hmm, i need help.

right well, im sure alot of you remember i posted a thread about my ex? well we had a massive arguement a few nights ago. and we agreed to leave each other alone and move one. we've both gone and go new bf/gfs, but i dont feel loyal enough to my new gf. i still feel really upset from my breakup with my ex. i dont know how to tell my current gf. its kinda tearing me apart.

she asked me to come to her party tonight, but i couldnt face going, cos my ex was there. i feel i need to tell them both. my current gf how i feel, and my ex how i feel about her still.

am i loyal? am i a good boyfriend? what should I do?

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Originally Posted by Andie

right well, im sure alot of you remember i posted a thread about my ex? well we had a massive arguement a few nights ago. and we agreed to leave each other alone and move one. we've both gone and go new bf/gfs, but i dont feel loyal enough to my new gf. i still feel really upset from my breakup with my ex. i dont know how to tell my current gf. its kinda tearing me apart.

she asked me to come to her party tonight, but i couldnt face going, cos my ex was there. i feel i need to tell them both. my current gf how i feel, and my ex how i feel about her still.

am i loyal? am i a good boyfriend? what should I do?

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I do indeed remember the thread :) Why have you got a new gf if your still in love ? Apoligize to your ex for the arguement, make say a little lie if you like. Your asking us whether your a good or bad bf ? You need to ask yourself that. Explain to your current gf, that you didnt mean to move on so quickly, and that she's *whatever, insert something here* If you dont want to be with her..

idk, but just tell your ex your still in love and your sorry.. And let things lead from there.

Vicks<3

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Originally Posted by Andie

right well, im sure alot of you remember i posted a thread about my ex? well we had a massive arguement a few nights ago. and we agreed to leave each other alone and move one. we've both gone and go new bf/gfs, but i dont feel loyal enough to my new gf. i still feel really upset from my breakup with my ex. i dont know how to tell my current gf. its kinda tearing me apart.

she asked me to come to her party tonight, but i couldnt face going, cos my ex was there. i feel i need to tell them both. my current gf how i feel, and my ex how i feel about her still.

am i loyal? am i a good boyfriend? what should I do?

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Well you are what I would class as 'loyal' as you havn't exactly betrayed anyone as of yet.

Okay well you kno exactly how you feel, and you probably have a slight incline into what you should do... follow your heart.

Your with someone who you don't actually, really, have any feelings for - and whether you want to believe it or not you still like your ex, so it's your responsibility to stringing this poor new girl along and simply tell her you can't continue your relationship with her.

There's no point upsetting her or anything so you could just tell her you think you've maybe rushed things and you'd like some space for now. Then start speaking to your ex again and see if that old spark is still there and decide completely whether you do want to be together, or if you'd maybe be better without her.

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Well you are what I would class as 'loyal' as you havn't exactly betrayed anyone as of yet.

Okay well you kno exactly how you feel, and you probably have a slight incline into what you should do... follow your heart.

Your with someone who you don't actually, really, have any feelings for - and whether you want to believe it or not you still like your ex, so it's your responsibility to stringing this poor new girl along and simply tell her you can't continue your relationship with her.

There's no point upsetting her or anything so you could just tell her you think you've maybe rushed things and you'd like some space for now. Then start speaking to your ex again and see if that old spark is still there and decide completely whether you do want to be together, or if you'd maybe be better without her.

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I don't know what to do. I do like this new girl, but i still have strong feelings for my ex. It is 1.35AM in uk atm, and my curren gf just sent me a text saying stuff like how much she loves me and everything and im like "god sake that reminds me too much of my ex" I'm really trying to clear my mind of my ex, but I can't. I guess, As I'm seeing my gf tommorow, I can tell her that i still like my ex, and I'll see what happens.

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I don't know what to do. I do like this new girl, but i still have strong feelings for my ex. It is 1.35AM in uk atm, and my curren gf just sent me a text saying stuff like how much she loves me and everything and im like "god sake that reminds me too much of my ex" I'm really trying to clear my mind of my ex, but I can't. I guess, As I'm seeing my gf tommorow, I can tell her that i still like my ex, and I'll see what happens.

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Mate, you know that you don't really like this girl your with at the moment and you still have feelings for your ex - which isn't a bad thing.

You just need to make sure you tell the girl your with at the moment that you can't be with her, for whatever reason, but then decide whether you want to try again with your ex.

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then decide whether you want to try again with your ex.

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Yes, when she hates me and wants to be to get hit by a bus..

This is just my opinion but I think you should end it with the girl you're with now cause I dont think you're being very fair to her. But thats just my opinion :) Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

well here's a newsflash for you..

my friend, who ive known for over 7 years and i trust alot, told me that my ex has been making rumours up about me. So I'm staying my current. I don't care about my ex anymore.

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well here's a newsflash for you..

my friend, who ive known for over 7 years and i trust alot, told me that my ex has been making rumours up about me. So I'm staying my current. I don't care about my ex anymore.

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Whether you care about your ex or not isn't the question in matter at the moment here. The real situation, is the fact you are stinging along a poor girl at the moment when you know fine well you have feeling's for your ex girlfriend, but just because you've heard thing's shes saying about you etc. your trying to put them out your head and make yourself hate her... well I'm sorry but that's not going to happen. It's completely unfair to keep your current girlfriend on a string like this, you wouldn't like it if it was the other way about.

Ive told the girl i love her loads now. simply cos of rumorus my ex has been spreading. i think i deserve a say. and i'd say eff you to my ex and hi i love you, to my gf