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ok genuine question
do you think that in a relationship sex is important? do u think without it the relationship may suffer? do you think its only like this for certain ages if so from what age? if your partner wasnt ready would you think differently of them if you was ready n wanting to do it? yes what do you think
am interested in your responses
It's not the be all and end all but it's definitely a good thing in moderation. I would question whether both parties were content within a relationship void of sex since I don't personally see why a person wouldn't want to share pleasure with the person they love. I would be fine waiting until the other person was "ready" but would question it if they had numerous sexual partners before me and probably feel a bit weird.
It's not hugely important but it is fun and there's no point avoidin it
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Yeah like obviously I'm not bothered about it straight away, usually I wait a while before sleeping with someone when I'm in a relationship with them, but its something that gives me like a greater bond I guess with that person. If sex breaks down then I think the relationship starts to too. That sounds pretty bad but to me sex really is important, I love sex. I would definitely wait for someone though if there would still be some form of intimate contact, without intercourse.
The Don
09-01-2015, 10:20 PM
Depends on the age and maturity of the couple. The dynamics of a relationship are going to change as the individuals get older. At a younger age it's not really important as both the individuals are still maturing and not everyone matures at the same pace so one person may be ready for and want sex whilst the other is not. In this situation the most important thing is that both individuals are ready and comfortable with it, there's nothing worse than one person trying to rush the other into things which they aren't yet ready for and may later regret. At my age and for me personally I would be looking for someone mature who has experience so I couldn't really see myself entering a sexless relationship. So to answer your question, do I think the relationship would suffer because of a lack of sex? It depends on the age, experience and maturity of the individuals in the relationship. For younger couples I don't think it's a big issue at all (and back at that age I would have happily waited if the other person wasn't ready), for older couples where most people are expected to have experience already it may be a problem.
OldLoveSong
09-01-2015, 10:31 PM
Like the don said i thibk it depends on the first and foremost age and maturity of both ppl. When ur like 14 no its not important lol. When u get older an u understand the possible consequences and can prepare urself and both of u feel like ur ready it can be a healthy thin in a relationship. Do i think its needed? Not really unless u decide its sumthin both of u would consider. Im in a long distance relationship and the most important thing is communication :-)
Narnat,
09-01-2015, 10:38 PM
I wouldn't say sex is everything in a relationship. There is so many more aspects to a relationship that shows love and shows the affection of love that doesn't involve any sexual activity. There are more ways to show people love in other ways than sex. I think love and relationships are more about having that feeling of when you're not with them you're wondering what they're doing, wanting to be part of their life, when their happiness comes before yours. Don't get me wrong sex is a fair part of a relationship but I don't think it's essential to have a heavy sexually active relationship to keep a relationship!
in a serious relationship it's important, any relationship in school isn't serious so i'd say from like 16/17+. i'm not saying that you can't have relationships or sex before that but i don't think it's important up until around that age like i think you can get away with not having sex with your boy/girlfriend before that age but from that point onwards i think it should be important, especially if you've been together for quite a long period of time and are comfortable with each other, not so much if you haven't
soz if that blabbed on a little i'm dying from doing assignments
FlyingJesus
09-01-2015, 10:41 PM
Im in a long distance relationship and the most important thing is communication :-)
And a good stock of batteries
I'm not really that bothered by sex myself but if I was in a relationship it would be a decent part of it because that's just the nature of things especially when you're old. AS IT SAYS IN A BOOK ABOUT MARRIAGE that my mum got when she got remarried, sex is not just the icing on the cake it's an important part of the main ingredients. Not so much if you're like 10 and obv no-one should ever feel pressured into it, but once you've made the decision that you are ready for it and everything that comes with it then yeah relationships obv change a lot from then on
buttons
09-01-2015, 10:43 PM
sort of but sort of not, it depends on context
for ex: partner can't have sex because of a condition or they aren't allowed to for a few weeks/months because of medication or injury, then its not going to be a huge problem for me if i don't get it.
decreasing sex and being rejected for sex frequently however, would make me question the relationship and partners feelings.
scottish
09-01-2015, 11:08 PM
sort of but sort of not, it depends on context
for ex: partner can't have sex because of a condition or they aren't allowed to for a few weeks/months because of medication or injury, then its not going to be a huge problem for me if i don't get it.
decreasing sex and being rejected for sex frequently however, would make me question the relationship and partners feelings.
PS: I have no problems with my *** or any conditions which effect me having sex, she gets it plenty from me
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lawrawrrr
09-01-2015, 11:20 PM
I could take it or leave it to be honest, I don't think it should be the most important part of any relationship. I'm not very often absolutely in the mood, there are only a few things that do do that, so being in a relationship with someone who couldn't probably wouldn't bother me too much, I wouldn't have thought. That could change though if I was actually faced with that decision!
FlyingJesus
09-01-2015, 11:26 PM
struts right in
I think as you're getting older sex is fairly important in a relationship. After all, everyone has their needs. If the person wasn't ready then and it was gonna be their first time, then you sympathise with them on it and wait until the are, if you can.. Which you should be able to if you love them. I think a lot of relationships can fell apart when you're older if there's no pleasure involved, and like said before, why wouldn't you want to share your pleasures with the one you supposedly love?
Sharon
10-01-2015, 03:55 PM
yeah i believe it is. it's something that both partners (hopefully) enjoy and should want to share with each other. if someone didn't want to i would question why they don't want me like that lol like i'm not good enough. i do think though if sex was suddenly taken out the current equation of my relationship we would be fine because there's a lot more to us than sex now. starting a relationship without though could be different
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