Should you know your partners salary?

[buttons]

i'm just wondering if people think they should know their partners salary and vice versa?
you could argue it's their money and they don't need to tell you the details but i think it's a bit different if you're living together and trust each other.

i know my partners salary, i knew it from the day he got his contract and it wasn't a big deal cause we are open about how much money we have and he also knows my salary. neither of us have asked for each others money or anything like that!


what u think?

[Kardan]

Yes - how can you plan a life together financially without knowing it?

[scottish]

Yes but when I win 130m on the euromillions it's going into a secret account

[buttons]

Yes - how can you plan a life together financially without knowing it?
i suppose you could both agree to put in the same amount without telling each other how much money you have

we put an equal amount of money into our accounts for bills each month even though one earns more than the other

[Cow]

Well it does help understand you can and can't afford.

[Expling]

I think it's rather important yeah because some people would say the old 'what's mine is yours' quote and stuff
It's important to know because it means you're open with your partner and you don't have anything to hide, it's also quite important for you to know how much you've got to spend between you

[Kyle]

only if it's necessary e.g. bills payments
not really relevant otherwise

[lawrawrrr]

I wouldn't say it's necessary with a new partner but it's something that might come up in conversation, a lot of people (especially young people) complain about low salaries a lot and usually it would be with a partner that you complain about it to!

If you're living together and financing things between you then I think you should though, otherwise you can't plan very easily or fairly...

[Absently]

I know roughly what he earns but not an exact amount and I don't care too much really. We split everything evenly and take turns in paying for fun extras. We're both pretty open with showing each other our bank accounts, so there's nothing secretive in our relationship about what either of has and tend to give each other our cards to pay for stuff, if it needs be. At end of day, as long as we can both afford our bills, whatever is left over is up to him what he chooses to do with it and same for me. Although, we do have a savings account now, so a chunk would go into that before going wild :P

[Inseriousity.]

maybe not straight away but eventually you should be close enough to know that sort of thing. I can't really think of a normal* reason to keep it from someone you love.

*'i'm like walter white and have a secret drugs empire' isn't normal but understandable reason for example lmaooo

[Cerys]

Obviously not if you're not serious however if you've made financial commitments together such as mortgages then yeah I think you should know.

[FlyingJesus]

idk about SHOULD but I'd want to know so I can work out how much of their money I can spend

[mrwoooooooo]

lol cant have a true relationship if you cant trust your partner with your salary. rofl

[wixard]

yeah I dunno why someone would want to keep it from them anyway? I've a friend who is so weird about telling us what she makes I dunno why it's so taboo to ask

anyway me and my boo both on that high life min wage salary

[Phil]

I know my girlfriends wage and she knows mine but I don't think either of us know how much each other has very often. We are pretty open about it and hopeing to live together soon so will probably know more then. I don't think it's a necessity but it could be important

[Jake]

Yes - how can you plan a life together financially without knowing it?

This.
If I met someone and they refused to tell me how much they earnt a year I would think twice about dating them.
Pretty much setting yourself up for disaster.

[Zak]

Yes - how can you plan a life together financially without knowing it?

Read my mind

[abc]

Yes in any long term relationship.

[velvet]

only if you're living together. even then i don't think you need to know exact specifics. i like with my partner and have no idea how much he makes, he contributes more than me so it doesn't matter to be what extra he has.

[Mrs_Plant]

Well since we lived together me and my other half share a bank account so everything we earn goes into one account so I know everything makes it easier to plan and for bills etc I don't see why it's a big secret etc lol :)

[Hannah]

I've only been with my boyfriend for 2 months and we both know each others salary.

I don't think it's important to know really, unless you're looking at moving in together or anything which requires financial input. Even then you could get away with agreeing to a certain amount paid by each part and not have to know the salary. It's helpful to know what you can spend and stuff.

It's quite annoying that he earns more than double the amount I do and is quite sociable, so I'm spending a lot more money than usual. I haven't got to the stage of saying - well I can't really afford to do this - I really don't want him to feel pity and like he should pay for the majority - I like it to be even. So I've now volunteered to do six days a week at work at a job I hate just to get an extra £55 a week xD

Though when we go through stages of going out to eat I try to make sure we take it in turns to pay, he tends to suggest to go to cheaper places when it's my turn - so I'm partly glad he knows my salary for that.

[buttons]

It's quite annoying that he earns more than double the amount I do and is quite sociable, so I'm spending a lot more money than usual. I haven't got to the stage of saying - well I can't really afford to do this - I really don't want him to feel pity and like he should pay for the majority - I like it to be even. So I've now volunteered to do six days a week at work at a job I hate just to get an extra £55 a week xD
same here, he earns about double the amount I do but we both put the same amount of money into our joint account for bills. at the end of the day, he works more than me so he has earnt it and there might be a time in the future where he will be paying for our bills by himself (e.g when we have kids). only thing that bothers me is when he goes spends a lot of the food bill on nice stuff and i go buy cheaper versions cause i feel bad for spending money ;ll

[Hannah]

same here, he earns about double the amount I do but we both put the same amount of money into our joint account for bills. at the end of the day, he works more than me so he has earnt it and there might be a time in the future where he will be paying for our bills by himself (e.g when we have kids). only thing that bothers me is when he goes spends a lot of the food bill on nice stuff and i go buy cheaper versions cause i feel bad for spending money ;ll

The worst is when we go shopping together, he has expensive taste and we go look in expensive shops and I'm just picking faults with really nice clothes 'cause I look at the price tag and he's like oh that's not bad.

He easily and happily spends like 30-70 on shirts and more so on jeans and stuff.

Then he's like 'if you can't afford a nice pair of jeans or something I'll get 'em for you' and I'm just like
http://i.imgur.com/Gd26D.jpg

[scottish]

same here, he earns about double the amount I do but we both put the same amount of money into our joint account for bills. at the end of the day, he works more than me so he has earnt it and there might be a time in the future where he will be paying for our bills by himself (e.g when we have kids). only thing that bothers me is when he goes spends a lot of the food bill on nice stuff and i go buy cheaper versions cause i feel bad for spending money ;ll

its only money init

[Matt]

I personally wouldn't see a reason not share what your salary is with your partner. As already mentioned by others, how would you plan a future if you kept you salaries a secret from each other?

[A]

I think yes once you get engaged etc? Before that and your just dating and stuff, I don't think it really matters? If you love someone what should their salary matter? So until engaged/married I don't think it's really a biggie to know it.

[Jazz]

when you start planning towards the future, probably would be useful but in newer relationships, na its not info i would need

[Matthew]

yeah i think so as you need to know what lifestyle etc is affordable. maybe its not something which you need to tell straight away but when it gets more serious then definitely

[Hartzz]

IMO, I wouldn't want my partner knowing my balance deets, for the fact that I sometimes waste my money on things I shouldn't.....