if you/your girlfriend got pregnant now, what would you do?

[Sharon]

if you/your partner got pregnant now, what would you do? would you decide based on age?

i am completely against abortion unless the mother/child is in danger really... regardless of my age i wouldn't get an abortion so i would keep it even if i were to get pregnant now. i would regret later in life if i did have an abortion for sure and i don't believe in the 'your life is over if you have a baby so young' crap. financially i wouldn't be brilliant but idc rly

[scottish]

stand by her whatever she decided to do.

ideally I wouldn't like to have a child for another few years to get into career etc.

[Inseriousity.]

WTH WHY YOU CHEATING ON ME

lololol

[Shar]

Keep it it shouldn't affect anything really. I'd have really good support.

[Plean]

Buy some 125inch climbing rope, get a chair and dangle my legs from the sealing.

[OldLoveSong]

I def dont planon having children for another 5 yrs atleast til im financially stanle nd moved in with my bf but if i did get pregnant now id be surprised but id have a big suppoet system


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[Absently]

I would probably keep the child and try my utmost best for it. Financially I'd drop out of uni and try save as much money as possible, probably move home too for more support.

[kuzkasate]

Me personally I would want the girl to abort it, but I do realise it's not completely up to me so unless she desperately wanted it I would be happy to abort. If she wanted to keep it, we would.

[Stephen]

Buy some 125inch climbing rope, get a chair and dangle my legs from the sealing.

http://cdnph.upi.com/sv/b/i/UPI-42701343742599/2012/1/13437427989190/An-avian-flu-jumped-to-baby-seals.jpg

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[Plean]

http://cdnph.upi.com/sv/b/i/UPI-42701343742599/2012/1/13437427989190/An-avian-flu-jumped-to-baby-seals.jpg
DNEEEEEE

[Ahnime]

I'd support her through whatever decision she makes, unless it's abortion. (Although I wouldn't like to have my partner pregnant for another few years)

[Jurv]

this would never happen BUT if it ever did i'd hope for abortion or adoption unless she's happy dropping everything to look after it

[Futz]

I'd want her to have an abortion

[wixard]

have an abortion no question about it

my rule of thumb is no kids until i hit 30, even then i'm in no rush to do so
i really want kids, but i want to enjoy my own life first

[!:random!:!]

keep it! yes you may be young but if you feel ready to give up a party life then you should defo keep it! It weird because am against abortion if it is me or someone i know who could cope but am with abortion if that person can't provide or cope for the child. I think in most case it could depend on the young person if they are mature or not. Most people would say no child is ready to have a child but once that child has a child they are a young woman and grow up fast. Of course you shouldn't plan on having a child at a young age though but if it happened its your choice and no-one elses :)

[Succubus]

either way we'd be very concerned that 2 women can get pregnant

but on a slightly more seriousish note i would probably have to agree with what Inseriousity; said :P

[lawrawrrr]

i'd go straight to the nationals to sell my story of miracle conception

no but seriously if something did happen and i magically got pregnant tomorrow, I probably wouldn't be able to keep it, not financially stable enough or far enough in my career to do that. I am feeling slightly broody with all my friends on fb having kids lately!!

[scottish]

i'd go straight to the nationals to sell my story of miracle conception

no but seriously if something did happen and i magically got pregnant tomorrow, I probably wouldn't be able to keep it, not financially stable enough or far enough in my career to do that. I am feeling slightly broody with all my friends on fb having kids lately!!

because you can't have kids, or because you haven't had bobba?

[geo]

probs cry and then ask why she cheated one me

but like i don't ever want kids i don't think, and definitely not at this age

[Hannah]

I'd support her through whatever decision she makes, unless it's abortion. (Although I wouldn't like to have my partner pregnant for another few years)

You're not really supporting her through 'whatever decision' she chooses at all - though there's only really adoption, keeping it or aborting it.

In regards to the topic - I wouldn't want to get pregnant this early and use measures to avoid that happening, but if I were to become pregnant it would totally depend on my partner and our situation.

As I have no partner at this moment, if I were to get pregnant I would probably abort it.

[Paige.]

i've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now and i know i'd get support from him and his family and also my nan but i'm not sure whether my mum would support me because she has already said that if i came to her saying i'm pregnant she's marching me straight up the clinic...
i'm not ready to have any children, i feel too young and i want to get through my education and be financially stable in a good job and also in my own home before i have any so i think i'd have to abort it even though the thought of it is horrible

[Jssy]

unlikely in my situation but if i was id keep it. id prefer to get through uni first tho

[Ahnime]

You're not really supporting her through 'whatever decision' she chooses at all - though there's only really adoption, keeping it or aborting it.

In regards to the topic - I wouldn't want to get pregnant this early and use measures to avoid that happening, but if I were to become pregnant it would totally depend on my partner and our situation.

As I have no partner at this moment, if I were to get pregnant I would probably abort it.

Sorry, I probably didn't word it properly, as you're correct. It really wouldn't be any decision. ""

[-:Undertaker:-]

i am completely against abortion unless the mother/child is in danger really... regardless of my age i wouldn't get an abortion so i would keep it even if i were to get pregnant now. i would regret later in life if i did have an abortion for sure and i don't believe in the 'your life is over if you have a baby so young' crap. financially i wouldn't be brilliant but idc rly

This exactly.

If you have sex then you should take responsibility and not end a life for your own selfish reasons.

Don't want to take the risk to begin with? Then don't have sex.

[lawrawrrr]

This exactly.

If you have sex then you should take responsibility and not end a life for your own selfish reasons.

Don't want to take the risk to begin with? Then don't have sex.
This is a really closed minded view as sex is a completely natural thing and science has come so far in protecting us - it really shouldn't be suppressed but cba arguing about that so....

What about if someone got pregnant as the result of rape


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[Sharon]

This is a really closed minded view as sex is a completely natural thing and science has come so far in protecting us - it really shouldn't be suppressed but cba arguing about that so....

What about if someone got pregnant as the result of rape?

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I'm sure if Dan will feel the same as I do on this too, but I would say that falls into the same category as if the mother/baby was in danger, so I believe that the mother is entitled to abort if she wishes

[-:Undertaker:-]

This is a really closed minded view as sex is a completely natural thing and science has come so far in protecting us - it really shouldn't be suppressed but cba arguing about that so....

So there's a human right to stick your penis anywhere and not think about the possible consequences? Are humans not above the level of an animal? Are we not blessed with superior brains and the ability to control oneself?

As I said, it's entirely selfish. 'I want sex and to hell with the consequences. If it feels good then do it'.


What about if someone got pregnant as the result of rape

Most pregnancies can be stopped within 24 or 48 hours from what I recall, for those however who can't stop the pregnancy after that time has passed for whatever reason: as horrid as rape is, I can't blame the unborn child for what has happened.

[lawrawrrr]

So there's a human right to stick your penis anywhere and not think about the possible consequences? Are humans not above the level of an animal? Are we not blessed with superior brains and the ability to control oneself?

As I said, it's entirely selfish. 'I want sex and to hell with the consequences. If it feels good then do it'.



Most pregnancies can be stopped within 24 or 48 hours from what I recall, for those however who can't stop the pregnancy after that time has passed for whatever reason: as horrid as rape is, I can't blame the unborn child for what has happened.

You don't know you're pregnant 24 hours after, and morning after pills aren't 100% effective. I cannot imagine having a child after being raped and having to look at that child every day knowing the pain and suffering, physical and mental, you went through to bring them into the world. That child would always know it wasn't wanted, wasn't planned.

End of the day it's each individual's decision and as long as you're not trying to force a decision on decision on someone else I couldn't care less about what you'd think,


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[scottish]

I think the world will thank god that you're gay.

God forbid a child would be influenced by your opinions/thoughts.

[-:Undertaker:-]

You don't know you're pregnant 24 hours after, and morning after pills aren't 100% effective. I cannot imagine having a child after being raped and having to look at that child every day knowing the pain and suffering, physical and mental, you went through to bring them into the world. That child would always know it wasn't wanted, wasn't planned.

End of the day it's each individual's decision and as long as you're not trying to force a decision on decision on someone else I couldn't care less about what you'd think,

Rape I can see the arguments for more clearly, but it always amazes me how an argument about abortion always turns to the very very very small percentage of abortions that are rape-related. Talking generally about abortion, I don't believe you should be able to get abortions on-demand and that if you don't want the risk of pregnancy: then refrain from sexual intercourse.

It's pretty simple.


I think the world will thank god that you're gay.

God forbid a child would be influenced by your opinions/thoughts.

Yeah I think you've said that before, heard it all before. I know i'm the worst person in the world because I don't believe in abortion and think people should control themselves sexually. :rolleyes:

Why didn't you have the balls to say that to Sharon though, who also doesn't believe in abortion? Coward.

[scottish]

Yeah I think you've said that before, heard it all before. I know i'm the worst person in the world because I don't believe in abortion and think people should control themselves sexually. :rolleyes:

Why didn't you have the balls to say that to Sharon though, who also doesn't believe in abortion? Coward.

Because it's a general statement about all your idiotic beliefs, not just based on this one.

"God forbid a child would be influenced by your opinions/thoughts."

[lawrawrrr]

Rape I can see the arguments for more clearly, but it always amazes me how an argument about abortion always turns to the very very very small percentage of abortions that are rape-related. Talking generally about abortion, I don't believe you should be able to get abortions on-demand and that if you don't want the risk of pregnancy: then refrain from sexual intercourse.

It's pretty simple.



Yeah I think you've said that before, heard it all before. I know i'm the worst person in the world because I don't believe in abortion and think people should control themselves sexually. :rolleyes:

Why didn't you have the balls to say that to Sharon though, who also doesn't believe in abortion? Coward.

It's the easiest way to argue 'unplanned' pregnancies with people who share your view.

People might be able to control theirselves but why should they be forced to refrain OR have unwanted kids? We have gyms and diet foods - does that mean people should just refrain from eating all unhealthy food? Let's get rid of doctors and dentists because SURELY people can just control what they put in their body... (I know there's uncontrollable things too but a lot of medical & dental cases do come from this).

I think I agree with the fact Scott's called you out, not Sharon, purely because of the fact you CANNOT get pregnant, therefore your opinion will never have an opportunity to become fact, and if you did get someone pregnant, it wouldn't be right of you to force your opinion onto her.

Sharon is a woman, can, therefore, get pregnant, an it's her decision what to do with her own body, ultimately. Not to say I agree with it, but everyone's entitled to an opinion. I don't go around expressing my thoughts all men should get vasectomies (which I don't think at all, but I could), because it's not my decision to make - I don't have those parts and won't encourage a decision that will not affect me. Yes, I'd talk about it with my partner and advise, but it would be his decision ultimately - just like I see abortion.





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[Zak]

stand by her whatever she decided to do.

ideally I wouldn't like to have a child for another few years to get into career etc.

I wish you could just quote without text

[RyRy]

Fun story, I had a pregnancy scare with my girlfriend just as I arrived back at University. It seriously made me question how ready I was for all of that stuff, how financially I could support such an event and what I'd have to change in my life to do it. When you're put in that position, Jesus Christ is it scary.

Whilst I don't want to defend people who leave mothers as soon as they have it, I can see what goes through their heads. Either way were still together and there is no baby. Thank the lawd my favourite playground is still intact.

[scottish]

Fun story, I had a pregnancy scare with my girlfriend just as I arrived back at University. It seriously made me question how ready I was for all of that stuff, how financially I could support such an event and what I'd have to change in my life to do it. When you're put in that position, Jesus Christ is it scary.

Whilst I don't want to defend people who leave mothers as soon as they have it, I can see what goes through their heads. Either way were still together and there is no baby. Thank the lawd my favourite playground is still intact.

It's funny how some people will assume that's your girlfriends bobba and not in fact the local schools playground.

[RyRy]

It's funny how some people will assume that's your girlfriends bobba and not in fact the local schools playground.
Pfft what's the point in school playgrounds? All about waiting at the gates.

[dbgtz]

On a somewhat unrelated note, to those in this thread who think it is solely the woman's choice on whether to keep the baby or not and in a situation where it is completely unplanned with both people to blame, should the man be forced to stick around and support it even if he didn't want it?

[Kyle]

On a somewhat unrelated note, to those in this thread who think it is solely the woman's choice on whether to keep the baby or not and in a situation where it is completely unplanned with both people to blame, should the man be forced to stick around and support it even if he didn't want it?

Nope that's what welfare benefits are for > : )


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[Sian]

i'd have an abortion, im not ready, it scares the **** out of me and I don't actually like children.

[lawrawrrr]

On a somewhat unrelated note, to those in this thread who think it is solely the woman's choice on whether to keep the baby or not and in a situation where it is completely unplanned with both people to blame, should the man be forced to stick around and support it even if he didn't want it?

I think this is kinda related to what I said? It's tough - although I don't think it's solely the woman's choice, i do think it's ultimately her decision, after discussing things n stuff. If her partner is totally against her aborting it then it should be discussed maturely and them both consider what's best for them and the possible baby. If he is going to walk away just because she has an abortion - or just because she decides to keep it - I don't think he really can care about her that much.


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[lawrawrrr]

Oh to add I think it's horribly wrong when (and I've seen a report on this somewhere recently) a woman rapes a man then goes to the state and makes him pay child benefits. It's hard to draw a definite and legal line really between when someone should or should not support that child - I wish it worked so you could prove there was some consensus to having the child. Like a pregnancy contract.


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[dbgtz]

I think this is kinda related to what I said? It's tough - although I don't think it's solely the woman's choice, i do think it's ultimately her decision, after discussing things n stuff. If her partner is totally against her aborting it then it should be discussed maturely and them both consider what's best for them and the possible baby. If he is going to walk away just because she has an abortion - or just because she decides to keep it - I don't think he really can care about her that much.


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I'm not asking about if he cares though, I'm asking if he should have to provide support when he did not want the child. Some people seem to say that it should solely be the woman's choice but seem to just suggest the dad has no choice in the matter which seems kind of ridiculous.

[-:Undertaker:-]

Because it's a general statement about all your idiotic beliefs, not just based on this one.

"God forbid a child would be influenced by your opinions/thoughts."

I always find it very interesting that when it comes to debates, others who I differ with actually take me on and put forward an argument whereas all you do is throw nasty comments from the sidelines or tell me for the hundredth time that you disagree with all my of views as though I actually care.

Says a lot really.


It's the easiest way to argue 'unplanned' pregnancies with people who share your view.

People might be able to control theirselves but why should they be forced to refrain OR have unwanted kids? We have gyms and diet foods - does that mean people should just refrain from eating all unhealthy food? Let's get rid of doctors and dentists because SURELY people can just control what they put in their body... (I know there's uncontrollable things too but a lot of medical & dental cases do come from this).

Why should they? It's pretty obvious: because as an adult and a sane and able bodied human being, one of the signs of maturity is taking responsiblity for your own actions and the consequences rather than blaming all of your bad decisions on somebody else.

That's like asking why should adults refrain from blowing their monthly budget... again, 'if it feels good do it' 1960s rubbish.


I think I agree with the fact Scott's called you out, not Sharon, purely because of the fact you CANNOT get pregnant, therefore your opinion will never have an opportunity to become fact, and if you did get someone pregnant, it wouldn't be right of you to force your opinion onto her.

Sharon is a woman, can, therefore, get pregnant, an it's her decision what to do with her own body, ultimately. Not to say I agree with it, but everyone's entitled to an opinion. I don't go around expressing my thoughts all men should get vasectomies (which I don't think at all, but I could), because it's not my decision to make - I don't have those parts and won't encourage a decision that will not affect me. Yes, I'd talk about it with my partner and advise, but it would be his decision ultimately - just like I see abortion.

Ohhhhh so it's not actually what arguments i'm putting forward (which are more or less the same as Sharon anyway) it's the fact that I have different genitals to you which means that I don't deserve to have a say over something I have jointly brought into this world or one of the biggest moral questions of our age. That's like saying I can't have an opinion on gay marriage because i'm not gay..... it doesn't fly.

Declaring you have a womb doesn't win a moral or ethical argument outside of tumblr.

[lawrawrrr]

Oh you can sprout opinions from your ears for all I care, but it means nothing when there's ultimately nothing you can do about it, bar emotional abuse/blackmail to get a woman to keep it or violence to lose it.

Anyway I'll reply to the rest tomorrow, bedtime for me


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[Jazz]

I would go to the doctors to ask why I'm releasing sperm

a bit more seriously, I would probably ask a lot of questions and go from there. I would in no way force someone to have an abortion/adopt/keep the baby etc and just go from there

@Succubus (http://www.habboxforum.com/member.php?u=90418); beat me to the joke, damn it

[TinyFroggy]

I'd definitely leave her. Cause she's cheating. :P