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He's not my father in my eyes though, he's a stranger who wanted to be a father once every other year and then forgot about it since he didnt care.Quote:
Originally Posted by buttons
I dont have him, never had and never will. So its not like im throwing him out, im just ignoring his crap.
But thanks for carin jen ;p
I'll be your new father, I'll be there for you when you need me xxxx
Bet he didn't even ring you when NaughtNemo got banned did he, soon as I noticed I pm'd you straight away because I care, I really do.
Liar you can't PM banned people
I'm sure you don't mean half of what you've said :(, you're angry, frustrated, disappointed and are probably feeling quite rejected by your father, and understably so when someone of his position continues to makes false promises. Why should you just drop everything you are doing because he makes an appearance when it suits him?
Your father has come from abroad, to visit his sick father. I don't know the full circumstances, but when do you think he is likely to visit again? Maybe two years or even more, you can't be sure can you?
If you really can't face speaking with him without shouting and arguing, why not put it in writing exactly how you feel and give him a chance to reply before he goes abroad again without you tearing each other apart, he needs to see you've matured in the time he's been away, and tickling you isn't the way to win you round. Maybe then some of the scars he's reopened can begin to heal, and who knows maybe both of you will benefit.
No theres no going back just forward so come on son embrace your new father
My dad showed up from nowhere after 12 years, now i have a great step-dad and a half brother and a half-sister. I wanted to get to know him but he didnt have any decent answers or justifications for his actions so i decided not to see him again.
Well I'm with you in understanding why you would be angry with him for not keeping in touch, but like many have said: at least you see your dad sometimes, as many people never see their father or don't even know who he is.
Secondly, the fact that he hasn't seen you in a while will make it harder for him. You have to understand that it will be like him having to get to know you all over again as you are still young and changing alot. Him tickling you was probably a nervous reaction because he didn't know what to do as he doesn't know you. Don't push him away next time. Be open to these things.