What do/did your parents force you into?

[Empired]

Basically thought of this because my mum has forced me to carry on taking spanish for A-Level and I'm hating it. I have to spend two and a half hours every Monday night embarrassing myself as I wasn't up to the standard of everyone else in the class when I started so I've slowly been getting further and further behind. And apparently my mum says we can "review the situation at Christmas" which basically means I'm stuck with it until summer :( ! (If you have any advice on how to handle this I'd rly appreciate it x)

So what have your parents forced you into over the years? Food, classes, learning an instrument?

My mum is extremely pushy whilst my dad was laid back. Still, over the years she forced me into:

Spanish as I've already said
Choir for a year (I hated absolutely every single session)
Eating tomatoes every day for 3 months (after the first week I used to hide them in my hand and then flush them down the toilet)
Learning Mandarin. She let me quit after the teacher and her found out I'd only been pretending to go for a term.
Doing DofE ughhhhh
Piano for 6 years (got to the point where I was supposed to do 90 minutes of practice a day. Never. Again.)
Flute for 2 years

probably some other stuff but I can't think of them

[scottish]

Nothing, I always got given the final decision.

[Red]

... that is ridiculous. My mum would never force me to do anything I didn't want to do. There is no way I would let her choose my subjects for me, especially knowing I struggle with a subject and don't enjoy it :S

[Empired]

... that is ridiculous. My mum would never force me to do anything I didn't want to do. There is no way I would let her choose my subjects for me, especially knowing I struggle with a subject and don't enjoy it :S
I don't struggle with the subject I just rly rly rly hate that particular class. It's worst because I was behind everyone else when we started so they just assume I'm stupid when I just haven't been taught the content. I'm just worried that I'll end up hating Spanish (which I love) because of this damn class lol :'(

However she's paid a LOT of money for me to take it for the year but I know she only does it to use as a reason for why I'm not allowed to drop it.

I thought everyones parents forced them into something at some point? :S

[scottish]

I thought everyones parents forced them into something at some point? :S

Like what? lol

I've never been forced into something I didn't want to do.

[Empired]

Like what? lol

I've never been forced into something I didn't want to do.
Idk piano lessons, even small things like eating broccoli

there's supposed to be some valuable lesson behind it to teach children

[Gina]

lit nothing lmao
she used to force me to go to tesco with her??
erm i went to one ballet class too but cried and never had to go again
my mum said her mum used to alwaus force her to do things she didnt want to do n she didnt like it so made sure she didnt do itto me and charlotte (and she didnt)

[Chris]

Nothing particularly. They forced me to get swimming lessons when I was younger, but I'm glad that they did because it's a very useful thing to have. I suppose my mum pressured me into getting driving lessons too, but ultimately it was me who decided to do it.

[scottish]

Idk piano lessons, even small things like eating broccoli

there's supposed to be some valuable lesson behind it to teach children

force feeding your children something they don't like isn't teaching any valuable lesson.

[lemons]

my mum forced me to take a tablet the other day

[lawrawrrr]

Nothing really 'forced' but my mum 'strongly insisted' I carry on with the Flute, which I'm so glad she did as I really love it now. They tried giving me... heavy advice on things like my University & degree choice, all the extra-curriculars etc but at the end of the day they said it was my choice.

[Metric1]

absolutely nothing and I love them for it :)

[Stephen]

force feeding your children something they don't like isn't teaching any valuable lesson.

so if a lil kid said they liked all kinds of junk food but wouldn't eat healthy things then you just let them get fat

[dbgtz]

I was forced to try a lot of things, but never to stick with it if I didn't like it though I wish I was introduced to a wider range of things.

[IzzyUhh]

my mum doesn't really push my to do much except obvious thinks like respect manners etc, but for years she wanted me to get into wanting to be a doctor or a make-up artist like she did

my dad pushes me a lot more tho but exercise, hes the main reason i was a prefect at school, go places i didn't wna go or whatever erm cant rly think of anything else

[Aiden]

Me and my parents think extremely differently, they're a lot more chavy compared to me ;). I wish I was pushed into things. I've not been pushed into anything.

[Sian]

the only thing i've been "forced" to do, is come back to Guernsey so I can actually earn money. Otherwise as long as I stayed in school and ya know, did some work, they didn't mind.

[scottish]

so if a lil kid said they liked all kinds of junk food but wouldn't eat healthy things then you just let them get fat

no, there's a difference between cooking healthy food and forcing them to eat something they despise.

I'd prepare healthy meals for my children, but I would force them to eat, for example as above broccoli if they hated it.

[Shar]

My parents are great and so supportive they've never forced me into doing anything at all

[welshcake]

I was forced to play the cornet for 7 years because both my parents played in a brass band. It was horrible. All of my teachers were so mean to me and I just wasn't interested at all. When I quit I didn't actually tell my parents for a few days because I thought they would shout at me. Luckily they didn't and then luckily I didn't have to see the horrible music teachers ever again.

[Jssy]

Nothing. My dad used to say to me if I didn't eat my tea it would be heated up the next night but it never was. Stuff I hated he said I'd get what I was given but it never worked and I had eating disorders so it wasn't really effective. Never been forced to do clubs or anything as my parents aren't the type. I went to church and a church school club called Lazerbeams because I wanted to. Never been forced to play instruments as we couldn't afford stuff like that, Christmas was the only time I got treats. I did ask for guitar lessons but like I said my parents couldn't afford it

[Inseriousity.]

just eating food I never liked when I was younger. they wanted me to do maths instead but I didn't want to and they never forced it on me. They knew I wouldn't have let them :P

[tpittman-11]

Nothing at all. My father died when I was young, and my mom cared about me and everything but was really lazy. So I learned from her mistakes and became incredibly ambitious :P

[Lewis]

Nothing. What right do they have to force you to do anything you don't want to do (unless it affects them somehow)?

[le harry]

A law degree.

[Matt]

Don't think i've been 'forced' as such, just persuaded that it's for the best but the decision is mostly up to me. I know when I was younger they would make the decisions for me which was understandable but nah my parents know I make pretty good choices. My brother is a different story completely...

[AgnesIO]

force feeding your children something they don't like isn't teaching any valuable lesson.

Children shouldn't grow up in a culture where they can just waste food. I worked in a restaurant for a few months and grew sick of seeing kids not eat stuff on their plate "i don't like it [START TO CRY]".


Nothing. My dad used to say to me if I didn't eat my tea it would be heated up the next night but it never was.

You should never make a threat and not carry it out. Dad once put a toy on a fire after threatening to do it if I didn't pack away or something - he said he regretted saying it immediately, but once he had said it he wasn't going to go back on it Safe to say I learned the lesson ;)

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I kind of just grew up to my parents expectations. I wouldn't necessarily be forced to do something, or achieve certain goals, but I could always tell their disappointment in me if I didn't which I guess always pushed me. Having said that, I would be 'forced' to do some cleaning or something, which is perfectly acceptable, and to be quite honest I find it embarrassing how few children in the West grow up with that sort of thing.

[scottish]

Children shouldn't grow up in a culture where they can just waste food. I worked in a restaurant for a few months and grew sick of seeing kids not eat stuff on their plate "i don't like it [START TO CRY]".

Why not?

If you don't like something, you don't like it. You should never be forced to eat something you don't like..

Same as if you're full, you're full. You shouldn't have to finish everything that's on your plate if you can't manage to eat any more.

[Empired]

Children shouldn't grow up in a culture where they can just waste food. I worked in a restaurant for a few months and grew sick of seeing kids not eat stuff on their plate "i don't like it [START TO CRY]".
Whilst I see your point, one of the problems with overeating in the western world is because we feel compelled to eat everything on our plates even if it's too much. I think they did an experiment with one group of people being blindfolded whilst they eat and another group not on Embarrassing Bodies. The blindfolded group ate less than half of what the group with sight did!

Unless you mean refusing to eat vegetables/only eating chips, children should be taught to eat healthily. But there's a difference between not eating any vegetables and actually not being able to swallow courgettes (me).

[Jssy]

No children should never be forced to eat something. They have to eat, but I'd eat and still be forced to eat stuff I hated it which led to my eating disorder. I have the problem most with mince and sweetcorn and those are foods I was forced to eat when I didn't want to and now my relationship with food is love/hate. Its not always practical but I think children should be given choices then if they don't eat it the parent could say but you chose it, rather than serving them up the same foods and forcing them to eat it. If I didn't eat food I got my pants pulled down, smacked and had to sit on the sofa all day in silence, if I needed the toilet I had to ask my dads permission and I swear that is where my relationship with food went wrong

[Sharon]

My mum suggested law career to me and always said she would want me to be one but if I were to say no she would never over rule that, I would have picked it myself anyway.

They signed me up for Chinese school which was on Sundays when I was like 9/10 but I went twice and decided I didn't want to go anymore, they paid a lot for it as well but just let me decide for myself if I wanted to go or not. Now I do wish I went because I didn't realise how much it would benefit me to be able to write/read and speak fluent Chinese

[lRhyss]

Swimming lessons, afterschool football etc...

But things like that were kind of needed/used to keep me active, so I don't know whether to count them or not.

I would never let my mom have any influence in what I wanted to do subject wise, it's not her taking the classes afterall.

[AgnesIO]

Why not?

If you don't like something, you don't like it. You should never be forced to eat something you don't like..

Same as if you're full, you're full. You shouldn't have to finish everything that's on your plate if you can't manage to eat any more.

The issue is that if children grow up with the delights of sugary junk, they will adapt to eating that and therefore not like 'healthy' options. This is essentially how the fast food world operates.

As I say below, the issue is therefore that too much is put on the plate to start with. You shouldn't waste food.


Whilst I see your point, one of the problems with overeating in the western world is because we feel compelled to eat everything on our plates even if it's too much. I think they did an experiment with one group of people being blindfolded whilst they eat and another group not on Embarrassing Bodies. The blindfolded group ate less than half of what the group with sight did!

Unless you mean refusing to eat vegetables/only eating chips, children should be taught to eat healthily. But there's a difference between not eating any vegetables and actually not being able to swallow courgettes (me).

Perhaps the true issue in the West is that people put too much on their plates to start with. It is wrong to think of this as a Western world thing anyway; it is far more rude to not finish what is on your plate in a lot of Asian countries than it is in any Western country. And then you get onto the issue of waste; you shouldn't take what you do not think you will eat due to the waste that this creates.

[Jurv]

never been forced to do anything i don't think, my parents have always encourgaed me to make my own decisions

[.:TaylorSwift:]

Swimming was something I was forced into learning. Going to church. Attend every running thing my elementary school made us do.


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