Alcoholic Parent

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29-06-2012, 06:58 PM
Empired

Alcoholic Parent

Ok so my Dad has been worrying me and my mum more and more lately because of his drinking. It has come on gradually so I didn't really notice for a long time because it used to just be at weekends, but now I come home from school every day and find him at least half drunk (this is nothing compared to weekends). This is extremely distressing for the rest of us (me, my mum and my brother) because he is almost impossible to live with when he is drunk.

He also has Parkinson's Disease which has made him very shaky, slurred his speech, slowed his reactions drastically and makes him very hot headed! We have all tried to talk to him before but we usually just end up arguing and making him very very cross (even if we are sensible and calm all the time whilst talking to him).

In the last few months he has had two minor accidents on the road (one on a bicycle and one in the car) and for the car one then failed the breathalyzer test and had to pay a fine. I hoped this could actually bring him back to his senses, but it would seem not.. He also refuses to go to any counselling or have any help we might arrange for him.

Have any of you had similar experiences or have any advice on what to do? It's putting a terrible strain on our whole family's relationship and ugh I just wish he would stop being so selfish :(
29-06-2012, 07:18 PM
Cerys

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Originally Posted by BamitsElfie!

Ok so my Dad has been worrying me and my mum more and more lately because of his drinking. It has come on gradually so I didn't really notice for a long time because it used to just be at weekends, but now I come home from school every day and find him at least half drunk (this is nothing compared to weekends). This is extremely distressing for the rest of us (me, my mum and my brother) because he is almost impossible to live with when he is drunk.

He also has Parkinson's Disease which has made him very shaky, slurred his speech, slowed his reactions drastically and makes him very hot headed! We have all tried to talk to him before but we usually just end up arguing and making him very very cross (even if we are sensible and calm all the time whilst talking to him).

In the last few months he has had two minor accidents on the road (one on a bicycle and one in the car) and for the car one then failed the breathalyzer test and had to pay a fine. I hoped this could actually bring him back to his senses, but it would seem not.. He also refuses to go to any counselling or have any help we might arrange for him.

Have any of you had similar experiences or have any advice on what to do? It's putting a terrible strain on our whole family's relationship and ugh I just wish he would stop being so selfish :(

Ok - Here's what you do:

Perhaps try an intervention (I think thats what they're called) where the whole family sits down in a room and take it in turns to tell them how his drinking is affecting their lives. This often works or atleast brings him to realise a bit more of what is occuring.

I'll explain more on fb :P xox

My granddad had Parkinson's Disease, so I know how it feels :( It's awful and I hope the whole family gets through all this okay! (: x
30-06-2012, 01:56 AM
Stephen

best thing to do is just tell them to piss off and wait for them to kill themselves with it

but that might be harder to do though cos he lives with you and probably isn't a complete ******* **** **** ******* *****
30-06-2012, 10:16 AM
Matt

Charlie, what Cerys said. We tried that with my uncle (he hated it and we had to tell him it was either that or counseling, so he went with the intervention thingy) but I'm not sure what it will take for him to realize. Stay strong xox
30-06-2012, 11:14 AM
Empired

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Originally Posted by :Cerys

Ok - Here's what you do:

Perhaps try an intervention (I think thats what they're called) where the whole family sits down in a room and take it in turns to tell them how his drinking is affecting their lives. This often works or atleast brings him to realise a bit more of what is occuring.

I'll explain more on fb :P xox

My granddad had Parkinson's Disease, so I know how it feels :( It's awful and I hope the whole family gets through all this okay! (: x

I should try this. I guess he reacts more to me than my mum or my brother because I'm the youngest? Thanks x

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Originally Posted by Stephen!

best thing to do is just tell them to piss off and wait for them to kill themselves with it

but that might be harder to do though cos he lives with you and probably isn't a complete ******* **** **** ******* *****

Lol!!!! Good idea ;)

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Originally Posted by mdport.

Charlie, what Cerys said. We tried that with my uncle (he hated it and we had to tell him it was either that or counseling, so he went with the intervention thingy) but I'm not sure what it will take for him to realize. Stay strong xox

Thanks Matt x he doesn't listen to anyone much though 'cause he doesn't listen to what he doesn't want to hear :( xxxx