The love of my life or my best mate. Who do I choose?

Hey there,

So here's the problem, I have sort of liked a girl for a long long time (since year 7 (four years ago)), and over the last year or so she was really flirty with me and everybody reckonded she 'blatantly' liked me. I didn't do anything about it as I was sort of shy and a little confused.

Now my best mate is with her, even though he knew I liked her he still went on to ask her out, this I did not immediately have a problem with; but lately I have begun to notice her more and more. Both she and my friend have a very rocky relationship and have broken up twice within as many months, both times he asked me for advice and both times I got her and him back together.

But now what do I do? Should I leave it and let her go forever, or should I stop the good advice and hope the worst comes between the two of them? I have been pondering for weeks and I cannot make my mind up, would we hit it off? What would happen to our frienship? Would either of them find out what I had done? What if I lost them both?

I need real, impartial advice and I need it now! The girl continues to have the occasional flirt with me and still seems interested. But is she really?

SOMEBODY HELP ME PLEASE :(

Adam.

Ok well, if he was really your "best mate" why would he go after her when he knew you liked her. And if something happens the next time between them, offer help but hope for the worse. Now this may sound cruel, but this seems like the only way you will get the girl, and you might be mates with him. If they happen to break up, talk to your mate and tell him that you want to go out with this girl. Hopefully he understands and then well life goes on.

I hope this wasn't too confusing. :s But anyways, i wish you goodluck with whatever happens.

Sorry to confuse you but he knows I liked her a little, and that's all he knew.

Thanks for the advice mate.

Confront them with the offer of a threesome, that way everyone's happy.

Yeah I'm sure that will go down well o.O

Honestly, if you like the girl, go for it? your friend didn't care about your feelings so why should you care about his. He's for sure not your true friend.

I understand your problem, as it has recently happened to me.

Let the girl go, move on. Trust me, it will help alot more than waiting for your chance with her. If she liked you, she would be with you and not him. If she still flirts with you, tell her to "shove it" or more polite, "Is this your way of being friendly?".

Move on, and live the future and not the past.

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Originally Posted by additional

I understand your problem, as it has recently happened to me.

Let the girl go, move on. Trust me, it will help alot more than waiting for your chance with her. If she liked you, she would be with you and not him. If she still flirts with you, tell her to "shove it" or more polite, "Is this your way of being friendly?".

Move on, and live the future and not the past.

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Live for the present I say. Take whatever comes and kick it in the balls. Thats what makes life exciting.

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Originally Posted by FlyingJesus

Confront them with the offer of a threesome, that way everyone's happy.

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:Sign10: I think, when they;ve broken up again (if they do) ask her out. Becasue in a way, thats exactly what he did to you, and if it succeeds between the boht of you good luck for the future.
- Dave

Thanks all <3