how disabilities affect ppl

[Gina]

or mental things

there was a big discussion in hxhd plz move to forum
how has it affected school etc?? would you blame the disability or whatev or certain things if so like what

my english is gr8 i know

RuthOnToast; FallenCeilings; Prosiary; FlyingJesus; Cerys;

[whoeful]

I didnt like flying jesus's point that if someone refuses to read outloud its fairs they should get in trouble or something

[FlyingJesus]

My agoraphobia affects me a lot because it means a lot of the time I literally can't get to uni which obv isn't v helpful. What I find is useful is to communicate with the tutors and other staff so they know what's going on and how to understand and support me, rather than assuming everyone will just magically cater to my every whim and wish without knowing

[Cerys]

I can't comment on the disability side of it all but can with the mental aspects

My school were fairly decent when it came to helping people with mental struggles, but they were useless with recognising it ;/ like if you said to them oh this is how i feel blah blah help please, they'd ignore you and be like ok go back to lesson l o l. They waited til something bad happened to you before helping you, which is what happened with me

But once they realised they were great. I got given a lil pass which let me leave lesson whenever I felt like I had to, and access to Bridge which is a happy lil room where you can do your work in peace instead of doing work with the rest of the class, or just chill.


I've had experience with CAMHS too and i must say in my area they were utter shit.

[whoeful]

My agoraphobia affects me a lot because it means a lot of the time I literally can't get to uni which obv isn't v helpful. What I find is useful is to communicate with the tutors and other staff so they know what's going on and how to understand and support me, rather than assuming everyone will just magically cater to my every whim and wish without knowing


Different when you have a cover teacher though, and they expect you to do things that makes you uncomfortable, and the only way of letting them know is by also telling the whole room?? ygm

[FlyingJesus]

Surely the rest of the class knows since they've been there the whole term if not longer knowing what the person's like. Also I didn't say it's right to punish people for having problems lol I said it's not the fault of the school if a staff member doesn't know something about you that you haven't attempted to let them know about. Support is important but helping others to support you is crucial too, it won't all get done for you

[whoeful]

Most times it has happened is when ive gone into a new class or at start of a new year though, and i have attempted, if ive said i dont feel comfortable with reading outloud/doing something they should leave it at that, id understand if i was argumentitive about it or rude but i wasn't and i arent towards staff

[Prosiary]

As many people know, I have a disability called dyspraxia, it mainly affects me in co-ordinations, speech and how fuking distracted i get with shit so easily lol. IIRC, I got diagnosed when I was like 3, with an mri scan - where i had to be put under so i didn't move because it's linked to your brain, so I got diagnosed with a scan.


It's a developmental co ordination disorder [dcd], its pretty common I think, in 2009 1 in every 20 child aged 7 to 8 had dyspraxia. Theres no real cause for it, but its a disruption in the way messages from the brain are translated to the body, which basically affects how things are done in a co-ordinated way. With me, as a child it took me years to learn to walk and talk, and I had countless years of speech therapy, which didn't help and I still sound like an idiot to this day, lol. As a kid I found it really hard to walk, obviously so I had a walking frame to help me walk and eventually learnt to walk with lots of physiotherapy.

In school, it affected me quite a bit, I was in a special school up to like year 3, then got put into a mainstream school - imo not the best decision by the school but yeah.

It also affected me making friends, as because of my speech and dyspraxia, I suffer with anxiety (not diagnosed bcaus not got the courage to go drs, *REMOVED* lol) and I really overthink what people think about me with my speech and such, this has been happening for years but can't really fix my speech as i'm a lot older so speech therapy probably wouldn't work if I tried it again imo. I also had to use a type writer in school, because whenever I used to handwrite, I could hardly write half a page without my hand hurting loads, suprisingly i'm pretty good at reading imo.

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[whoeful]

I dont have disabilities but i have had struggles with mental health. My school its like, we have sen and we have referrals to councelling places, we also have a tamhs trained school councellor. Ive had camhs before and I stopped for a few years, i was getting help with sen and school counsellor from like year 7 and still now, the school are alright at help but school councellor is v unreliable and isnt always there. Sen are good, i can go to sen classrooms for my exams and to go to when im having panic/anxiety attacks but a lot of the staff just arent fully good at help, like if i dont want to do something, if i feel anxious most staff know that i struggle and will let me leave but when theres teachers who dont know me its hard to explain to them, and they feel the need to punish me as a student, i also have behaviour problems as it is so they just assume its me being bad behaved and/or trying to get out of lesson.

[Cerys]

a lot of the staff just arent fully good at help,

yessss this, when i was at school there was this one woman who taught us PE and she knew I had the slip to get out if i needed to.

tho every time I used it in her lesson she always came running after me screaming and shouting at me to get back to go back to pe, saying i shouldnt have the card and threatening to rip it up calling me attention seeking blah blah
made me so much worse and pretty much scared to go to her lesson

some staff are the opposite of helpful

[whoeful]

yessss this, when i was at school there was this one woman who taught us PE and she knew I had the slip to get out if i needed to.

tho every time I used it in her lesson she always came running after me screaming and shouting at me to get back to go back to pe, saying i shouldnt have the card and threatening to rip it up calling me attention seeking blah blah
made me so much worse and pretty much scared to go to her lesson

some staff are the opposite of helpful

yeah i had a teacher like that, put me in iso for having an anxiety attack in PE, saying its not real and his wifes a doctor and that its all fake, he didnt even know me lol but i didnt see him after i reported it, first time i spoke to him

[Prosiary]

yessss this, when i was at school there was this one woman who taught us PE and she knew I had the slip to get out if i needed to.

tho every time I used it in her lesson she always came running after me screaming and shouting at me to get back to go back to pe, saying i shouldnt have the card and threatening to rip it up calling me attention seeking blah blah
made me so much worse and pretty much scared to go to her lesson

some staff are the opposite of helpful


Yeah this was like me, teachers were not really helpful/understanding until my head of year emailed all my teachers informing them about my dyspraxia etc

[RuthOnToast]

i have autism and dyslexia, before in school it would cause to be very stressed and id often end up getting frustrated and angry and struggled to cope in a large mainstream school which caused all the exclustions. Spent months out of school which massilvely affected my education and with spending little time with others my own ages it didnt help my soical skills either
But now after being at college 4 years its alot better well ive learnt to not get angry with people but realised nope they cant rele which also causead my mind and really most of them are just trying to help and if i ask they do such as always having the same seat in exams at the back and at the edge so im not in the middle, when we do test in lessons i do them in a separate room and i had staff i knew well who i could ask to speak for me
i never bothered speaking to others at school i did intend to be but when it came to it the idea of speaking just couldn't actually do it.
Also got stressed if their was any change to the routine at the start of this year i got kicked out for 3 days and i wasnt happy about having 3 days off just spent 3 days being stressed
then these certain smells i cant stand such as the smell of books and our geology room was very small so had to sit at a table alot of other peopd me to be stressed for most of geology.
These also many ways it affects that i dont even realise such as talking loads about one thing and little eye contract. As a kid my obsession was dogs (this caused alot of bullying but it makes me laugh that they still do it now years later) now its more planes and sometimes rocks
AS for the dyslexia thats just makes me annoyed at how bad my spelling is. i have to reword stuff cos i cant spell a word and spend ages trying to figure it out. o then these the internet world that just take the huge piss out of it and its the one thing i cant stand people doing is commenting on my poor spelling


That was longer than i thought it was....

[Prosiary]

Seen autism mentioned in this thread, theres a documentary by Louis Theroux, it's on netflix UK, in the louis theroux playlist. episode 20. Called Extreme Love - Autism, it's a really moving documentary, about autism, and really severe cases of autism He goes to a special school; one of the best schools for autism in America it moved me a lot and educated me about it, really good.