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22-10-2016, 07:14 PM
ok i know none of u can give me real legal advice but idk just calm me down
basically, my brother and his gf split up because she couldn't deal with him being diagnosed with a progressive disorder. my brother came to stay with my mum. one day my brother went to his exes house to pick up belongings and he found her lying on the sofa passed out with an empty wine bottle whilst their 3 yr old son was reaching behind the sofa for an old mouldy banana because she didn't feed him
my brother picked him up, took him back to my mums where he lived for a year. another 1.5 year later, they now have their own house with my brothers new pregnant girlfriend and her son.
in the 2.5 years since my brother took my nephew, she has been very inconsistent with her visits. my brother & her agreed with social services she would see him once a week for a few hours. she basically turned up 5 times in that 2.5 years. one of the rules was she wasn't to take my nephew to her house because she had been caught with drugs there & had a violent boyfriend, but my brother found out she had taken him, so he cut contact & she didn't bother to get in touch.
however fast forward to now, she's jealous that my nephew has a new mummy, will be having a brother soon etc, & she's decided to go for full custody. now i know that all statements from the health professionals/social services will be in my brothers favour (she had been reported to social service for not taking my nephew to nursery, not potty training him and he was really behind developmentally - since he's been with my brother he's improved sooooo much & the developmental lady, his teachers etc think he's been much better off with his dad) but im just sick with worry because i know often custody favours the "mother". additionally, my brother is disabled and am so worried that they will look at him think he can't look after his son and give him to his mum, even tho he's more capable of looking after him than she is.
i know that even if she's given custody my family will fight it but am just so worried that the wrong decision will be made as it most often is for mothers/fathers n ugh!!!!! it's awful, anyone give me advice or anything?? just something to make me feel better
TLDR; nephews mum fighting for custody, drug user who barely fed him, rarely saw him in the 2.5 years since being in my in my brothers custody, worried she will get custody as she's female & my brother is disabled.
basically, my brother and his gf split up because she couldn't deal with him being diagnosed with a progressive disorder. my brother came to stay with my mum. one day my brother went to his exes house to pick up belongings and he found her lying on the sofa passed out with an empty wine bottle whilst their 3 yr old son was reaching behind the sofa for an old mouldy banana because she didn't feed him
my brother picked him up, took him back to my mums where he lived for a year. another 1.5 year later, they now have their own house with my brothers new pregnant girlfriend and her son.
in the 2.5 years since my brother took my nephew, she has been very inconsistent with her visits. my brother & her agreed with social services she would see him once a week for a few hours. she basically turned up 5 times in that 2.5 years. one of the rules was she wasn't to take my nephew to her house because she had been caught with drugs there & had a violent boyfriend, but my brother found out she had taken him, so he cut contact & she didn't bother to get in touch.
however fast forward to now, she's jealous that my nephew has a new mummy, will be having a brother soon etc, & she's decided to go for full custody. now i know that all statements from the health professionals/social services will be in my brothers favour (she had been reported to social service for not taking my nephew to nursery, not potty training him and he was really behind developmentally - since he's been with my brother he's improved sooooo much & the developmental lady, his teachers etc think he's been much better off with his dad) but im just sick with worry because i know often custody favours the "mother". additionally, my brother is disabled and am so worried that they will look at him think he can't look after his son and give him to his mum, even tho he's more capable of looking after him than she is.
i know that even if she's given custody my family will fight it but am just so worried that the wrong decision will be made as it most often is for mothers/fathers n ugh!!!!! it's awful, anyone give me advice or anything?? just something to make me feel better
TLDR; nephews mum fighting for custody, drug user who barely fed him, rarely saw him in the 2.5 years since being in my in my brothers custody, worried she will get custody as she's female & my brother is disabled.