Bullying

Just curious as to whether anyone has ever been bullied, bullied someone or saw someone being bullied.

I can honestly say yeah, I've been bullied a few times. The time that sticks out to me most is when I was in primary school. A girl made a page relating to us on Bebo (lol) just to target us and say rude things about us. Turned into something really big so that our school got involved (when really they shouldn't have as it was outside school).

I can say I've bullied someone too, not the upfront type bullying though (but I've probably done that too without noticing). A friend and I went to a lot of effort to write mean notes about another girl, she found them and was really upset about them, as you would be. Funnily enough now, the same girl we were so mean to is one of our best friends now and she forgives us both for what we did. As harsh as it sounds, I'm sure a lot of people have done similar things and not realised they were being a bully.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure I've saw someone being bullied, but I don't really think the person at the time knew they were being a bully. I'm pretty sure they didn't set out to do it, but they did really hurt the person even if they didn't say it out loud.

I've made a poll so if you're not comfortable admitting to if you've been bullied, been a bully or have seen someone being bullied.

i've bullied people, been bullied and seen LOADS of people be bullied. I got bullied for being gay... seen people being bullied because of issues at home, money, mental issues, friends etc. :( School sucks.

I've been bullied for almost everything under the sun, and seen lots of people be bullied too. I can't say I've explicitly bullied someone before, the worst I've done is laugh along or not intervene when someone else was being bullied in front of me.

see i think it's interesting you say; "I've made a poll so if you're not comfortable admitting to if you've been bullied, been a bully or have seen someone being bullied.". I used to be reluctant to admit i had been bullied before because it was something you had to be ashamed of? i don't think being bullied is something to be ashamed of. i have been bullied yes and i wouldn't say i'm the stereotypical bully victim. + it's not like i'm someone who deserves to be bullied either? i guess most bully victims aren't. they're victims because they won't stand up for themselves... and that used to be me to a T.

anyway i was bullied by my brother badly since i was about 7 year old and not in a harmless sibling rivalry. it was more abusive like when no-one was around he'd tell me i was a loser, that all my friends hated me and would encourage others to bully me at school. + when we were older it was blackmail, physical abuse and more verbal abuse yaddy ya. when i was in high school i REALLY don't know why i was picked on, generally boys gave me nicknames for being 'anorexic' (i wasn't and never have been). in gymnastics i was moved up a level so i didn't have my own group of friends in there and i was the coaches pet so i was bullied due to jealousy lol i had my clothes put under the shower, shoes stolen, forced to take away the gym equipment, shoved out of line for air track etc. i remember being asked if i wanted to be class rep by a group of girls and i said definitely not so they all voted me. i was alwaaaayyyyys picked on and i dont even know why other than being short and weak and quiet. really though, i think as with most bullying, it was more to do with the type of person THEY were, not me. But yeah one point it was so bad, sly digs picking me to do stuff etc that I stopped going to classes for weeks at a time.

then i started using the internet more but noooo, still bullying. hxf msn convos were the worst. adding everyone in and picking on their flaws but i got in with one certain crew (lol) so i learned to stick up for myself and try to impress them by bullying others. such a huge mistake. even to this day i have people from this forum writing on my ask.fm about things i've been made fun of YEARS AGO (i know who you are and you know who you are...) but i don't find that bullying anymore as it doesn't affect me now. so good luck using any of this against me and if you do, thanks for reading this far ;). i was friends with those people too and i honestly don't know why. i grew out of bullying pretty quickly.


im not ashamed to be a bully victim actually... im ashamed that at one point i have bullied or at least made fun of someone... + i know to never, ever do that again. and it makes me sick that people still do this even at the age i'm at :S it's not hard to have empathy, is it? isn't it more rewarding to help a bully victim rather than be a bully yourself? probably for people who have never been through it it's easy to do, you can go home at the end of the day forgetting about it, not knowing who you've harmed or even caring about it. so i guess even though i've been bullied i'm not ashamed and i like who i am because of it so whatever. if i have kids i will deffo teach them to be stronger than i was, my little cousin is bullied now and i want to rip their heads off. kids are EVIL.

why is it always me doing the essay. im procrastinating.

Well, I've been bullied countless times over the years for being intelligent and ginger. Got bullied in Year 7 by some guys throwing rocks at me, in Year 8 some guy threw a 2p at my head and cracked my head open and in Year 12, some Year 13s decided to create a facebook group to get me and my girlfriend banned from the sixth form common room for being ugly. Had about 190 people signed up (including teachers) by the time it got taken down. So yeah, I'm used to it, doesn't phase me anymore...

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Originally Posted by buttons

see i think it's interesting you say; "I've made a poll so if you're not comfortable admitting to if you've been bullied, been a bully or have seen someone being bullied.". I used to be reluctant to admit i had been bullied before because it was something you had to be ashamed of? i don't think being bullied is something to be ashamed of. i have been bullied yes and i wouldn't say i'm the stereotypical bully victim. + it's not like i'm someone who deserves to be bullied either? i guess most bully victims aren't. they're victims because they won't stand up for themselves... and that used to be me to a T.

anyway i was bullied by my brother badly since i was about 7 year old and not in a harmless sibling rivalry. it was more abusive like when no-one was around he'd tell me i was a loser, that all my friends hated me and would encourage others to bully me at school. + when we were older it was blackmail, physical abuse and more verbal abuse yaddy ya. when i was in high school i REALLY don't know why i was picked on, generally boys gave me nicknames for being 'anorexic' (i wasn't and never have been). in gymnastics i was moved up a level so i didn't have my own group of friends in there and i was the coaches pet so i was bullied due to jealousy lol i had my clothes put under the shower, shoes stolen, forced to take away the gym equipment, shoved out of line for air track etc. i remember being asked if i wanted to be class rep by a group of girls and i said definitely not so they all voted me. i was alwaaaayyyyys picked on and i dont even know why other than being short and weak and quiet. really though, i think as with most bullying, it was more to do with the type of person THEY were, not me. But yeah one point it was so bad, sly digs picking me to do stuff etc that I stopped going to classes for weeks at a time.

then i started using the internet more but noooo, still bullying. hxf msn convos were the worst. adding everyone in and picking on their flaws but i got in with one certain crew (lol) so i learned to stick up for myself and try to impress them by bullying others. such a huge mistake. even to this day i have people from this forum writing on my ask.fm about things i've been made fun of YEARS AGO (i know who you are and you know who you are...) but i don't find that bullying anymore as it doesn't affect me now. so good luck using any of this against me and if you do, thanks for reading this far ;). i was friends with those people too and i honestly don't know why. i grew out of bullying pretty quickly.


im not ashamed to be a bully victim actually... im ashamed that at one point i have bullied or at least made fun of someone... + i know to never, ever do that again. and it makes me sick that people still do this even at the age i'm at :S it's not hard to have empathy, is it? isn't it more rewarding to help a bully victim rather than be a bully yourself? probably for people who have never been through it it's easy to do, you can go home at the end of the day forgetting about it, not knowing who you've harmed or even caring about it. so i guess even though i've been bullied i'm not ashamed and i like who i am because of it so whatever. if i have kids i will deffo teach them to be stronger than i was, my little cousin is bullied now and i want to rip their heads off. kids are EVIL.

why is it always me doing the essay. im procrastinating.

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i more so put the poll for people who didn't want to admit they have bullied or watched someone being bullied, not for people who have been bullied. for me, it was hard to write about bullying someone as short as it was. i'm not sure what the right word for it is, but i'm very ashamed of myself for bullying someone to this day even if it was a long time ago. but yeah, just thought i'd clear that up :) sorry if that wasn't what you were saying at all!!!

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Originally Posted by Absently

i more so put the poll for people who didn't want to admit they have bullied or watched someone being bullied, not for people who have been bullied. for me, it was hard to write about bullying someone as short as it was. i'm not sure what the right word for it is, but i'm very ashamed of myself for bullying someone to this day even if it was a long time ago. but yeah, just thought i'd clear that up :) sorry if that wasn't what you were saying at all!!!

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yeah fair enough, i used to find it hard to admit i was bullied cause people would be like "haha you got bullied" as though it was something i should keep hidden? I was okay with admitting to bullying someone (well wouldn't say I ever singled anyone out but I was mean to people before..) because it was more of a control thing and to stop myself feeling ashamed about being bullied but its the opposite way around now :p would be more ashamed to admit to bullying too

Yeah have always been bullied in some shape or form really, and kind of just got used to it. Bullied through primary school for being 'quiet and different', didn't really have any friends like everyone else so I guess people just thought that was something fun to bully someone about haha. Used to stay in at breaktimes and stuff because I would end up just wondering round the playground by myself, whenever I tried to join in or talk to anyone I would just get laughed at. :P

High school was pretty much the same but I had got used to my own company by then, so often worked on group projects by myself etc. P.E used to be awful, I hated P.E so much, I was rubbish at most things, hated running, people would laugh etc, usual name calling/tripping over etc. Used to walk down the corridor wondering whether the person coming the other direction would trip me over or not so quite often stood still when someone walked past me just in case. Got pushed around quite a bit really, but just got on with it. Got bullied about my weight quite a bit too, as well as my voice, I would say even now my voice gets me bullied quite a bit at work and stuff, even customers like to have a laugh :P


I would never bully someone, just wouldn't be able to sleep at night knowing I had made anyone miserable or unhappy. I used to skip school a little during high school, purely because it didn't seem worth it. I was getting good grades, always did well in tests and in class, but as soon as other people were thrown in it was living hell. I used to like Art a lot at high school and did it for GCSE, unfortunately most of the rest of the class were the rebels who thought art was an easy option to take and they could just doss around, they would quite often 'accidently' spill a glass of water over my work etc. Things like that just stick in your mind. That group also sent me a valentines day card through the post, then had so much fun the next day laughing about it saying how its the only one I will ever have etc. :P I guess in some respects you just laugh along with them- but some of the things they say can hurt quite badly at the time really.

After getting good GCSE results (A's and B's and a couple of C's), I went to college thinking it would all be completely different, that I would make friends, feel included and not get picked on so much. It wasn't the case, and from the bus journey to just hanging around in the libarary, it was all the same, people laughing, making comments etc. Anyway, that, along with the distance I had to travel to college (an hour to get there), was just too much for me and I decided it wasn't worth going through it for another 2 years, so decided I would drop all the hopes I had of becoming a teacher, going on to uni etc (which I really wanted to do), and 'chickened' out I guess and got a job and got myself a car and stuff. In some respects it paid off, since I do speak to people at work and there are a lot of nice people (and I get to hide away in an office/bakery most the day), but I guess primary and high school did impact on me a lot really, made me even more of a shy and self conscious person, made me be quite independant and used to working on my own and stuff, and generally it just knocked my confidence a lot- I didn't understand why I was so different and why others had it so easy and stuff.

These days things are a lot better, I do feel more confident some of the time, particularly last year when I did things I would never dream of doing, and for the first time in my life was able to talk to someone I consider a good friend, and it was so nice just to not be judged for once, not to be so different from everyone else. Yes- I still get the odd occasion at work where people will make comments which might get to me, but its nowhere near on the scale that it was during school. So yeah, for once the future is looking okay :)

I've seen a lot of bullying. Mainly by the same people in school (when I was still there). I can't say I've bullied someone, I'm quiet irl so I probably just laughed along with it, or targeted a friend to take issues out on. I've not really been bullied either, the most that's happened to me is people being horrible, telling me I have a big nose :(

I've been bullied before, mainly in primary school for no reason (that I knew of), I had to go round with the teacher at breaks and stuff because my mum phoned in (too right she did) but that failed sort of as the bullies knew they were wrong, saw me with a teacher and asked to play with me. I was forced to go play with them and the bullying stopped then, they acted as if they were my friends and I forgive them for what they did, it was more physical like pushing me and likewise to some replies they may not have known they were bullying me.

In high school I was bullied because I was short and quiet, but I just let it slide for most of the time but sometimes I'd let it out if I didn't like something - someone always poked me with pins in English, he then took it further than that and started fighting with me, he told me to hit him so I tapped him - I didn't get in trouble for retaliating but I did give him a black eye, I guess that's the only bullying I've done but not intentional as I was riled up with tears streaming down my face lmao, of course he didn't let it go and got sent out of the room when we were together due to it.

In year 11 notes were passed round about me in history, my teacher took them and after the class asked me if it bothered me, I said it was fine as they were only joking and that carried on a bit into college as they thought I had no friends yet I proved them wrong. In year 10 a rumour went around about me, I haven't been in year 10 for 5 years now and I still get asked about the rumour and it hurts me everytime yet again I don't think people understand.

I've seen people be bullied, my first boyfriend was forced to kiss me, neither of us had been kisses before but I refused so he kissed my cheek, the bullies hit him afterwards and whilst I was in class afterwards I had to endure seeing him crying outside, feeling helpless. I think I've told on a bully a couple of times, sometimes when they did things wrong etc. hopefully though the bullying stages for me have passed.

I was also bullied online lol @scottish; :P and although it was online it did hurt a lot. That's when I was a noob and everything but I've learned that it shouldn't hurt that bad as sometimes it's more of something to do than bullying.