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I don't think serious relationships can happen over the internet. Plus there are occurrences where the person you talk to online isn't really who they say they are. Real life relationships have more stability, and opportunities for the relationship to move forward.
I have read many replies to this thread and I agree mainly with both sides.
Firstly, I have dated online a few times and none of them actually worked, one person even lived round the corner from me and he was putting no effort in whatsoever therefore we 'broke up' I know the effort can come mainly from two sides but I always asked to meet him and whenever the day came he was like 'cba,' I would have gone round to his house and ensured he saw me at least once but I wasn't sure which house it was that he lived in. Anyway, I am really glad that it didn't work out as it showed his real colours and showed that he wasn't worth the effort, therefore in that way online relationships doesn't work without effort from both sides.
On the other hand, I am currently in a relationship which began online over seventeen weeks ago, a friend we both knew irl introduced us by allowing his friend to add me on MSN and Facebook, we developed 'feelings' can you say online and then were scheduled to meet but that day came and went because I was extremely busy with personal things. The next week, however, it happened we met for the first time and I think living remotely near each other worked wonders as we are still together today and my first impressions when we first began talking on MSN completely changed as I thought he wasn't work it. Now, we go to his house, mine or to a town nearby 1/2 days a week and I had the nerves to meet him without being shy, which has never happened before so in a way it could have been destined to happen.
Furthermore, agreeing with some I don't think they work when they are over-seas, for a start you may get yourself into all kinds of trouble and when it's over-seas the person may not be as amazing and perfect as first thought, they could easily take advantage of you if you went over to see them alone, they could consider you as vunerable. I feel an over-seas relationship that has always been over-seas could have complications and there will be a lot of financial issues with it.
Moreover, a lot of dating sites make amazing mathces nowadays and they all start as internet relationships, so in some people saying they don't work, are all the internet dating sites a hoax as I'm sure some have worked and more will work in the future.
It depends, if your never going to meet up with each other then no they wont work, but I think that they could if you met up, but if you dident meet up then there would be no point in dating, wheres it going to get you? e-married :S
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Of course they don't.
How can you say that though? If online relationships did not happen, how comes theres online dating sites where people acctualy meet up? think about these things as well ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Spuds
Of course they don't.
Nope i dont see how anyone can be in a relationship whithout spending time with the person in person.
A relationship needs contact, it needs face to face recognition. A relationship isn't an eleven year old and his imaginary friend saying "ily" on MSN. Dating sites may be a good start for some people however they'll use it to meet local people, not people 200 miles away. Only then may these work as they'll be removing the internet due to the fact that they're local and replacing it with actual contact. Up until the point they meet regularly and remove the internet it's still simply an internet 'thing' which can't be classed as a real relationship and won't work. How can you trust someone you haven't seen or know?Quote:
Originally Posted by james,
So 'acctualy', that's my trail of thought.
The thread is for relationships strictly on the internet, so most people (me included) have mentioned real life meet ups.
I've never had a strictly on the internet relationship, so I wouldn't know what it's like. But I have met people from the internet in real life and it does work. personal experience ennitx.x
I think they work , One of my mates is dating this girl in sweden when he is in the UK.. they skype every now and again, facebook everyday. They have complete contact and they are really cute. But it depends on the people on either side of the computer,
If this girl/boy you are dating lies about age , looks, location etc.. it wont work because you think you are dating this person when no-one really exists (Just like heather and kevin / ben on eastenders XD)
It also depends what website you met on, if you met in a bingo chat room or habbo ( 2 random examples )... i'd give it a thumbs down,
Whereas if its tinychat , or a dating site then there is more chance of the love to be real..
Because on habbo you have bacons running round "You are cute , lets date , lets go to your house"
Whereas on a dating site it seems more real... (not saying its 100% real)
Me personally , I'd stick to real life dating, But thats just me
They can work between two committed adults who both want it to work, have enough disposable income to visit each other regularly etc.
However, between two teenagers, over-seas or not, it's unlikely. Just because they could find other people - in real life or online - they will most likely not, or rarely, visit each other - which is obviously one of the key things.
Another thing is that the teenagers may lay about what they look like, what they do, who they are etc. As soon as you lie in an online relationship, it won't work out of MSN/Habbo whatever.
So, I suppose they can work, but you have to be committed, and be able to visit each other.
No, never as you wont actually ever meet them and see their true colours, i was watching boarder force about a week ago and some guy met his girlfriend on world of warcraft and he was obviously being investigated and the investigator rang his girlfriend who ended up being a male 8-) then i stopped watching it and went bed :P
But i seriously don't think they ever work out
Relationships online are lame and bound to fail when you are trying to date someone half way around the world. What ever happen to writing cute love notes and passing them to the cute boy who seats 3 seats in front of you in homeroom. Silly World. Silly People. haha.
no lol.
Because that's childish romance, not real relationships. I do agree that if you can't meet, and live stupidly far away, you've got a VERY slim chance of it working.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaseythegreat
mine didnt. jokes ^-^ tehe
Okay everyone, Im going to butt in on my personal life here.
I met my girlfriend online last october. We've been together for 10 months now.
Well, i met the love of my life from a social site called Tagged. Lasted a year. But she was the love of my life, so it can very well work.
was? what happened?Quote:
Originally Posted by Milarz
Bit complicated.
You said she was the love of your life.Quote:
Originally Posted by Milarz
And again, how sure are you internet relationships can work?
I doubt that.
Please stay away from my posts as it seems you like to dis-agree with everything i have to say.
Also if you think Internet relationships can't work, well.. your wrong. There have been people i know that have been together for a very long time now from the net and still are going perfectly fine.
I suppose they can work, but only rarely IMO. I would certainly rather meet people in real life than on the internet as well!
I don't indulge in disagreeing with EVERYTHING you say. What you said just does not make sense. Your way of phrasing your words is wrong.Quote:
Originally Posted by Milarz
Internet relationships cannot work if there's no effort and dedication.
How is it wrong? If it's actual happening & true, it's pretty easy for it not.. to be wrong. What your saying is, 2 people have been together for years now, from the net, yet according to you that relationship is not working. I believe it is working, so again, i don't understand how you can say i'm wrong.
Internet relationships cannot work if there's no effort and dedication.
If there's only 2 people who have been together for years now and haven't been seeing each other regularly, I don't see how it can work. They only know each other on Internet. It's more towards an Internet relationship which cannot work. They have to see each other first and get to know each other in real life.
But i didn't say they don't see each other regularly. They're like, 19-20 years old, if they have been together for that long, i'm pretty sure it's working. Meaning internet relationships "can" actually work.
I think the disagreement here is determining the definition of 'internet relationship'. Once they've met up, it's more of a regualr relationship, whereas what I think GirlNextDoor15 is saying is that an internet relationship is purely on the internet, over msn, webcam etc.Quote:
Originally Posted by Milarz
I think that the latter definition of an internet relationship are glorified, they can be good, but I only see them (and have done this in the past) working short-term, if neither person makes the effort to meet up (obviously it's much more difficult when they live in perhaps different countries), then do they actually want to be in the relationship at all? The first version is just a 21st century version of how to meet a partner - obviously with technological advances, more people are going to meet people online, rather than go down to the YMCA or something, because things like that don't really happen anymore, people just sit on their computers all day.
It's opportunistic. If you don't leave your computer, you're not going to meet anyone other than who you talk to online, and that obviously means you don't have a problem with this. I do think that at least until you've met up, it can't be classed as a real relationship, more 'e-dating' (which can be an offensive term in some cases) just as I think until you've met an internet friend in real life, they're not proper friends (although they can be real friends, people you trust, but it is easier to type your problems to someone you've never met of course).