Moving a relative into a home
Anyone else had to do this? This is the first time in our family.
Tomorrow my Grandad, currently in hospital, is being told by social workers tomorrow that he's going into a home. It's been decided by my mum and everyone from me to the doctors to the nurses to the carers all agree with it. Taking it's toll on my nan and his quality of life at home is very poor. Of course, he won't want it. Given he has dementia though, he doesn't have a veto on it. We know it's the best for him and we've been to see it (near my house) and i'll be able to take him out on walks, for a beer etc which he currently cannot do at his house given he's bed bound and stuck in one room. Telling a 87 year old they're moving out of their house though... eek.
We've kept him at home the past few years as long as possible but given his decline it really is time up. You can only do so much I think before 24 hour care is needed and that is what he needs. But yeah he's being told tomorrow - i'm sure the social workers will put it in a way that's nice to him, ie word it as an apartment or flat instead of a home. You still feel like you're conspiring against him though given it was me and my mum who made the unilateral move to do this. But it's for the best.
Anyone else had to do it as a family and what did it go like etc?