Staying in touch

[-:Undertaker:-]

So, I notice a lot of people and it always makes me rather sad, don't stay in touch with people despite knowing them for years. Ever since leaving school you notice on Facebook/hear stories of people who spent so many years together and they no longer keep in touch at all.

What about you? I keep in touch with most people I come across/had close contact with so pretty much all my friends have stayed together and I really make the effort to keep in touch, as well as with teachers who I still talk to/visit to see from school - and I left 3 years ago now. Infact, it was only last night we went the pub with one of my English teachers for a nice catchup which was sweet.

[scottish]

I make no effort to keep in contact.

[GoldenMerc]

Er il try

[xxMATTGxx]

Unfortunately the majority of the people I would consider I was friends with during my school and college years, we hardly speak at all. I have a few of them on facebook but I don't put in any effort asking them how they are or meeting up with them or anything like that. It's been years, we are all living our lives and doing our own things. It's a bit sad really considering how much you used to talk and spend with them during education.

I just stay in touch with the friends I've made from this place really.

[Empired]

I've never been properly close to anyone before so staying in contact would just be awkward. I don't really mind though as I'm not very good at staying in contact anyway :P

[Zak]

I make no effort to keep in contact.

Same. Too much effort.

[Phil]

I am literally one of the worst people around for keeping in contact with people. There are friends from school I would have considered my best friends and I've barely seen them since I've left! Even people from here, I'm just really bad at going to someone and just starting a random conversation

[dbgtz]

I'm pretty bad at keeping contact with just about everybody, even the people I consider closest. Rarely speak to any of my home/old school friends when I'm at uni, and only meet up a few times when I'm back.

[Jurv]

i think i only stay in contact with those i used to speak to like everyday, other people who i'd have the odd conversation with in school i have on facebook to see what they're up to but i wouldn't bother messaging them or anything like that. i've only stayed in proper contact with 1 of my best mates from primary school (that sounds so bad considering how close people used to be back then :(), 1 from high school and 1 from college since moving to uni and i like it like that. quality over quantity!

[Joe]

I'd like to think I'll keep in contact with as many people as I did before but I highly doubt that'll happen just hearing everyone saying they haven't. Teachers, as well, especially in England, can be really picky with if they add students on facebook or something after they've left, probs because of professionalism, although I do now have my old english teacher on FB when he moved to Bahrain to teach English - added our entire class.

[buttons]

it used to bother me that i hadnt kept in touch with anyone but now i really don't care lol i made contact with a friend id lost contact with a few years after leaving school n we're bffs now. i will stay in contact with a uni friend cause iv known her for 4 years almost.

[Shar]

I stay in touch with my closest friends via whatsapp group. I've lost touch with a lot of people despite the fact that I have them on facebook etc. I think it would bother me if I lost touch with any of my friends that are in the whatsapp group I'm in atm.

[Gina]

i try to but it doesnt really work
me and charlotte went to a different secondary school to everyone because we moved areas and ive kept in contact with one person but even now we're driftng apart lmao she used to stay at my dads every fortnight for the weekend with me but because i havent been to my dads in over a year now and stayed at his for like yr and a half he hasnt been staying so we've just faded from eachothers lives lmao
im gonna be ending secondary school and going onto sixth form and sure would be nice to keep in contact with some people but i doubt it'll happen

ive kept in contact with a couple people from here who quit but still nto very often
i'll have them on fb etc so i could contact them if i wanted to
but whats the point

[Chippiewill]

If I haven't seen someone in the past month then the chances of me keeping in contact with them approaches zero.

[Matt]

I'm so bad at keeping in touch with people it's actually quite sad. Seeing as I've spent most of my life between the UK and Australia, I have 2 lots of friends, my British mates and then the Aussies. I find it so hard to keep in contact with everyone over in the UK because we all have our own lives and it's so easy to get carried away living my own that those in the UK just seem like a distant memory. One major thing i've noticed too is that both lots of friends lead totally different lives (mainly down to the culture differences in each county). I did see myself ignoring snapchats or Facebook posts from the people in Australia as I was so busy with the people in the UK. The timezone also means that they are all asleep when I'm awake and therefore when it comes to messaging them, I generally have to wait hours and hours (even days) to get a reply as they wake up and go to school and don't tend to reply to me until they get home (being the next day for me).

Especially now that i've just got back from the UK, I know that I can pick up where I left off with a majority of my friends. It was like nothing had changed apart from we'd all become a bit older, so for that I'm quite grateful. Whilst I was over in the UK I seemed to forget about my life back here in Australia as I was so caught up being back home (some might just call me a really bad multitasker lmao). Also the fact they can persevere and still try and start conversation with me (as I'm generally not the type of person to start a conversation in the fear that I'm annoying them) also helps. I'm also incredibly bad at replying to people over Facebook and Skype unless I see them on a day-to-day basis. That undoubtedly deters people from starting a conversation with me as they know it will take forever to get a response.

So I am crap at staying in touch but if/when I see them in person, I can talk to them for hours and have a great time. I think the fact that I don't stay in touch makes the times when we actually meet, even more special and gives us so much more to talk about. So I effectively lead 2 different lives but because I'm so bad at multitasking I generally can only handle 1 at a time - distancing myself from the others :(

Good thread btw, I was thinking about this recently.

[-:Undertaker:-]

That's so sad how loads of you don't keep in touch, especially with friends.

You'll regret it when you're older and you've no one to talk to about old times but yourself.

[UnrealGoffEmo]

Not in terms of school, but I miss people on other forums and ppl I'd want to hope to b-friend. Though if you don't keep n touch with ppl, they are not real friends I think/feel. Though also loosing contact is a form of "evolving/evolution" too as the world and life changes I guess!