Do you read your partner's messages?

[Kyle]

For those of you with significant others, so you or have you ever read their texts, emails, or other instant messages to people other than yourself? Have they read yours? What are your views on it?


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[scottish]

Them - No, i'll sometimes see a Skype message or something but not in a sneaky way if you get what I mean, like if I'm sitting next to her I'll just happen to see it or be nosy but never do it when she's not sitting next to me.

I don't have views on it.

[Sharon]

I once did it on his Twitter out of curiosity literally randomly because I wanted to see if it was the same as his Netflix and it was, then found out he was messaging girls... confronted him and we got past it then a week later he was stupid enough to use Twitter to send a screenshot to his mate of the disgusting things a girl he was texting said to him... when I was still signed in lol got the notification to my phone

We've just broken up over the messages I found on his FB once again out of curiosity again lol like we had to change Netflix password and I was wondering if the new one was his FB and it was... saw everything and it dates back to not long after we actually started so yeah

I should stop being curious and finding people cheating on me lol part of me wishes I never found anything because I'd be in a what is perfect relationship in my mind and I would be so happy thinking everything is amazing and it's true love. Both times I thought i was gonna look and not find anything and then hate myself for not trusting him... opposite happened

[scottish]

I once did it on his Twitter out of curiosity literally randomly because I wanted to see if it was the same as his Netflix and it was, then found out he was messaging girls... confronted him and we got past it then a week later he was stupid enough to use Twitter to send a screenshot to his mate of the disgusting things a girl he was texting said to him... when I was still signed in lol got the notification to my phone

We've just broken up over the messages I found on his FB once again out of curiosity again lol like we had to change Netflix password and I was wondering if the new one was his FB and it was... saw everything and it dates back to not long after we actually started so yeah

I should stop being curious and finding people cheating on me lol part of me wishes I never found anything because I'd be in a what is perfect relationship in my mind and I would be so happy thinking everything is amazing and it's true love. Both times I thought i was gonna look and not find anything and then hate myself for not trusting him... opposite happened

Surely you must have suspected something though?

like I've never just thought 'oh I'll try her account' or anything like that out of curiosity just to see if she's messaged anyone.

[Sharon]

Surely you must have suspected something though?

like I've never just thought 'oh I'll try her account' or anything like that out of curiosity just to see if she's messaged anyone.

Honestly first time I didn't even suspect anything lol we were in a really good place at the time I don't know how he managed to pull it off... and the one last week was also just unexpected because of the way he's been treating me lately and continuously week after week telling me he hasn't done anything at all that I don't know about to my face

I genuinely do just get curious and bored as a result ending up seeing things I didn't want to

[buttons]

i looked at his skype messages in the beginning but not in a "is he cheating" way cause it's habbo people.. i just looked cause i was interested. ive never looked at his phone or felt the need to and i don't think i will in future unless i really suspect anything but i will ASK, not snoop.

ehh i don't like when him/anyone else looks at my phone without asking. same as how i don't like people watching me type anything. it's nothing to hide or the contents of what i write, i just don't like it! if he asked to see i would let him though.

[Matt]

I don't have a partner but i'd probably just let them use my phone whenever lol. If they use that opportunity to read my messages then so be it. I'd be quite open with them anyway and it wouldn't really bother me if they went through my stuff. If they became obsessed with checking them, then I'd be a bit like whaat. I wouldn't really check their messages unless I suspected anything????

[Zak]

Nah I have no reason to really. I'll occasionally see the list of people she has been texting when I use her phone but I'm not really interested.

[Sian]

No I haven't before. It's not worth the paranoia

[Absently]

No, I never read his text messages, etc. (in a snoopy way). I don't really feel the need, I trust him and I think snooping is wrong. If he was doing something dodgy I'd hope he'd have the decency to tell me straight out, or I'd ask him. If I'm in the room and he has just walked out and his phone goes off, I'll tell him he has a text message and he'll always tell me to read it and reply and I do the exact same when my phone goes off. I'm very open with my own phone, online messages etc. and I like letting him know about my conversations (because I'm super chatty and will do anything to chatter :P). I know once he has gone through my phone a few years back because he had trust issues but I have forgiven that. I would just hope in future if that happened again he'd ask me outright.

[Kimmy]

Was in a long distance relationship for over a year, and I always had the slight suspicion that there'd be stuff going on; probably my own insecurities/jealousy. When we moved in together he left his Facebook/Skype signed on and I read through everything and he'd been talking to girls in a romantic/lovey/sexual sort of way and was planning to meet up with him. He'd arranged to meet up with a girl behind my back and had done it too... Although nothing went on, I'm glad I got in when I did or he'd continue with it.

I read his messages and everything from then on because it was difficult to trust him for a while. Don't do it now, though.

[FlyingJesus]

When I was like 15 yeah but grew up, it's an invasion of privacy and complete disrespect to someone that's supposed to be important to you

[Krazybethw]

I have probably alot. But I worry due to ex's in my life...