:/ What do I do?

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 15 months and I've put in 100% effort. Anything she's asked of me, I've done. It's long distance so I have to fork out about £60 each month to go see her. I'm not in work so I don't earn money so I have to work my ass off to get that money.

About 3 weeks ago she had major family issues.. Much to her belief, 2 days later I turned up at her door.

Basically I'm a 24/7 service.

So to the point:

I'm getting sick and tired of giving her the world and not getting anything back. She's in work and won't even fork out £5 once a month to get some credit to ring me for a few minutes, she leaves that to me.

What shall I do? Do I just let it go on and hope she'll appreciate me or shall I call it?

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sounds like shes using you to be honest dude...

tell her to go **** herself and go get some emotions harsh but its true like today said shes using you :l

she aint worth it k

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Originally Posted by today

sounds like shes using you to be honest dude...

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I've kinda' thought that too but it's hard to think about it.

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Originally Posted by Vanilar

tell her to go **** herself and go get some emotions harsh but its true like today said shes using you :l

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Mm it's just getting on my mind a bit. I don't know, I'm probably being a tad selfish in some respects.

Oh the wonders of love haha!

tell the ho how it is cuz shes blates tight fisted if she wont even pay woteva the price was for credit or woteva. nono ur not being selfish but realisitc. shes the 1 whos being selfish by not contributing to the relationship financially.

just tell her how u feel, n if she doesnt like change then give her an ultimatium then kick her 2 the curb.

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Originally Posted by dirrty

tell the ho how it is cuz shes blates tight fisted if she wont even pay woteva the price was for credit or woteva. nono ur not being selfish but realisitc. shes the 1 whos being selfish by not contributing to the relationship financially.

just tell her how u feel, n if she doesnt like change then give her an ultimatium then kick her 2 the curb.

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I agree with all of that but the thing is I'm one of them men who hate people spending money on me hence why I feel like I'm being a bit selfish. I just wih it'd go back to when I actually felt that she loved me. I know she's got family issues and everything but I should be part of that family too.

I did end it the other day which to my surprise was relatively easy at the time. Truth has it when I went to bed that night I wept myself to sleep (hard for a man to admit LMAO.) Next day I was stupid and went crawling back to her like a wet dog.

Friends have told me that I'm so "loved up" that I can't see reality. I know this is true but I just can't seem to register it properly.

UR NOT SELFISH!
soz but its true. ur just being a gentlemen by paying for everything. but tbh shes gotta contribute something to, otherwise it does seem selfish on her part that she works but gives nothing. considering you've been going out for 15 months, thats a reasonable amount of time in relation to "young love" - where relationships last for like a few months lol. if u think u really wanna stay with her, then you'll have to talk to her. a nice long chat - not sounding like really harsh but telling her that you've given so much and like just for once, you want her to give something.

so yh

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Originally Posted by dirrty

UR NOT SELFISH!
soz but its true. ur just being a gentlemen by paying for everything. but tbh shes gotta contribute something to, otherwise it does seem selfish on her part that she works but gives nothing. considering you've been going out for 15 months, thats a reasonable amount of time in relation to "young love" - where relationships last for like a few months lol. if u think u really wanna stay with her, then you'll have to talk to her. a nice long chat - not sounding like really harsh but telling her that you've given so much and like just for once, you want her to give something.

so yh

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In a way I'm scared if I tell her that she'll just point blank dump me. She hasn't asked me for money or anything like "Oh I need your debit card to get some clothes Luke".

you shouldn't be scared really. you're at a point in ur relationship that u should feel comfortable to talk about most things. if not, then u'll need to get to that comfort stage for the relationship to last 4 a long time. has she travelled to u before? or is it u who is always going to her?