Do you have a big family?

[Samantha]

Do you have a big family? My immediate family is my mum, dad, me, sister and two half sister's, but then I probably have over 100 (great) cousins, loads of aunties and uncles etc. It's massive overall, I have (great) cousins I've never even met it extends so much.

What about you?

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[Triz]

I guess so, but can't say I speak to a right lot of my family

My immediate family is my mum, dad and brother...
Then I got 2 half brothers and 2 half sisters, and 2 step sisters and 3 step brothers... Then I got loads of cousins and whatnot. Only speak to about 4 cousins though, if that.

Don't even speak to most of my step and half brothers / sisters tbh lol.

[Samantha]

Oh wow lol, I wonder what it would be like to have a brother. I grew up with my full sister and I am extremely close to her, my half sisters I'm not too close to, but that's partly because I don't really drink. All 3 of my sisters will go out for meals or on nights out but I'd rather not unless it's a family gathering.

Literally I only speak to some of my family because they shop where I work and that's it.

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[Triz]

Yeah it's alright I guess lol, I'd rather have had a sister though I think, but you always want what you don't have so...

I'm really close to my brother too, both being lorry drivers we spend 80% of the working week on the phone to each other talking absolute crap, but it passed the time.

I don't think a lot of people are close to their step or half siblings.. I'm closest to one of my step sisters, but only once she turned 18, I'm sure you can imagine why lol. She's 21 now, and we've spoke since... But didn't really speak to her before that lol...

Alcohol brings people closer together it seems haha
Maybe your family are shopping where you work to try and get your work discount lol

[Samantha]

Haha unfortunately they're not allowed it, so I get a free pass! Only my dad's allowed it (I can only choose someone I live with to use it).

Are you and your brother close in age too? I think that always helps with closeness as well. There's 18 months between my sister and I so I think that helped a lot. It's lovely to have someone to grow up with as well.

Oh I have a niece and nephew (twins) as well. Their mum is one of my half sisters, I don't see them too often but I never thought I would be an auntie so it's great.

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[Triz]

Oh that's pretty decent that you at least get to share the perks with someone else.. even better that you have an excuse so that you don't get used and abused by family members wanting to use your discount.

Yep. There is 11 months between me and my brother... I worked out pretty early on that I was a mistake lmao. I guess it does help that we're similar ages, we're going through life and often experiencing things at the same time, so always good to talk to someone about that etc.. plus we have the same sort of humour and whatnot... We're both as silly as eachother, we don't take things too seriously and we rip into each other like loving brothers should do haha.

Ah, yeah I can't want to be an uncle, but based on how things are going in both of our lives, I can't see it happening for either one of us anytime soon lol. I want a kid so badly it's unreal, I've been broody for about 4 years now but my face works better than a condom loool

[Samantha]

It's great, I work at Asda so I get to use my discount at Walmart's in the USA too (I've never been abroad or had a passport so no idea when I'm using that).

I would like kids eventually, but my boyfriend doesn't, so we will just have to see! I'm not as set on them as I was years ago though, and I'm definitely not ready yet.

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[Triz]

Oh that's cool, I didn't know they'd allow a discount spread across like that.

I only wanted kids at first because it was the norm. Then my ex girlfriends brother had a kid and we looked after her every Monday, that's when I got broody and I realised I didn't just want a kid because it was the social norm. I wanted a kid because I wanted to love and raise a child of my own, and watch them grow and develop as a person.. plus from ages 3 to around 13, they're your little personal slave.. if you want a beer from the fridge, you need but ask lol

[Samantha]

I think I wanted children because I'd like to carry on my family name and everything (even though if I'm married it'll be a different name). I just think it would be good to just carry it on.

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[Triz]

Yeh there is that as well.. but also the fact that as we've noted, we don't really talk to people outside of our immediate family. So I feel if I don't have children, then who will remember me when I'm gone? That's a scary thought that once I'm gone, no one will really care...

Although sounds morbid when I word it as this..
I want kids so when I die they can moarn for me

[Samantha]

See, my dad (had) 6 siblings (2 left) and so has my mum (all 6 left), so that's where my big family comes from as one of my mum's sisters has 6 children etc. So those names will carry on apart from ours. Only time will tell I guess, I'm definitely not ready for any yet though. I would also like at least 2, potentially close together.

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[Triz]

Oh god I'll be happy with one. But idk if that'll change when and if I have kids... But yeah like yourself if I did have a 2nd, I'd want it within 2 years of my first, just because I know how important a big brother or sister can be, plus they'll keep eachother entertained half the time.

[-:Undertaker:-]

My Dad's side is the big family. My mum's side isn't that big really.

Immediate family as in those i'm in constant contact with and see often, probably numbers around 20.

[FlyingJesus]

If you go back a couple of generations it'll be enormous because that's just how maths works, every time you mix two families you're adding on another whole bunch :P immediate family is fairly large anyway, I have 12 full cousins and all but 1 of them have children... but I can name maybe 3 of those kids lol we don't see the family often at all, just weddings and funerals

[Ekelektra]

My mum is one of eight children and I have 12 cousins on her side. But we don't have much to do with them outside of when we all get together maybe once a year.

But we have more to do with my dad's side and he has one sister and my two cousins. So most family get-togethers are just 11 of us.

[tbl]

My mother was one of eleven, and all her brothers and sisters had at least three kids each. I don't really speak to any of them.

My dad is one of two, and for the most part I don't go out of my way to associate with his side of the family either.

[Empired]

No. It's literally just me and my mum. I often (darkly) joke about how everyone else has died. Been to so many more funerals than I have weddings lol.

Got no grandparents or siblings which obviously already massively cuts me down on numbers. Then my mum has 1 sister who she doesn't speak to under any circumstances so I just don't count that. My dad was kind of an only child but we found out he had a half sister, but she doesn't speak to us because we forgot to invite her to his funeral (we literally just forgot she existed because we don't really know her at all). SO YEAH. That's my fam. Me and mum.

BUT, saying that, I've become a fucking expert at getting myself metaphorically adopted into other ppls families as a result of not really having any of my own. So like as an example, christmas used to suuuuuck back when my dad was still alive cause it was just me and mum visiting him in the nursing home and pretending to not be sad. But then a couple years later we had a couple who are the same age as my mum come to stay with us because their house was having major building work done. They quickly became like a second fam and they've invited us round for christmas ever since. I often just rock up at their house after work sometimes as well if I'm hungry or fancy a chat and it really is just like visiting a second set of parents.

I've done the same with a bunch of other ppl as well so I don't feel sad about having almost no (real) family except when I'm already feeling sorry for myself.

It generally works well.