What was your last good deed?

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Originally Posted by Mathew

We have a family friend who lives down in Bristol and he works part-time (inbetween uni) at Sainsbury's. Their staff are told to be extremely polite and to make conversation with absolutely everyone. It could just be that the elderly individual you serve at the cash till has contact with nobody else throughout the week. Make their day and just ask them how they are.

This can't be said for some places though. The woman who works in my local bus station is a complete and utter inconsiderate little moron. She's quite old and has no respect for any of the customers. I walked in a couple of days ago and waited her for beckon me forward. Of course, her head didn't move when I walked in the door. Gosh no, I had to wait a while for her to finish reading a paragraph of the newspaper before she even acknowledged me. I didn't even get a good morning like I greeted her with, it was a simple "yes?"

Naturally, there are times when people don't say thank you, and I'm sure I'm not alone when I give the sarcastic "your welcome" in response to their complete lack of manners.

I think Britain in general is extremely rude and it actually really upsets me. Whenever we go to America, both in the tourist areas and beyond, everyone seems to have a whole lot of decency and politeness. Perhaps it's due to the accent, although I would argue it's something on a much wider scale. I think it's down to the differences in how we're raised. American schoolchildren are, more often than not, raised in a religious household which encourages above said morals. They're also taught the Pledge of Allegiance and they're raised in an extremely patriotic society: I really do believe that these factors contribute towards good, stable families and therefore churn out more polite, considerate and accepting generations.

Good on you for promoting such good deeds, Jasey.

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LOL all the staff at my bus station are miserable but we have this one really lovely old man who gives you a smile, says hi and thank you when you get off the bus. so cute! i completely agree with britain being rude, everyone is too self-interested and almost too scared to actually be nice? about accents, i often hear people say scottish accents sound aggressive and angry. i think we just sound intelligent :( doing a simple good deed is a win-win situation where you'll both feel good so in a sense it's still a self-interested way but who can complain? like i say, i think people are too afraid to be nice. as though it's a sort of weakness or because we're afraid someone will reject it because it's not 'normal' to be so nice. i know thats the case for me so when i do deeds i tend to do it alone or quietly. for example, i used to do http://operationbeautiful.com/ where you post sticky notes in areas maybe mirrors at a school or at a bus stop with a nice comment or quote on them. i think it's a really good idea even if people will say THATS RIDICULOUS NOT EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL, maybe not but they deserve to be happy

sometimes i don't like service staff because they're told to be nice, even if they're not or if they're miserable, so it feels fake and insincere to me. i'm an overanalyzing pessimist though.

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Originally Posted by EricYong!

my friend left his book on the table and forgot to take it so i took it and gave him is that a good deed???

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every little helps :P

i don't know what my last good deed was. nothing i done consciously :O but i will always remember how in school one valentines day this special needs guy handed out roses to random girls through the day. even though people would bully him or think he was weird, it was nice to see how their faces light up. that's the best thing about doing something nice for someone, knowing you've made a difference to them.

also i had a lovely anonymous person (;)) on my tumblr who would ask how my day was, actually read my problems and tell me i deserve to be happy. it honestly did make my days cause i was feeling so low about myself at that point and the fact it was done without me not knowing who it was at the time was better because they weren't doing it to make themselves look in a better light. it was nice :)

it's not hard to do something nice for someone. my mum has always been the type of person to offer help or drop her plans for other people etc, to the point that i think she can be a pushover. but if that's what makes her happy then that's fine. best way to make yourself happy is to make someone else happy in my opinion.

probably held the door open for somebody, i cant remember tbh :-L

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Originally Posted by buttons

i don't know what my last good deed was. nothing i done consciously :O but i will always remember how in school one valentines day this special needs guy handed out roses to random girls through the day. even though people would bully him or think he was weird, it was nice to see how their faces light up. that's the best thing about doing something nice for someone, knowing you've made a difference to them.

also i had a lovely anonymous person (;)) on my tumblr who would ask how my day was, actually read my problems and tell me i deserve to be happy. it honestly did make my days cause i was feeling so low about myself at that point and the fact it was done without me not knowing who it was at the time was better because they weren't doing it to make themselves look in a better light. it was nice :)

it's not hard to do something nice for someone. my mum has always been the type of person to offer help or drop her plans for other people etc, to the point that i think she can be a pushover. but if that's what makes her happy then that's fine. best way to make yourself happy is to make someone else happy in my opinion.

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That is seriously lovely! I am so happy that you and your mother both think like that. Hearing about the boy giving roses to girls on Saint-Valentin makes me feel good. I know there were a couple awkward girls in school years and years ago who I would talk to since we saw each other a lot during the day. On the holiday, you could send candy for a bit of money to be delivered anonymously with a message. I picked the girls that were so kind to talk to me and I sent them something nice. I was actually inspired to do that by a story that was like that that I read somewhere where a boy gives flowers to the 'not as pretty' girls. I am in a chipper mood now!

EDIT: I just realised I totally missed the first page of this thread. I am silly to do that since I made it! I am going to go back and read and respond to that too.

i dunno what was the last thing i did i always hold doors open for people, pick up something someone dropped and things like that. i remember when i was little i used to help my next door neighbour with her shopping and i used to help her with her garden too.

Returning a toy to a kid the other day was pretty much it apart from the basic opening doors and all that.

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Originally Posted by buttons

for example, i used to do http://operationbeautiful.com/ where you post sticky notes in areas maybe mirrors at a school or at a bus stop with a nice comment or quote on them. i think it's a really good idea even if people will say THATS RIDICULOUS NOT EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL, maybe not but they deserve to be happy

sometimes i don't like service staff because they're told to be nice, even if they're not or if they're miserable, so it feels fake and insincere to me. i'm an overanalyzing pessimist though.

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lolol I've always wanted to do that but never got round to it. agree about the fake smiling and 'have a nice day' when you know theyre thinking '6 hours to go... 5 hours to go...' :P

As for good deeds, there hasn't really been anything extraordinary happen to me recently but I do now and again treat the family out to tea or look after my disabled uncle for my nana to give her a bit of a break. I try to be as selfless as possible without being seen as a pushover so I do say 'no' now and again just so they don't take advantage.

I can't really remember, I went to hold a door open for someone today but they let me pass.

However, in ICT I thought it was nice that a student in this teachers class actually went to the canteen for the teacher so they didn't have to leave the classroom.

I've helped my mum sort out her phone contract and stuff today though if that counts.

Also, when I go shopping, well when I buy something from Tesco in my free it's nice when this man let me in front of him because I only had 1 item when he had a few himself, it's nice that, I always feel awkward when people do that though but it's really nice :).

i dunno, looked up train times/prices for my housemate a few hours ago? don't really do good deeds that often tbf...

My friend wants to visit the public library cause she said she's bored and so, I promised to visit the library with her but not today cause I'm having diarrhea problems. So, I think it's a good deed. Other than that, I'm gonna wash my clothes today although I'm sick cause I don't wanna burden my mum.

gave my friend some extra money to buy herself a drink cos she had none left idk if that counts but yeah lol