly think about it tho tbh, too trusting :l

[Yawn]

if it works for u then why not

i dont think long distance is gonna work out well most of the time online or not tho

[MKR&*42]

I think you have to be a special kind of dumbass to get catfished though

especially with how easy it is for people to verify themselves nowerdays

Quite a lot of catfishes are getting more ''advanced'' though. Several episodes of the TV show catfish (hell even the documentary) have proven that some will go to daring lengths :P
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Ot: I probably wouldnt edate at this time in my life but i do not care if people do.

[Inseriousity.]

I put myself off dating Rosy for ages beforehand because I was worried the distance would just doom it before it started. True, we've been dating for a year and a half now without meeting irl and it sucks sometimes not going to deny that but I'm just so happy and we've been dating so long now I just can't imagine my day without her in it now. All what Jen says is true though and if we get there, one day we'll have to face those challenges but when you find someone you love, you can get over any obstacle.

[Zak]

I wouldn't e-date no.

[Kardan]

I count e-dating as dating exclusively online, so no real life contact, and as someone that's never tried it, I wouldn't consider doing it. I don't understand how you could have a relationship that is purely online.

[FlyingJesus]

Yeah it would be great you don't have to put in any effort and stuff

[Absently]

oh i forgot to mention, i edated on habbo when i was like 10/11, both of them gave me furni tho :P


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

[Becca]

all of u break my heart!
idk i thought it was a very limited thing

[Naturlee]

If you asked me this about 5 years ago I'd have said yeah I would e-date somebody. I don't recall ever having a serious online relationship apart from those nooby days on Habbo where I wanted a husband and kids... However, I definitely wouldn't now that I have experienced a 'real life' relationship and couldn't be happier.

[Becca]

If you asked me this about 5 years ago I'd have said yeah I would e-date somebody. I don't recall ever having a serious online relationship apart from those nooby days on Habbo where I wanted a husband and kids... However, I definitely wouldn't now that I have experienced a 'real life' relationship and couldn't be happier.

Hmm what if you broke up though, met someone online and then fell in love with them or had strong feelings towards them? Would you do it? Like if you could meet occasionally and be happy?

[Naturlee]

Hmm what if you broke up though, met someone online and then fell in love with them or had strong feelings towards them? Would you do it? Like if you could meet occasionally and be happy?

I guess so maybe yeah! If it was purely an online thing I doubt I would do it but if meeting was involved then maybe yeah!!

[FlyingJesus]

I (like most of us prob) had a phase where I could think of nothing worse than online dating because it was always associated with being a loser who can't get a "real" partner but it's really the most viable option for many people who are too busy/not the type to go out scouring clubs for a hook-up and hoping that one will randomly be your true love forever

[Becca]

I guess so maybe yeah! If it was purely an online thing I doubt I would do it but if meeting was involved then maybe yeah!!

Well when you're older I guess you can afford to see each other, even if it's over seas

[Naturlee]

Well when you're older I guess you can afford to see each other, even if it's over seas

Yeah exactly. Don't get me wrong when two people love each other distance shouldn't matter but I doubt that I would be the one for a long distance relationship. It works for some people and I'm pleased about that :)

[crystaldd0]

I see no problem with dating someone you met online, even if they live in a different country. If both people are committed to each other and making the relationship work, anything is possible. As the saying goes, distance only matters to the mind not to the heart. I'm currently dating someone I met on Habbo from Canada (me being from America) and I've known him for about 5 years now. We only just recently started dating, mostly because we were both too stubborn before on sharing our feelings towards one another. There was even a long period of time (roughly a year) where we didn't even speak to each other because we had a falling out over me finding interest in another guy. However, in the end we came back to each other. As a matter of fact he'll be coming to visit me sometime within the next few months. We do a lot of cute things in the meantime though. We watch movies together in Skype calls, go on webcam a lot, and sometimes we even fall asleep with each other in a Skype call. He's the most perfect guy for me in the entire universe and I don't think I'll ever find anyone else who makes me as happy as he does. :Heart:

[Becca]

I see no problem with dating someone you met online, even if they live in a different country. If both people are committed to each other and making the relationship work, anything is possible. As the saying goes, distance only matters to the mind not to the heart. I'm currently dating someone I met on Habbo from Canada (me being from America) and I've known him for about 5 years now. We only just recently started dating, mostly because we were both too stubborn before on sharing our feelings towards one another. There was even a long period of time (roughly a year) where we didn't even speak to each other because we had a falling out over me finding interest in another guy. However, in the end we came back to each other. As a matter of fact he'll be coming to visit me sometime within the next few months. We do a lot of cute things in the meantime though. We watch movies together in Skype calls, go on webcam a lot, and sometimes we even fall asleep with each other in a Skype call. He's the most perfect guy for me in the entire universe and I don't think I'll ever find anyone else who makes me as happy as he does. :Heart:

YOU MADE ME MELT OH MY GOD
that is adorable
well me and Yupt watched films on sk but i hate him???

[lemons]

i think it's certainly acceptable as long as you can regularly meet up and enjoy urselves! some peeps are very diff irl compared to what theyre like online

[Becca]

i think it's certainly acceptable as long as you can regularly meet up and enjoy urselves! some peeps are very diff irl compared to what theyre like online

yh tbf im like a saint irl and im nice to everyone whereas on here im a little cow

[Brad]

yh tbf im like a saint irl and im nice to everyone whereas on here im a little cow

Boo, you're no cow. <3

I think it can be done, but it has to be taken seriously for both sides. :)

[Becca]

Boo, you're no cow. <3

I think it can be done, but it has to be taken seriously for both sides. :)

i'll be your lil cow <3

[Logandyer45]

I have had my share of long distance and online relationships.

None of them worked out, but to be completely honest, I probably could not date anyone from a different country, but I could date someone from inside the states or even Canada.

If you both put effort into the relationship, then it could possibly work out.

My rebuttle to someone that would disagree and say how would you ever see them would be, you could A) Skype them or B) FaceTime (Same Country Only for me as my plan doesn't include country to country calls) or C) Meet up with them in real life. (Providing its not 3 thousand miles).

Just my take.


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[RyRy]

Done it plenty of times, enough to say it's not for me anymore. Online dating is fine if that's what you wanna do, I wouldn't judge anybody for it anymore (might have a joke but never seriously). It's not for everybody it has to be said though, you have to put the time & commitment into making it work and then on top of that you have to truly trust the person you're dating for a variety of reasons.

First reason being are they who they say they are? Second reason being are they leading me on and having a joke around at my expense? (stares at a certain hx member) and lastly, do you truly trust them not to be doing the dirty with somebody else that you've no idea exists?

It's easy to run into these kinds of relationships but when you want to take them seriously, there's so much to consider that makes them much harder than just a casual relationship over the Internet. Like if you're considering a lifetime with them, you're looking at moving to be close to them and living with them, integrating them into your life & sacrificing the life you're leaving behind just to be with this one person.

If it wasn't obvious I've dealt with all these issues before, made a couple of good and bad decisions but it's all a learning curve.

tl;dr Do it if it makes you happy, but don't expect it to be the rest of your life as things change. You'd only set yourself up for heartbreak in doing so.

[Becca]

Done it plenty of times, enough to say it's not for me anymore. Online dating is fine if that's what you wanna do, I wouldn't judge anybody for it anymore (might have a joke but never seriously). It's not for everybody it has to be said though, you have to put the time & commitment into making it work and then on top of that you have to truly trust the person you're dating for a variety of reasons.

First reason being are they who they say they are? Second reason being are they leading me on and having a joke around at my expense? (stares at a certain hx member) and lastly, do you truly trust them not to be doing the dirty with somebody else that you've no idea exists?

It's easy to run into these kinds of relationships but when you want to take them seriously, there's so much to consider that makes them much harder than just a casual relationship over the Internet. Like if you're considering a lifetime with them, you're looking at moving to be close to them and living with them, integrating them into your life & sacrificing the life you're leaving behind just to be with this one person.

If it wasn't obvious I've dealt with all these issues before, made a couple of good and bad decisions but it's all a learning curve.

tl;dr Do it if it makes you happy, but don't expect it to be the rest of your life as things change. You'd only set yourself up for heartbreak in doing so.

at your tldr bit, would you say that things could be the same though? like do you believe that some online relationships actually work?

[Leinaa]

I was in a long distance relationship and honestly it worked out pretty well & the reason we broke up definitely wasn't anything related to distance. It's all about trust & honesty. You really have to put it a lot of effort into the relationship and you have to trust the person as well. I don't know if I'll ever e-date anymore though. It was good with the person I was with, but I'm really just trying to focus on my career right now.

[wixard]

it's a lot easier for people to exaggerate their feelings towards another person and confuse lust for love and that can ultimately be the downfall in some of the relationships

it's gonna be a problem if one person likes the other a lot more, and is led to believe the other feels the same way when in fact they actually don't

i think everyone going into an online relationship/long distance needs to think twice about what they say to each other and if they're actually being honest and not just exaggerating strong feelings for the hell of it or because the other person has expressed similar feelings. we're basically the first batch of people growing up from teens to adults online so it's new for everyone, we've seen how dumb people can be from catfish BUT we've also seen how easy it can be to be fooled by others at the same time (plenty of examples on the forum) i think as time progresses people will learn how to deal with it better, there will be less stigma, and hopefully more people will be aware of what they're saying to a potential bf/gf online and not just leading them on or mirroring them because if it all goes sour you can just erase them from all social media and be done with them forever, which you obviously can't do in real life

[Becca]

it's a lot easier for people to exaggerate their feelings towards another person and confuse lust for love and that can ultimately be the downfall in some of the relationships

it's gonna be a problem if one person likes the other a lot more, and is led to believe the other feels the same way when in fact they actually don't

i think everyone going into an online relationship/long distance needs to think twice about what they say to each other and if they're actually being honest and not just exaggerating strong feelings for the hell of it or because the other person has expressed similar feelings. we're basically the first batch of people growing up from teens to adults online so it's new for everyone, we've seen how dumb people can be from catfish BUT we've also seen how easy it can be to be fooled by others at the same time (plenty of examples on the forum) i think as time progresses people will learn how to deal with it better, there will be less stigma, and hopefully more people will be aware of what they're saying to a potential bf/gf online and not just leading them on or mirroring them because if it all goes sour you can just erase them from all social media and be done with them forever, which you obviously can't do in real life

this is a bril reply r u drunk tara
yeah i think it's stupid when people rush straight into it like ye i love u xxxxxxx
no you don't you hardly know each other but if you get to know someone a lot and it's clear they arent a catfish then i believe you should go for it, as long as you are both mature enough in the end to accept whether you are both going to put effort in


I was in a long distance relationship and honestly it worked out pretty well & the reason we broke up definitely wasn't anything related to distance. It's all about trust & honesty. You really have to put it a lot of effort into the relationship and you have to trust the person as well. I don't know if I'll ever e-date anymore though. It was good with the person I was with, but I'm really just trying to focus on my career right now.

did you ever meet?

[RyRy]

at your tldr bit, would you say that things could be the same though? like do you believe that some online relationships actually work?

Some do sure, but I think those come down to circumstance for them to be long lasting and something which turns from an online relationship into moving in with each other.

All online relationships work up to a point though, some more than others. It's how far you'll go to pursue somebody you love, and it's the amount you love them which determines that. I was prepared to move to be with the last girl I dated online, and a part of me regrets that I didn't.

But that's another thing that comes with online relationships at some point, the regret of what could have been.

Tara is 100% right on rushing into things, lust is easy to mistake for love when you're young and I'd be lying if I said that never happened to me once.

[Leinaa]

this is a bril reply r u drunk tara
yeah i think it's stupid when people rush straight into it like ye i love u xxxxxxx
no you don't you hardly know each other but if you get to know someone a lot and it's clear they arent a catfish then i believe you should go for it, as long as you are both mature enough in the end to accept whether you are both going to put effort in



did you ever meet?

Yes we did Becca;

[Rachel]

I personally wouldn't. I rather know the person face to face.

[Drunq]

I used to alot, then met alot of people irl and dated. Thats so much better!

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[Grig]

Nah, but the boundaries between the virtual world and online one are increasingly getting blurred, and I see increasingly people getting into real life relationships by starting out on on of those dating apps.

[Kyle]

'Online Dating' conjures up all sorts of images, from spinsters or divorcees trying to find love "before it's too late", to morbidly obese transgendered folk catfishing on vampirefreaks.com, to 12 year old habbos getting hot and heavy in a lodge bed while their pet cat looks on. There's so much stigma and so many horror stories that come with the term that people don't seem to be willing to give it a chance. What even IS online dating? Dating IRL I would consider a process of getting to know somebody, of going on dates -- of growing close to them. That can happen online too, can't it? It's basically the same. Why do we even use the term IN REAL LIFE? Surely if something is happening and it feels real then it is? I don't know why the online world seems to be so deliberately separate from the offline.

A lot of people say that you can't tell if another person is being genuine if it's online which is true to an extent because the guise allows for a bit of boundary testing that wouldn't be possible (or thought to be possible at least) in the offline world. You can say and do things without having to immediately consider what might happen as a result and sometimes that might mean making a bad impression. The online sphere allows people to hold things back, sure, but it doesn't remove all humanity and genuine feelings. It doesn't mean that if somebody falls for you online that it's because you're not giving them the entire picture. Sometimes that's just not needed. Sometimes all that is needed is somebody to talk to, to share time with and to care about.

There does come a point though, I think, where being solely an online thing can put strain on a relationship. From paranoia like 'I wonder who she's with' or 'why hasn't s/he messaged me for 12 minutes s/he must be talking to someone else!' to just basic things like wanting to touch (yes and TOUCH) them or be there to comfort them when they're upset. We're in a global society though lads, megabuses are a quid and flights aren't that much more. If you really love eachother then you can get to eachother relatively cheaply and regularly.

Would I date solely online? No. Would I have a relationship with somebody as a consequence of meeting online? Yes. So long as each party is honest about how they actually feel rather than as simply mirroring to keep the other happy then yeah, I don't see why it can't work. Just don't let people at habbox know or they'll think that it's their relationship too. :P

[Becca]

Some do sure, but I think those come down to circumstance for them to be long lasting and something which turns from an online relationship into moving in with each other.

All online relationships work up to a point though, some more than others. It's how far you'll go to pursue somebody you love, and it's the amount you love them which determines that. I was prepared to move to be with the last girl I dated online, and a part of me regrets that I didn't.

But that's another thing that comes with online relationships at some point, the regret of what could have been.

Tara is 100% right on rushing into things, lust is easy to mistake for love when you're young and I'd be lying if I said that never happened to me once.

Personally I find it quite easy to tell the difference between love and lust, unless the guy is extremely good at faking it. I had an ex who moved 140 miles away from me during the relationship, and we kept the relationship going for another year, but it ended up rubbish. He always cheated and broke up with me, I was just stupid enough to always take him back.

I paid for him to come see me, which was about 20 quid, then I paid 50 for a hotel for us to sleep in for the weekend, and he stood me up haha. Which really puts me off about online relationships. But not everyone is a loser like my ex boyfriend, so it doesn't seem that bad.

tldr - i got stood up and it cost me 70 quid so if someone does that again i will top myself

[RyRy]

Personally I find it quite easy to tell the difference between love and lust, unless the guy is extremely good at faking it. I had an ex who moved 140 miles away from me during the relationship, and we kept the relationship going for another year, but it ended up rubbish. He always cheated and broke up with me, I was just stupid enough to always take him back.

I paid for him to come see me, which was about 20 quid, then I paid 50 for a hotel for us to sleep in for the weekend, and he stood me up haha. Which really puts me off about online relationships. But not everyone is a loser like my ex boyfriend, so it doesn't seem that bad.

tldr - i got stood up and it cost me 70 quid so if someone does that again i will top myself

Oh my god that is terrible, it's unlikely you'd ever meet a guy like that again, what an utter turd burglar. There are good online relationships but again it comes down to trust.

Plebs like that ain't worth effort

[FlyingJesus]

I paid for him to come see me, which was about 20 quid, then I paid 50 for a hotel for us to sleep in for the weekend, and he stood me up haha

omf pissing you have the worst boyfriends ever

[Becca]

Oh my god that is terrible, it's unlikely you'd ever meet a guy like that again, what an utter turd burglar. There are good online relationships but again it comes down to trust.

Plebs like that ain't worth effort

I'm one of those people where I will trust everyone at the beginning though, I hate it when girls are like 'YOU CAN'T TRUST GUYS' because of one stupid relationship, but it's harder due to waiting for them to ruin it. I never have a problem proving that I am a trusting girlfriend, yeah I am a flirtatious person, but I make the guy understand that they're the only person I actually want though.


omf pissing you have the worst boyfriends ever

It's ok I know his bank details so I did a transaction from his account to mine xxxxxxxxxxxx

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Nah, but the boundaries between the virtual world and online one are increasingly getting blurred, and I see increasingly people getting into real life relationships by starting out on on of those dating apps.

Yeah it's ridiculous how much you can actually do online now.
I'm just waiting for teleports to be invented


'Online Dating' conjures up all sorts of images, from spinsters or divorcees trying to find love "before it's too late", to morbidly obese transgendered folk catfishing on vampirefreaks.com, to 12 year old habbos getting hot and heavy in a lodge bed while their pet cat looks on. There's so much stigma and so many horror stories that come with the term that people don't seem to be willing to give it a chance. What even IS online dating? Dating IRL I would consider a process of getting to know somebody, of going on dates -- of growing close to them. That can happen online too, can't it? It's basically the same. Why do we even use the term IN REAL LIFE? Surely if something is happening and it feels real then it is? I don't know why the online world seems to be so deliberately separate from the offline.

A lot of people say that you can't tell if another person is being genuine if it's online which is true to an extent because the guise allows for a bit of boundary testing that wouldn't be possible (or thought to be possible at least) in the offline world. You can say and do things without having to immediately consider what might happen as a result and sometimes that might mean making a bad impression. The online sphere allows people to hold things back, sure, but it doesn't remove all humanity and genuine feelings. It doesn't mean that if somebody falls for you online that it's because you're not giving them the entire picture. Sometimes that's just not needed. Sometimes all that is needed is somebody to talk to, to share time with and to care about.

There does come a point though, I think, where being solely an online thing can put strain on a relationship. From paranoia like 'I wonder who she's with' or 'why hasn't s/he messaged me for 12 minutes s/he must be talking to someone else!' to just basic things like wanting to touch (yes and TOUCH) them or be there to comfort them when they're upset. We're in a global society though lads, megabuses are a quid and flights aren't that much more. If you really love eachother then you can get to eachother relatively cheaply and regularly.

Would I date solely online? No. Would I have a relationship with somebody as a consequence of meeting online? Yes. So long as each party is honest about how they actually feel rather than as simply mirroring to keep the other happy then yeah, I don't see why it can't work. Just don't let people at habbox know or they'll think that it's their relationship too. :P

That was a beautiful reply thanks Kyle.
And oh god yes, it's ridiculous when something comes out to Habbox people. I think it's such a shame that I feel like I am surrounded by the stupidest males due to where I am from (as you know due to my ex's) but sometimes you just start to like someone's personality, I think meeting someone online is much better for a relationship (if you live near) because you can be yourself due to sitting behind a computer screen, but that can also be the opposite with some people as they could literally say what they want, then have their way with you, then leave.

+rep bbe for that last comment

[HiPeepzTheHabbo]

i dated CecilTheRapper and he cheat on me with a hc girl when i was a norm girl and i dumped him
hes got a new name know and i have got new freinds and furnie
i dont wont a boy freind no more :) its allot more fun becouse he allways use to make me loose the games for him like in cozzy change 1 time i was haveing allot of fun then he lost and he was like hipeepz can you go and i will stay
so be care full and dont have no boy freinds or girl freinds if there not nice have a fun time and put them of ignore if there bad

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i dated CecilTheRapper and he cheat on me with a hc girl when i was a norm girl and i dumped him
hes got a new name know and i have got new freinds and furnie
i dont wont a boy freind no more :) its allot more fun becouse he allways use to make me loose the games for him like in cozzy change 1 time i was haveing allot of fun then he lost and he was like hipeepz can you go and i will stay
so be care full and dont have no boy freinds or girl freinds if there not nice have a fun time and put them of ignore if there bad

[shiver]

finding a partner online is fine. we live in a fast paced society and everyone is connected all the time so i don't see why there should be any stigma attached. look at the rise of tinder just as an example of how it is becoming the social norm.

as far as E-DATING goes (solely dating online and never meeting) i'm not sure. it is not a viable relationship in my opinion. you need the attraction IRL. but whatever floats your boat. different strokes for different folks. just do whatever makes u happy. XOXO

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NEVA MET NE1 OFLIN EVA UNLES YUR WIV YUR MUM IRL

but yeh up 2 tha persun pursnali eye woodnawt up 2 yew tho tbh :]

[Draqom]

I met my current boyfriend through Habbo and we started online dating and then decided to finally meet up etc and we were only about an hour away from each other, 15 months later and we're still together today

[hairpins]

catfish put mi off pmsl 2 mani weirdoz n lias olyn