Am I the one in the wrong?

Ok, here we go :P
I've known these two friends for a year, we were in college for a year with each other and recently got split up into different groups.

Last year these two had an argument and fell out and I was stuck in the middle of both of them, and at the start of this year, I got them to make up.

The first friend recently had another argument with someone from my current group and he's a kind of friend of mine, and I laughed at something she said at him then she started being all "why did you laugh at me?"
now because I laughed at what she said, her and the other friend have said I was out of order for laughing, and because I've made some more friends that I've changed etc, its not like I didn't make the effort, I met them at a few dinner times and went out after college a few times, even waited around for them when I finished early, it's not like I can just ditch the people from my class to go and find them and sit with the two people from last year every lunch and break.

Today we were on a trip and they were clearly talking about me, and kept getting evils off the one who had the recent argument and one of them clearly put a status about me on FB, she may as well of just tagged me in it :/
If the one who had the argument was to text me and try to sort things out, I would text back etc but she's too stubborn to do that.

It's just making me feel like **** and all awkward at college or when they're around because I feel I can't do anything with anyone from my group without one of them saying something about it, they haven't made any effort to make any friends in their group and just stick with each other, and one of them is so far up the others arse.

Am I the one who is in the wrong for laughing?
What would you do?

Should have turned around and said "for the same reason you just questioned me for, because you're pathetic."

People laugh when they're nervous, laughter is hardly a bad thing, they need to go crawl into a hole if they can't listen to the sound of laughter without being total douche bags about it...

If I was you, I would let them know that your aware there is an issue. I think there is nothing worse when someone is giving you looks, whispering at you, posting clearly directed facebook status's etc. but can't just come out and confront you face to face.

Personally - I would send a quick text being very diplomatic and non confrontational and just say you are sorry if they were offended by you laughing but it wasn't intended to be offensive or in spite but you don't appreciate the way they have been treating you recently. If it starts to get into a heated argument or they aren't willing to meet you halfway and get it over with - I would personally cut them off.

You have and will meet many other friends at college and beyond, and if these people can't get over a silly argument that you were actually nothing to do with and move on with your friendship together then you are just better off without them in my honest opinion. I would personally cut them off - don't reply to texts, don't make an extra effort and if they really do want to be your friend they will eventually get the hint and come back with an apology.

That being said though - I would only do this after you have made some attempt to calmly discuss the situation.

Sounds like your friends are extremely paranoid, especially to overreact to laughter to the extent they have. If I were you I’d stick with the new friends you’ve made until they are ready to apologize to you, because, as far as I’m aware you’ve done nothing wrong and they need to get their acts together.

I'd say it's not your fault and for the 'what would I do' thing, I dunno. I dun really understand what you've said because I got mixed up with girls and your friends..

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Originally Posted by Ostinato

If I was you, I would let them know that your aware there is an issue. I think there is nothing worse when someone is giving you looks, whispering at you, posting clearly directed facebook status's etc. but can't just come out and confront you face to face.

Personally - I would send a quick text being very diplomatic and non confrontational and just say you are sorry if they were offended by you laughing but it wasn't intended to be offensive or in spite but you don't appreciate the way they have been treating you recently. If it starts to get into a heated argument or they aren't willing to meet you halfway and get it over with - I would personally cut them off.

You have and will meet many other friends at college and beyond, and if these people can't get over a silly argument that you were actually nothing to do with and move on with your friendship together then you are just better off without them in my honest opinion. I would personally cut them off - don't reply to texts, don't make an extra effort and if they really do want to be your friend they will eventually get the hint and come back with an apology.

That being said though - I would only do this after you have made some attempt to calmly discuss the situation.

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I did tell her on the night after the argument I wasn't laughing at her but she still blew off at it

I dont think you did anything wrong. I think you should just concentrate on your new friends and move on from the old ones. That's life, you make new friends, old friends drift apart and some you keep for life. :)

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Originally Posted by Jordan:A

Today we were on a trip and they were clearly talking about me, and kept getting evils off the one who had the recent argument and one of them clearly put a status about me on FB, she may as well of just tagged me in it :/
If the one who had the argument was to text me and try to sort things out, I would text back etc but she's too stubborn to do that.

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Many are saying that your friends are paranoid, however I do not think that you are without fault here, I very much doubt they were conspiring against you as much as you'd think, perhaps a mention but they'd hardly devote their life towards rumoring about you.

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Originally Posted by Jordan:A

I did tell her on the night after the argument I wasn't laughing at her but she still blew off at it

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Then follow the latter part of my advice.