Advice if you like

Hey this doesnt really depress me just annoys me slightly.

I do enjoy life and everything, have everything i need more or less, have a paper round which i get money, so that isnt a problem. But the thing is girls...
I make an effort, spike my hair everyday etc, weir aftershave. You know.
In school im generally in the big group, which has all the fit girls in i guess. They all call me sweet, cute, and not ugly. Most of my friends they think their fit. Just not me :S. I will admitt Im not ugly im not unatractive, but not like in girls eyes brad pitt or someone I dunno.
Its just I guess its because Im too paranoid and not confident, I feel if I say something like my friends do like i dunno flirt in a bit of a dirty way not dirty, but you know what i mean. I feel they will be just like ***? or laugh at me. They never like come over to me when were at partys n sit like i know this sounds weird but they like hug n sit on or with the other boys, but just talk to me as if im like a good friend, which i know is good but ALL of them just act as a good friend. Not one of them fancys me or thinks im fit. Im in good shape too?! And im kind, and good to talk to. I guess im a tiny bit awquard but not really because ive known them all for a good 3 years. Its just so hard to understand. Some just go for the bad boy type, but some dont they just dont come for boys like me Or they go for older boys. So sometimes when im like yeh maybe ill ask some of them or one of them if they want to go out or something, I just dont and forget and play on the wii or think about my self or go out with the boys.

If this has happend to you, and you feel your were or in the same situation as me. Give me advice!
:)

Pick your battles.

Spiking your hair up won't get you laid. Just be yourself and see what happens from there.

Spiking your hair up was so like grade 3.

if you spike your hair up, go die pal.
OR
jus become a badboy (H)

Ok i know what you mean ok and unlike some of the others im gona give you advice ok here goes

if you change so they will like you they wont actually like YOU they will like the person youve become and the person youve become will be a lie. Later in life when ur being yourself you will find someone who likes you for you and not what you can change to be. Yh spiking ur hair sometimes works makes you look more um ... handsome ( cant think of a word ) but just be NORMAL ok good luck. ( and whats wrong with being able to talk with girls ... if they see you as a friend. If they see you as a person to flirt with thats all theyl do with you is flirt but be serious in the real world when you get a good relation ship your gona need to speak with the girl and help her through hard times and stuff not just flirt with her ) A serious relation ship will come for you eventually like ive said before just be yourself. ( wow never knew i could write so much in so little time lol )

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Originally Posted by dragonblade56

Ok i know what you mean ok and unlike some of the others im gona give you advice ok here goes

if you change so they will like you they wont actually like YOU they will like the person youve become and the person youve become will be a lie. Later in life when ur being yourself you will find someone who likes you for you and not what you can change to be. Yh spiking ur hair sometimes works makes you look more um ... handsome ( cant think of a word ) but just be NORMAL ok good luck. ( and whats wrong with being able to talk with girls ... if they see you as a friend. If they see you as a person to flirt with thats all theyl do with you is flirt but be serious in the real world when you get a good relation ship your gona need to speak with the girl and help her through hard times and stuff not just flirt with her ) A serious relation ship will come for you eventually like ive said before just be yourself. ( wow never knew i could write so much in so little time lol )

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Changing yourself doesn’t always mean you’ll become a lie to yourself. I’ve changed a lot in my life; I must be one big lie ay? Change is for good and for bad. If he’s unhappy the way he is, changing the way he looks and acts might be best for him. If he likes who he has become, like for e.g.; he was a mean person but now he’s a good person. Does that mean he’s a lie? If he likes being a good person instead of the mean person does that mean he’s a lie? No. It means he’s growing up and being mature. People’s personalities change as they get older etc etc. Your advice couldn’t be more wrong. You’re referring to people being ‘fake’. And being ‘fake’ is usually only to impress people. This guy, bouncing, wants to improve himself. Again, your advice couldn’t be anymore wrong.

Girls are strange :P

They show emotions in a different way for all you know one of them could be dieing to go out with you but darnt for feer of rejection.

Everyones different.
Just act yourself.
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Just be yourself. If you started spiking your hair up and wearing aftershave just so you could get girls isn't really to go about it. A decent girl will want you for who you are. You just gotta wait for the right moment. I used to hang about in this group and they were all couples except from me, and I felt like a bit of a ****. I'd feel left out in conversations and it just wasn't working. Now I've found a new group of friends and I even found my ex with them. I really like one of the girls in the group now, if I'm lucky enough I'll get in with her at her party tomorrow night :8 What I'm basically saying is don't try to change for girls. Be yourself. If they don't talk to you that much, tell them all to bugger off and you find some decent friends. Hope this helps mate.