Feeling Old - the appreciation thread

[Empired]

Hey team,
I've started feeling like a proper twentysomething grandma (phrase I picked up from buzzfeed so I'm obvs still somewhat down with the kids) and I'm absolutely loving it. Thought I'd start up a little thread where we can post our own stories about what we've done that makes us feel old and celebrate.

Confession time here's what I got:
I bailed on a night out last night to sit at home in my pyjamas and watch last year's BBC Proms version of Oklahoma! that I've had on record since xmas while hemming some jeans. Also got super overexcited bc I drove to Sainsbury's after work to treat myself to a box of Milk Tray (which was on offer everyone get yourselves over to sainsburys quick quick honestly).

So anyway I was asleep by 23:30, woke up this morning to a fucktonne of snapchats from the night out I wasn't on and I lay in bed actually ecstatic at my lack of a hangover and my nicely hemmed and correct-length jeans.

What do you do that makes you feel old?

[buttons]

Yeah I feel old and young simultaneously - old but nowhere near an actual "adult" yet despite the fact I pay bills, have insurance and so on.. it's an eternal struggle of either feeling too boring or feeling too childish!

One thing for me lately is I have things on finance and my credit rating took a hit. I love seeing my payments come off and my credit rating grow.

Getting pissed at my neighbours slamming doors at 3am when they've come home drunk.. like that was never me lmao.

Doing all the housework at 9am on a Saturday like my mum used to because everything I have is brand new and paid by me so I want them to all be in good condition for a long time lmao

Buying matching lampshades and (super velvety soft) curtains.....

Telling my boyfriend off for staying up late and sleeping late.

Fuck I'm turning into my mum.

[Neversoft]

Habbox makes me feel old. I've been registered on here for literally thirteen years and I think I'm probably one of the oldest to still visit. I live near a college and I feel old when I see the students, because that time in my life seems so long ago. I feel old around Christmas and my Birthday, because they don't carry as much significance anymore. The thing is, I don't really look that old. Whenever I meet new people, they always think I'm around 19/20. Hopefully that means I still have a lot of perceived youth left, even though I'm actually getting on. Last night (or rather, this morning) I went to sleep at 8am and I got out of bed at 3pm. I work and have bills to pay, but I don't have a career as such. I don't feel like I necessarily act that old and I can't imagine myself ever celebrating being old.

[LUCPIX]

I've started feeling like a proper twentysomething grandma

Yes lol and you are 20 just like me, correct?


Yeah I feel old and young simultaneously - old but nowhere near an actual "adult" yet despite the fact I pay bills, have insurance and so on.. it's an eternal struggle of either feeling too boring or feeling too childish!

haahahahahahhhh! You've said everything. My pre-18yo me've had a half-broken and jokey tendency of imagining the achieving-adulthood moment as this inexplicably magical morphing where, almost as if binarily, one (mentally) does abandon almost all his previous philosophies and concepts of life from the former self and becomes officially an "adult", with an "adult"-specific mindset, a suddenly-gotten system of tastes, points of views and - obviously - responsibilities. Just like when the package says the food's due's in the following day then you automatically claim that, tomorrow, the food will compulsorily be rotten??

But, in the end, turns out this "click" hasn't happened in the slightest and, even whilst being something that the common knowledge would claim as adult, I still feel like a goldfish out of the bowl, a teenager working?, paying bills and answering "important" calls?, letting lovers go because that's the more mature thing to do although it would be better to stay with them?? Is there really a point on our lives we're finally assuming our adulthood? Is that necessary?

This is something that comes and goes but, in general, I compulsively crave for solitude and grab with teeth and nails any possibility of staying by myself and (over)thinking about things, throwing myself to any type of activity that is impossible to be done in pairs, for example. Voluntary loneliness isn't such a youngggggg thingg so prob fits in the idea of this discussion

[Empired]

Yes lol and you are 20 just like me, correct?

yeah I am lol, and yet I already groan about my back when I'm lifting heavy stuff out the dishwasher

[Neversoft]

I feel old when twenty year old's make threads about being old. Early twenties are the best times of youth! Happiness supposedly peaks at 23 and 69. (https://nypost.com/2017/04/03/you-probably-arent-at-the-happiest-age-of-your-life/)

[LUCPIX]

yeah I am lol, and yet I already groan about my back when I'm lifting heavy stuff out the dishwasher

Do you have grey strands??? I was born with some white hair in the back that couldn't simply be hidden with anything (slowly fades as it gets bigger) and now some of the ones in the front are slowly losing its color, something that I thought that would take ages to happen

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I feel old when twenty year old's make threads about being old. Early twenties are the best times of youth! Happiness supposedly peaks at 23 and 69. (https://nypost.com/2017/04/03/you-probably-arent-at-the-happiest-age-of-your-life/)

LMAO I was thinking about that, to be honest. Like, are we technically old enough to even start pondering about these feelings? In spite of all the gathered experience and such it's clear that I didn't reach the "nirvana" and stuff, hardly joined Uni, which will fatally happen soon. The thing I have for granted is that these days people from all ages tend to have a compulsory (and maybe superficial/meme-oriented) sense of nostalgia over things that happened like two years ago? As though the act of assuring ourselves that we are older than we are is tempting in a certain perspective (like when one's a veteran in a community) and terrifying in another (like when you have wrinkles or have IRL responsibilities?)

[Empired]

omg stop shaming me for feeling old sometimes, I have a naturally elderly heart

and nope, no grey strands and fingers crossed won't be happening any time soon?

[Neversoft]

LMAO I was thinking about that, to be honest. Like, are we technically old enough to even start pondering about these feelings? In spite of all the gathered experience and such it's clear that I didn't reach the "nirvana" and stuff, hardly joined Uni, which will fatally happen soon. The thing I have for granted is that these days people from all ages tend to have a compulsory (and maybe superficial/meme-oriented) sense of nostalgia over things that happened like two years ago? As though the act of assuring ourselves that we are older than we are is tempting in a certain perspective (like when one's a veteran in a community) and terrifying in another (like when you have wrinkles or have IRL responsibilities?)

Formative years obviously leave a very prominent impression, and people tend to find it easy to look back and think of it as simpler or more pleasant, simply because they can't look forward. The older you get, the more you have lived; people will say things like "you're only as old as you feel" or "forty is the new twenty," in an effort to feel younger or convince themselves that there is still much more ahead of them. I also feel that, through globalisation, and especially the internet and media, life seems to move much faster; information is simultaneous. In many ways, society did used to be a lot more straightforward. It will be interesting to see what comes beyond the information age. I wonder if, through a strong sense of nostalgia, in the coming decades we may see a more prominent reemergence of past culture. I wonder, for example, if there'll be a new roaring twenties in the 2020s, or a new swinging sixties in the 2060s, or if the concept of historical periods may take on a global significance one day.

[dbgtz]

bringing home work to meet deadlines makes me feel old
certainly not paid relatively enough to do that kind of shit either

a more positiveish feeling old is that I didn't get asked for id the other day
also a smidge enjoyment from opening a bank account with a slightly better interest rate


Formative years obviously leave a very prominent impression, and people tend to find it easy to look back and think of it as simpler or more pleasant, simply because they can't look forward. The older you get, the more you have lived; people will say things like "you're only as old as you feel" or "forty is the new twenty," in an effort to feel younger or convince themselves that there is still much more ahead of them. I also feel that, through globalisation, and especially the internet and media, life seems to move much faster; information is simultaneous. In many ways, society did used to be a lot more straightforward. It will be interesting to see what comes beyond the information age. I wonder if, through a strong sense of nostalgia, in the coming decades we may see a more prominent reemergence of past culture. I wonder, for example, if there'll be a new roaring twenties in the 2020s, or a new swinging sixties in the 2060s, or if the concept of historical periods may take on a global significance one day.

I can't imagine so personally since trends seem to come and go very quickly. At most I think you'll see parties themed around those times, but it won't stick. I think you're also missing something when it comes to the internet, and that is that it has allowed people with more niche interests to communicate.

[FlyingJesus]

Dunno what you lot are on about I am young and fresh

[Empired]

sorry flyingjesus maybe your hearing aid isn't turned up enough, we're talking about FEELING OLD
dunno what your answer was for

[lawrawrrr]

I am literally such an old person I like classical music and jigsaw puzzles and I HATE loud music and going out and partying!! I also have painful joints, ankles and knees :(

When I'm talking to other people around my age they're usually always talking about how they go out drinking and have loads of friends they talk to and have generally really interesting lives (and therefore social media). And having partners, going on holiday etc. Sometimes I really feel like I'm missing out cos I do so much stuff to do with work (either proper job or Habbox) cos I care about my career and figure I've got the rest of my life for personal stuff but... idk is that true? I try not to think about it too much or it upsets me.

It's even silly things like buying the latest tech (laptops, iPhones, games) and designer clothes etc, again mentioning holidays here, a lot of people around my age seem to be doing that even though they earn less (speaking about some specific people I know here, not making a general point about HOW RICH I AM cos no) but I genuinely just have the mindset to save money and be "sensible" which leaves a lot of people calling me "boring". But then... I have a house so I need savings in case something goes wrong... it worries me :(
Empired; your night sounds a hell of a lot better than the night out that's like a great night in my books ;D

[Neversoft]

I think you're also missing something when it comes to the internet, and that is that it has allowed people with more niche interests to communicate.

That was one of my points? The internet has, in ways, brought society together and contributed toward a more globalised, transnational world.

[LUCPIX]

no grey strands and fingers crossed won't be happening any time soon?

Not being easily stressed might help but in my case there's no turning back so the strands can just lose their colors, who cares?, they can be pretty sometimes, token of lifetime experiences etc heh


Formative years obviously leave a very prominent impression, and people tend to find it easy to look back and think of it as simpler or more pleasant, simply because they can't look forward.

And, most notably, because our heads generally can only build memories over strong emotional stimuli, so nothing from the past that were essentially "boring" will be kept inside; therefore, the past will ALWAYS look brighter and more interesting than it actually was!?


or if the concept of historical periods may take on a global significance one day.

You mean having as a token of a decade something that might represent events and style of lives from all the world? Not hard to believe if we consider that, each day, it seems like habits and customs, which in the past are usually characteristic of a civilization, are progressively being fragmented so that in the end there is a true universalization of the way we communicate and we have access to information and the entire planet - not politically - becomes one


I like classical music and jigsaw puzzles and I HATE loud music and going out and partying!!

Right???? We from home have a massive pile of cut newspaper pages with sudokus and crosswords printed in it because, with some exceptions, there isn't something cooler than solving them.

And I kind understand the missing out/feeling left out in almost all groups (in both real life and online) because of a personally-chosen style of life and choice of tastes. I could say that 90% of the things I really enjoy doing/playing/listening to are things that other people from my circle either never heard about OR - as it happens more frequently - they used to love in a very specific time of their lives (specially childhood) and, nowadays, they don't show interest on these things, like, at all; which makes it hard to make a bond since without these things to talk about I can look like a very hollow dude, without having something to discuss about etc

[dbgtz]

That was one of my points? The internet has, in ways, brought society together and contributed toward a more globalised, transnational world.

then I have misunderstood and I agree

[lawrawrrr]

extra nomination: me and Jazzy; are literally having a conversation about the best looking tree right now

[YellowBelli]

It’s 9.34pm and I nearly just fell asleep with my phone in my hand, while thinking about stuff that makes me feel old.. !!

[TinyFroggy]

To be honest, I do young people stuff. Looking at my friends is the only thing that makes me feel old T.T

[LUCPIX]

To be honest, I do young people stuff. Looking at my friends is the only thing that makes me feel old T.T

If watching Looney tunes shorts from the 40s on Saturday mornings under the duvet is included on your young tasks, send me a private message ASAP

[scottish]

I am young, no idea what everyone's on about.

I'm in my prime ;)

[TinyFroggy]

lol. that is one of the young task >.<

[Zak]

Getting up at 6, driving an hour to work, leaving at 5, driving an hour back, doing the daily tasks around the house before going to bed before 12 makes me feel old. Might actually be ageing me too haha.