Comfortable...?

[icebox12]

Hello all,

I am not gay or bi-sexual but I do have friends who are, some of which have told me they have feelings for the same *** as them. I was just wondering are you comfortable with your sexuality or do you try and hide it and hope it will go away?

I am comfortable with my sexuality which is straight, but that doesn't mean I will not be friends with anyone who is gay or lesbian or bi-sexual they are all humans, what they feel about other people is intiarly up to them and I hope that no-one will get in the way of that.

Tell me yours thoughts, are you comfortable with your sexuality?

[Tyche]

Of course. On and offline, although I can understand how people will be more open online.

[the wombats]

I am comfortable with mine :) I just hate people who treat people who are gay differently.
Also, nice signature about Jack :p

[Anger]

Im comfortable, if people want to take the mickey they can but they end up looking silly for doing it ;)

[GommeInc]

I am confortable with myself and others, they're no different than anyone else...

[ashLOVESMatt!]

When I was around 13 and I started having these feelings I wanted them to go away, I was changing and I didn't know why. I of course grew up and now i'm perfectly happy with myself and the fact I am gay.

[Lysine]

Im comfortable. I have gay friends and i treat them the same :)

[icebox12]

I am soo glad to see people are not ashamed of their sexuality. Accepting it is the first step forward, if your scared of what people think they hiding it inside will just make it worse. If people cannot accept you for who you are they are not the kind of people who you should socialise with.

As I said before I have a few friends who are gay, one of my other friends who isn't gay didn't like to hear what was said. So he begin not socialising with lets say his name is Mr.X, for this I began to see him differently, he wasn't the kind of person I would have liked to be friends with if he will begin to neglect others for what they are feeling about.

If you don't understand what I just said don't worry I doubt I would be able to either...

If you need any support or anything please do not hestiate to Private Message [Pm] me :)

[ross]

I'm more comfortable online, however I'm no so in the real world.
I guess I haven't got the courage.

I look up to those who can actually tell their parents, friends, relative.

[icebox12]

I'm more comfortable online, however I'm no so in the real world.
I guess I haven't got the courage.

I look up to those who can actually tell their parents, friends, relative.

Ross, do not worry mate :) I'm glad to see you have taken the first step in coming forward and telling others, in time you will realise that the truth outside will be much better off your chest than hidden away inside. It took my friend about a year before he could accept himself, i'm glad that now he told me so now I am helping him in his depression times, all he thinks about is what others think.

If I had to be honest, I wouldn't give a damn about what anyone else thought, they either accept or they don't, but then again that is just my thought others think differently...

[the wombats]

Ross, I know for awhile that you were :p You told me and Kyle on MSN

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[ross]

Ross, do not worry mate :) I'm glad to see you have taken the first step in coming forward and telling others, in time you will realise that the truth outside will be much better off your chest than hidden away inside. It took my friend about a year before he could accept himself, i'm glad that now he told me so now I am helping him in his depression times, all he thinks about is what others think.

If I had to be honest, I wouldn't give a damn about what anyone else thought, they either accept or they don't, but then again that is just my thought others think differently...
Thankyou that's good advice.

But life these days, people think that two people of the same *** is 'ew' well, it isn't. It makes me mad sometimes, I feel like telling my Mum - but I have 4 brothers and a sister, and they all play football my sister does dance, and here's me on the computer telling people I met online that I am bi, gay-curious. I just don't have the courage :(

[Pulchritudinous]

I know I'm straight, because well, I just know, lol.

I'm comfortable with my bisexual friend, I don't agree with it, because she's only 14, and I told her she can't know at this age.

But anyways, sometimes I worry that she fancies me, I know it's pathetic but yeah. :/

[Roboevil]

But anyways, sometimes I worry that she fancies me, I know it's pathetic but yeah. :/
What would be wrong if she did fancy you?

[ross]

I know I'm straight, because well, I just know, lol.

I'm comfortable with my bisexual friend, I don't agree with it, because she's only 14, and I told her she can't know at this age.

But anyways, sometimes I worry that she fancies me, I know it's pathetic but yeah. :/
That's understandable that you worry, but really you don't know what she's going through, really it is hard, so you can't really say that she 'can't know if she's bisexual at the age of 14' because I was when I was 14. Maybe our hormones started earlier? btw this isn't meant to sound harsh. <3

[icebox12]

Ross you know that the support I give and many others give is all what your family and friends will do. You have nothing to worry about, your mother will not look at you in a different way as she loves you for who you are, your brothers and sisters may think it is rather weird at first but do remember they are your family, flesh and blood they will always love for who you are, they will also accept it the minuit you tell them, you have nothing to worry about.

I will do as much as I can to help you with building up the courage but do remember I can only show you the path, you must walk it.

I, myself and many others will do everything we can to help you/give your advice, but do remember family, friends and people you can talk to in a proper conversation (face to face) will be able to help more.

I hope you do feel better about your sexuality :)

[ross]

Ross you know that the support I give and many others give is all what your family and friends will do. You have nothing to worry about, your mother will not look at you in a different way as she loves you for who you are, your brothers and sisters may think it is rather weird at first but do remember they are your family, flesh and blood they will always love for who you are, they will also accept it the minuit you tell them, you have nothing to worry about.

I will do as much as I can to help you with building up the courage but do remember I can only show you the path, you must walk it.

I, myself and many others will do everything we can to help you/give your advice, but do remember family, friends and people you can talk to in a proper conversation (face to face) will be able to help more.

I hope you do feel better about your sexuality :)

Aw, we should be mods :'( this brings tears to my eyes, helping alot of people who are feeling just the same as me. <3

[Pulchritudinous]

What would be wrong if she did fancy you?

I'd feel uncomfortable..



That's understandable that you worry, but really you don't know what she's going through, really it is hard, so you can't really say that she 'can't know if she's bisexual at the age of 14' because I was when I was 14. Maybe our hormones started earlier? btw this isn't meant to sound harsh. <3


I know what you mean, but she is totally unashamed, she's confident, and didn't care about people knowing, which is why nobody has a problem with it.

[icebox12]

I know I'm straight, because well, I just know, lol.

I'm comfortable with my bisexual friend, I don't agree with it, because she's only 14, and I told her she can't know at this age.

But anyways, sometimes I worry that she fancies me, I know it's pathetic but yeah. :/

You have nothing to worry about, your friend treasures your friendship she will not do anything to ruin that. If she did have feelings for you, you shouldn't take it in any offencive way, just remember know-one can hold their feelings away for ever, they will have to have their out burst and release it (meaning, she will have to comfront you and tell you she has feelings for you).

Just think of it as, you have a crush on a boy and you are good friends with him, it is hard to hold your feelings away and try and forget about them. The only way to feel comfortable once again is to go out and tell them your feelings, if you do not you will be hurting inside for a very long time. Your friend most probably knows that if she does tell you, you will not be able to replie with the same feelings as she has. She will then know that your answer/replie will not be the one she wants to hear but the one she can live with.

[Pulchritudinous]

You have nothing to worry about, your friend treasures your friendship she will not do anything to ruin that. If she did have feelings for you, you shouldn't take it in any offencive way, just remember know-one can hold their feelings away for ever, they will have to have their out burst and release it (meaning, she will have to comfront you and tell you she has feelings for you).

Just think of it as, you have a crush on a boy and you are good friends with him, it is hard to hold your feelings away and try and forget about them. The only way to feel comfortable once again is to go out and tell them your feelings, if you do not you will be hurting inside for a very long time. Your friend most probably knows that if she does tell you, you will not be able to replie with the same feelings as she has. She will then know that your answer/replie will not be the one she wants to hear but the one she can live with.

Oh no, I wouldn't be offended, I accept the fact that some people have different sexualities, I'd just feel a teeny bit 'icky'. =/

[Roboevil]

So you're a bit homophobic then?

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[ross]

Oh no, I wouldn't be offended, I accept the fact that some people have different sexualities, I'd just feel a teeny bit 'icky'. =/

Yeah that's understandable because; you don't have the same feelings as her and you think differently, don't worry about it - friendship is what matters.

I'm sure she repspects you for still being her friend when she told you she was Bisexual. :)

[icebox12]

HeHe, I know what you mean, you wouldn't be able to fully accept it but you would also not like it that your friend looks at you in a different way than she used to.

I have a friend who was told that her friend had feelings for her, she couldn't imagin being friends with her again, but luckily she decided to accept it, and if by any chance her friend begin to have more feelings for her she would just say that she feels a bit uncomfortable about it, luckily her friend (the one who had feelings) accepted this, now there friendship is better than ever.

Pulchritudinous just remember, if your friend does have feelings for you and you do feel uncomfortable about it, please do not hide the fact that you, simle tell her and she will accept that, as if she was in the same position as you she may think the same.

[the wombats]

HeHe, I know what you mean, you wouldn't be able to fully accept it but you would also not like it that your friend looks at you in a different way than she used to.

I have a friend who was told that her friend had feelings for her, she couldn't imagin being friends with her again, but luckily she decided to accept it, and if by any chance her friend begin to have more feelings for her she would just say that she feels a bit uncomfortable about it, luckily her friend (the one who had feelings) accepted this, now there friendship is better than ever.

Pulchritudinous just remember, if your friend does have feelings for you and you do feel uncomfortable about it, please do not hide the fact that you, simle tell her and she will accept that, as if she was in the same position as you she may think the same.
Matt is in a helpful moad today :p Lol

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[Pulchritudinous]

HeHe, I know what you mean, you wouldn't be able to fully accept it but you would also not like it that your friend looks at you in a different way than she used to.

I have a friend who was told that her friend had feelings for her, she couldn't imagin being friends with her again, but luckily she decided to accept it, and if by any chance her friend begin to have more feelings for her she would just say that she feels a bit uncomfortable about it, luckily her friend (the one who had feelings) accepted this, now there friendship is better than ever.

Pulchritudinous just remember, if your friend does have feelings for you and you do feel uncomfortable about it, please do not hide the fact that you, simle tell her and she will accept that, as if she was in the same position as you she may think the same.

Yes, I'll remember that if she ever does fancy me, lol, that I'll break it to her nicely that I'm erm..not interested.

[Pulchritudinous]

So you're a bit homophobic then?

Ermmm...you could say that.

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[icebox12]

I'm only helping as I know how hard it is to accept these kind of things.

If I have to be honest, I have wondered if I was straight, or gay... This was back in year 7, but then I realised that I do have feelings for woman/females.

I cannot lie, I do occasionaly say that someone is good looking (males) that doesn't mean I have feelings for them as Brad Pitt is a good looking man.

Also don't double post Pulchritudinous :)

[the wombats]

I'm only helping as I know how hard it is to accept these kind of things.

If I have to be honest, I have wondered if I was straight, or gay... This was back in year 7, but then I realised that I do have feelings for woman/females.

I cannot lie, I do occasionaly say that someone is good looking (males) that doesn't mean I have feelings for them as Brad Pitt is a good looking man.

Also don't double post Pulchritudinous :)
As icebox said, you can say someone the same gender as you is good looking but not have any feelings. Just if you are keeping your sexuality secret from your parants, try and tell them and I am pretty sure they would help you in anyway possible

[icebox12]

Yup craig has a point there, as i've mentioned in my previous post's, your parents, family, friends, ect. will not think any different of you for your sexuality, it's up to you what you like and they know that there is nothing to change that, for this they will accept it. They also know if you are scared to tell others of this, they will help in any way possible.

[dittobrain]

Homophobics are ridiculous. Its perfectly natural for a human to have feelings for someone of the same ***. If you have a problem with it, keep it to yourself :eusa_danc

[Cheezy]

I feel so confortable with my Sexuality. I'm not really out in real life, i've told one person, my best friend... and she was like

"Want me to drive up and we can talk about it"

"I still love you all the same"

It was brilliant once I had finally told her, and... well I don't feel uncomfortable about my sexuality, I do wish I was straight sometimes but theres nothing I can do about it. I've found the one person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and thats all I care about.

ASHHHHHHHH! xx <3

[icebox12]

I feel so confortable with my Sexuality. I'm not really out in real life, i've told one person, my best friend... and she was like

"Want me to drive up and we can talk about it"

"I still love you all the same"

It was brilliant once I had finally told her, and... well I don't feel uncomfortable about my sexuality, I do wish I was straight sometimes but theres nothing I can do about it. I've found the one person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and thats all I care about.

ASHHHHHHHH! xx <3

That's got to have been the best thing i've heard in a long time :) I'm so glad you have found true happiness matt, I hope you and ash have a wonderful life together, and i'm also glad you have come out of the closet and told atleast 1 person. This is an example to everyone guys, Cheezy has shown that if you tell someone you care about, they will always help you no matter what :)

[onedrunkpunk]

I'm comfortable with my *star*tuality. That's why like in real life or whatever me and my friends will make jokes and all that, we're all comfortable and cool like that, none of my friends are gay (unless they are hiding something..), but if they were I wouldn't give a shiny quarter.

[kaut]

I'm comfortable enough with my sexuality to wear blue fingernail polish, every once in awhile wear a skirt for kicks to parties, wear a dress when I perform on stage, or put my hair in piggy-tails when I'm bored without caring if anyone thinks I'm gay. I like to mess with people's expectations of genders.

And I've found that girls like a guy who understands how hard it is to use stairs in highheels... the peeing while wearing a skirt thing still gets me though. I'll let them put make-up on me and we'll go out to a party and have a good time.

I hope that all of you can get to a point in your life where you'll realize that other people's negative opinions of you don't really matter in the world.

[icebox12]

Yes I agree with that,

You are who you are at the end of the day and no-one in the world can change that, I know ebing scared to tell others and wondering what there reaction will be like is a hard thing, but you need to try and build the courage and go out and tell them this. By doing this you will feel a lot better about yourself, it must be VERY difficult to do this and to be honest I wouldn't know how to do it myself (If I was gay, or bi-sexual). But you must come to terms that this who you are and people's thoughts should be ignored as they will just make you feel much worse.

I hope you do understand what I meant there :)

[Ree]

Of course. On and offline, although I can understand how people will be more open online.

I'm More Open Online.
Ive Sent A Few Posts On How Im "Not Sure"
:S

[ross]

HEHEHEHEHEHEHEHE

[Magnet]

I don't know my sexuality yet so I can't say I'm very comfortable. I'll just wait till next year to see if I get turned on by male, female or both..

[Cool-kitten007]

Everyone should be Comfortable with there sexuality
At the end of the day its them they cant stop the feelings so why hide them? :)

[Anger]

Everyone should be Comfortable with there sexuality
At the end of the day its them they cant stop the feelings so why hide them? :)
Sarah are you the next yoda :p

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[ross]

Sarah are you the next yoda :p
What is Yoda? :(
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[icebox12]

What is Yoda? :(

I actualy have no idea lol anyway...



Hey !HellRaiser!

Firstly nice to meet you and I know how you must feel, anyway matey, I'm going to do everything in my power to help you here :p

Ok's!!!!

Firstly, what you are currently going through is completly normal, you are not too sure if the female sex is the right type for you, but you also think that the male sex is something that should just be kept as a friendship relationship. In time you will understand that it is all a matter of going through your teenage years.

One question I must ask is have you ever kissed a girl?

If your answer is yes, then what are your thoughts on what had happend... Did you enjoy the kiss? Was it realy weird and it didn't feel right? Or was it just like a friendly kiss which meant nothing... There are many different feelings around and you need to search inside yourself to find them.

If your answer is no, then wait until you make the decision that you are gay. Everyone who has had a sexual relationship with the person of there own gender have also experimented with the opposite sex to fully understand/make sure that there decision is the right one.

I do suggest to you that you shouldn't get worried or upset by anything that you feel you are going through, every person goes through this stage... Some more than others but in the end, the result will allow you to relax and feel that your worries were over something that wasn't worth getting all stressed about.

If you need any further help or anything my Private Message (PM) Box is always open for any questions, advice, or just a general chat.

Allow me to add this, eventhough I am not gay. I have many gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and straight friends, I have helped many of them in getting to grips of there sexuality and accepting/confronting there fears. Many of my friends are now open, and do not hold all of there emotions inside locked up... Hoping that it will all go away, simple because they won't.

Thanks again
- Icebox12

What are your thoughts on it, do you think it was good advice (yes it was all from me) or do you think it is just something he won't understand.

[-=rooty987=-]

I'm open about my sexuality, on and off, eff what other people think :)

[Roboevil]

Excuse me, how do we not know who Yoda is? Unless he means otherwise than the Star wars dude.

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[le harry]

Im proudly straight :)

[icebox12]

Im proudly straight :)

Glad to hear that, have you always known you were straight or have you ever gone through a faise were you wanted to experment with another sexual partner of the same sex?
(If I may ask)

[Uwe]

I'm gay - all the way :)

[Deiondre]

I'm glad that you are all so sound. My mums gay and I was worried my friends would **** me but when I told my best friend all he said was "so?" I'm just glad so many people accept everyone. When were all adults there will be no racism, homophobic people or sexism

[PuraChris]

me finks that someone is in denial matt.

[icebox12]

me finks that someone is in denial matt.

Is that addressed to me?

[PuraChris]

i dont know the name of any other matt. Yes it was addressed to you.

i know you, and i think that you are ****** hot in r.l

[icebox12]

i dont know the name of any other matt. Yes it was addressed to you.

i know you, and i think that you are ****** hot in r.l

Firstly, thank you for the compliment but secondly do not swear even if you mean well.

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[PuraChris]

sorry, cant help my feelings for you matt. you are very attractive and i wished you were gay.

[Rebecca]

i dnt mind people who are bi..

[Bodice]

I'm straight and i'm comfortable with myslef. Some of my friend's are also not straight but i don't treat them any differently and i'm comfortable with what they want to be. Also they are comfortable with themselves so i'm happy for them. :)

[icebox12]

I'm straight and i'm comfortable with myslef. Some of my friend's are also not straight but i don't treat them any differently and i'm comfortable with what they want to be. Also they are comfortable with themselves so i'm happy for them. :)

Nicelly said, glad to see you don't judge people in what they like, shows a lot of maturity there which I am pleased to see :)

[Isaac]

Not sure. Only 11, im pretty much swaying both ways here, even though I like to think Im straight (which Im pretty darn sure I am) you never know when your my age.

[Col]

I'm extremely comfortable, like.. everyone I know accepts me for who I am! :)

[Kirstie.roxi]

I am comfortable with who I am, as I know that my sister is also a bi, that made me become stronger on becoming a bi myself, even though all my friends were against my sister being a bi, I cannot change my feelings against other woman and girls.

[icebox12]

This used 2 be very popular, so I thought I would bring it back, need any advice or anything, simple read through my previous posts and I will be glad to help you in anyway possible :)

[Noble]

I have only told a couple of my friends, my mentor & I've told my parents the things that I've been feeling.

However, I sort of want them to go away when around friends so people dont skit, I'm the "shy" type.

[Uwe]

Hello all,

I am not gay or bi-sexual but I do have friends who are, some of which have told me they have feelings for the same *** as them. I was just wondering are you comfortable with your sexuality or do you try and hide it and hope it will go away?

I am comfortable with my sexuality which is straight, but that doesn't mean I will not be friends with anyone who is gay or lesbian or bi-sexual they are all humans, what they feel about other people is intiarly up to them and I hope that no-one will get in the way of that.

Tell me yours thoughts, are you comfortable with your sexuality?

I am online, but offline I'm not.. I have told some friends who I am comfortable with.. but most people I hang with seem to have millions of gf's. -.-

[icebox12]

I am online, but offline I'm not.. I have told some friends who I am comfortable with.. but most people I hang with seem to have millions of gf's. -.-

I know what you mean, well to be exact I don't due to me being straight.

However, I know many people who are "gay" or "lesbian" and are currently not fully comfortable to become totally honest with everyone about the matter. This is something you should not be ashamed of. Once you tell a few close friends about the matter, it will begin to gradually help you with admitting to more than one source. For example, a close friend of mine is gay, but hasn't told anyone except me. I was extremely pleased with him when he built the courage up to admit this to me. I have given him a lot of advice on how to go about this, and he thinks it's a problem. Just remember, it is not a problem, due to the fact that, many people like the opposite gender. Just because you like someone of the same gender, does that make you wrong? I think not, everyone should be entitled to like whoever they like without anyone else judging them on the matter.