GID

[Danny]

Since people here have found out about my past as a catfish, I have once again questioned myself about my actions. About why it felt more normal to relate as a male rather than myself as a female.

I have always felt uncomfortable in my own body, I am shy with very low self esteem, and easily aggravated over things. I will probably get some flak from people who don't understand or whatever. But I am ready to be honest with myself fully and with everyone else. I strongly believe that I have Gender Identity Disorder which basically means that in my mind I am male with a female body. I am relatively small even as a woman, so for me any kind of correctional surgery is out of the question, what male is 4 ft 8? Other than a hobbit or whatever!!

I always find myself thinking in the terms of a male and not as how I think a female would.

I have found this very difficult to admit to myself and am extremely nervous about being open to everyone else.

I wouldn't feel comfortable as a male in such a small body, but I also don't feel comfortable as a woman. I know people are going to probably find this ridiculous or something, but I sick of hiding, maybe publicly admitting this will help me be happy with how I am. Because people have noticed I am not my 'usual' self, I believe this will be in some way of an explanation.

Anyway, I probably will regret posting this but there's no turning back now.

[Jazz]

You're who you are not what gender you are, you're very brave opening up about it. Good on you, be who you want to be! x

[James]

You're who you are not what gender you are, you're very brave opening up about it. Good on you, be who you want to be! x
This ^^^

Everybody is different. People think in different ways. Yes, people will be funny about it, but some people are just like that. Don't let anyone bring you down.

[Inseriousity.]

You should go seek professional help. Even if you don't ultimately make the transition, it might help with your anger to talk to someone about it.

[Empired]

You should go seek professional help. Even if you don't ultimately make the transition, it might help with your anger to talk to someone about it.
Perhaps, but I can see why so many people are against seeing a professional as lots of GPs or therapists or counselors or whatever refuse to believe that gender could possibly be any different from your sex and actually make you feel a lot worse about yourself. I'm part of another forum which attracts a lot of people who question their gender (although the forum itself isn't specifically anything to do with gender identity) and we see endless threads from new members saying "I've sought professional advice and just been told that my feelings aren't real or that I just need to man up and get on with it, is that true?". Not helpful in the slightest.

[Joe]

What a brave post to make - I really hope to see no negative comments on this one because for once this is something to act mature about. You have the right to be who you want to be and thanks so much for opening up to us. A lot more useful help has been said above me, I hope you get the support you need!

[Inseriousity.]

When I said professional help, I didn't necessarily mean a GP or counsellor. There are dedicated helplines and charities that deal with transgender such as the beaumont society. I think that'd be more useful to explore more in-depth.

[Empired]

When I said professional help, I didn't necessarily mean a GP or counsellor. There are dedicated helplines and charities that deal with transgender such as the beaumont society. I think that'd be more useful to explore more in-depth.
Oh I guess so, I never thought of those as professional but I suppose they could be :P And I would definitely rather go to one of those than anyone else.

[thms]

GENDERQUEER - denoting or relating to a person who does not subscribe to conventional gender distinctions but identifies with neither, both, or a combination of male and female genders.

there's a lot of different variations when it comes down to gender alone, many people do not believe it is as black and white as male or female, i don't know too much regarding the term genderqueer as such but it is a term a lot of people use so maybe look into that??

[Danny]

I will consider my options but not sure what it will achieve, I couldn't truly be who I am because like I say, I couldn't be truly happy being a small male. It's hard enough being small as a female.

[Danny]

So I have read a little more and found this:
Signs of indirect gender dysphoria

1. Continual difficulty with simply getting through the day. For most of my life, everything was inexplicably stressful, and it was hard to work up the effort to do even the smallest everyday things. Going to the store, cleaning up the house, getting in the shower, any little thing people asked of me… it all just felt like too much. Even when there was no situational cause for this stress, nothing came easily to me. It was more than a mere habit of laziness – it was like I was so mentally fatigued that everything was a constant burden and a struggle.

I could force myself to get things done, but it would take a lot out of me. I would be irritable, snappish, annoyed by everything, and in anywhere from a mildly bad mood to a very bad mood almost every day. What happiness I did experience was typically short-lived and compromised by the ongoing undertone of dissatisfaction and, well, grumpiness. I didn’t like this at all. It was a constant tension, and I wished more than anything that I could find some way to relax and unwind. I didn’t want to be this way.

This sounds like me down to a T, but I wonder am I trying to find excuses for the way I am? It is hard knowing that what ever I decide, I will never be truly happy. How can I be when I know deep down I will never be who I truly am supposed to be?

[Danny]

I have taken steps into finding support, now I have to work up the courage to actually go. There is a meeting in London but I am really shy anyway, but doing this is huge. Ahhh, I don't know how I am going to do this.

[Cody]

Be who you want to be <3 we all are here for you no matter what!


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