but it's not a last laugh because the bully is over it, fine and living their life. they do not care about yr "comeback".
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but it's not a last laugh because the bully is over it, fine and living their life. they do not care about yr "comeback".
@CaptainAce; Okay I see your point of few to an aspect however once you've got over it as you say and have the last laugh or whatever the thing is, they'd of still 'ruined' an aspect of your life so it's not really having the last laugh as they've still made a period of your life hell.
Agreed @bethany;
That maybe but you learn important lessons from being bullied. The bullies wasted an aspect of their lives doing the bullying because in the long run, people who have been bullied get on with there own lives too. So what does the bully achieve from bullying? Nothing much. What does the person that in the past has been bullied achieve? Everything. Because when you've been bullied, once you get over it. You learn that these bullies had nothing else better to do then make people feel bad about themselves. The feeling of wanting to prove to those bullies that they wasted their time also drives you on to be the best you can be in life. You also learn to accept who you are and will be able to help others with your expierence of being bullied. Bullies also get whats coming to them eventually.Quote:
Originally Posted by Catchy
you have such a victim mentality and it's not healthy.
You can't judge someone over the internet that A) You haven't met and B) Don't know them properly.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethany
can judge you from a) what yr saying and b) the way yr presenting yrself and you are presenting yrself with a massive victim mentality.
I'm not talking about myself. Im talking about online bullying here and what I say is my opinion. How can someone present themself as a victim when they are not even talking about themselves, lmao.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethany
yeah because everything yr saying comes across so detached from the subject matter... and i'm not just judging you on this thread, you've made several like this in the past...
Your judging me from the past? If that's so then should I judge you for in the past for bullying people like you have mentioned.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethany
I don't understand what you mean by 'detached' sorry.
where the hell did you get that logic from lmao. we as humans judge everyone on any little thing we know about the other person. it's a natural thing which we even do sub-consciously. it doesn't matter whether ones judgement on someone is right, wrong or not completely accurate, but to form an opinion on someone - you have to judge. especially since you can't exactly have an objective opinion on someone because the whole point of an opinion is to assume certain things about an individual.Quote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
so yes, you can judge someone online.
you can judge me however you like, you'd be sorely mistaken if you think yr judgement would have any effect on the way i live my life or think.Quote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
i'm judging you by yr constant bringing up of other people judging people, people being bullied and other stuff like that. you have a victim mentality. escape from it.
I do these threads because let's face the facts, who else would bring up these matters?Quote:
Originally Posted by bethany
NONE of them are about me nor for me. They are so people on this forum can voice their opinion about that subject.
You're not the first to bring up these matters and you certainly wont be the last, sorry to burst your bubble but it's true.Quote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
yr obsessed with bringing up these matters and the points you make are emotionally charged and not detached from yr opinion, so obviously it's involving yrself.Quote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
Catchy, I know but hey guess what? Not many people will.
Bethy, if you take a look around in *other* places of the forums, I don't mention any of these topics there. This part of the forum is for health, life and relationships. I am making topics related to it. Simple as, deal with it.
If I was obsessed, every post on this forum would mention bullies bullies bullies and they don't. You 'presume' its involving me but they are not. As I have clearly stated, I make these threads for people on this forum, not for myself. Amen.
doesn't replace the fact you have an obvious victim mentality and everyone can see it....
I haven't read any past comments, so don't argue with me if I say something that's already been said.
I think online bullies are pathetic. I mean honestly, how could someone be entertained by making people who they don't even know feel terrible? Well, I suppose half the people who I know from online will be able to answer that! But yeah - its stupid.
Why do you think they wont though? I can assure you many people will... We're not all cold hearted who don't give two tosses about issues such as bullying so you shouldn't really just presume "oh I'm the only person who will bring issues such as this up" because you're not. The issue of bullying is brought up countless times. Just because you've made a thread about it doesn't mean to say you're the only one willing to bring the issue up and doesn't make you brave or full of courage for doing it 'cause like I said, many people are willing to bring up issues such as this you're not the only one.Quote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
In all honesty I don't really see the hype over bullying people, I think being a victim of both real life and cyber bullying I may just see it differently than those who dish it out instead of being on the receiving end. Recently, I have made myself realise that those online bullies that have been they might not have anything better to do so you deal with it or move on, don't get upset or anything about it and if only I had the realisation years ago. Having said that I think everything happens for a reason so if you get bullied it may help someone in later life, it might make it better/worse/indifferent but at the end of the day those online can't physically hurt you (unless they hunt you down) like those in real life can.
I'd hate to be bullied in real life and that's why I mainly just stop before saying things in different situations as it will only make it worse, but mainly I reiterate my first point that bullying doesn't really excite me at all, not sure why others do it as I feel there could be any reasons. I was bullied in real life mainly before and maybe I'm quiet now, but what's to say some things might not have happened if I wasn't that quiet, shy person I have become.
Overall though, I think some people may get bored of bullying you and find out you aren't that bad and try to form a friendship, as many have said, you can judge someone but remember you do only have a small bit of information about them, if you got to know them you may see them in a different, more positive light.
Sorry if I confused people.
So bullying is a good thing? I've done people a massive service over the years?Quote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
Bullying is not for a long-term goal, never has been and probably never will be. It's for short-term amusement and social control, and THAT is what a bully achieves ie: everything that they set out to achieveQuote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
Do they? I'd really love to see any sources you have to back up the claim that a majority (or even 5% realistically) of bullies "get what's coming to them", whatever that may entail. Throwing out random rhetoric helps no-one and is in fact harmful to whatever cause you're trying to champion here because it attempts to give credence to falsities, which is how all sorts of injustices beginQuote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
Can absolutely judge what someone is showing to you, be it in the flesh or in typed wordsQuote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
You're right, you are the first and only person to have ever mentioned cyberbullying on a forum that for most of decade has comprised mainly of teens from a mass-member chatsite. This is definitely the caseQuote:
Originally Posted by CaptainAce
Health, Life and RelationshipsQuote:
Originally Posted by bethany
Crushes to relationships to bullies to family & health problems, discuss them all here.
Oh really? If that was so, How come I post different topics about different things in other parts of the thread? All I am doing is merely creating a thread for people to discuss.
Edited by Skynus (Forum Moderator): Please don't make pointless posts!
That's not all you're doing at all, you're also trying to push the idea that victims have it better off which is entirely laughable
@bethany; she made this thread because she thinks she's being bullied online, probably by myself, and she likes the attention it brings her.
oh and @CaptainAce; how many times have you heard about kids killing themselves due to bullying? loads, so no, they do not ALWAYS get the last laugh. before you fight something, make sure you're right.
Pmsl, I made this thread because in another topic there was this kid who power bombed a bully and I thought, Yeah maybe I should create a thread for people to talk about. But with this forum being online, talk about online bullies. So you can all think and say whatever you wish, don't bother me. Also the whole point in a forum is for topics to be discussed. If you all have a problem with my threads, build a lovely nice bridge and get over it, cheers.
I have nothing more to say on this topic.
I've contributed to 3, 4 maybe more people having eating disorders/eating disordered habits. Please do continue to tell how they are laughing about this.
what do you mean?Quote:
Originally Posted by lizzieTBH.
and @CaptainAce; why make a thread if you're just going to get annoyed and leave.
This is probably the 1 thing in this thread which caught my eye lol. Couldn't agree more.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zedda
And in regards to the question you asked Lizzie, she's saying that she's contributed towards a person falling into an eating disorder + that the people with an eating disorder weren't laughing about it.
(I think that's what she's saying, I'm sure she said somewhere in this thread that she's bullied before.)
The most common issue is because the actual bullier is either being bullied themselves in the "real world" or they're insecure about something in their life and want to just feel in power for once and pick out your insecurities and use them against you.
why would you even admit that? i would be down right ashamed if i'd ever done that. you're disgusting.Quote:
Originally Posted by lizzieTBH.
victims can have it better off IF THEY STOP ACTING THE VICTIM. if you act a victim, then you're never going to get one over the bullies. if you care too much about them, then you're still not getting one over them. not until someone has gotten over it are they going to be having 'the last laugh'. bullies aren't going to be thinking about you in a few years whereas you might still be affected by them. isn't the best revenge to be happy and not hold a grudge, not having them take up any room in your life?
it is nice to raise awareness about bullying and defend yourself and others against it but it's not true that bullies have nothing to gain. i've been bullied and i've probably been classed as a bully before but to be fair i've pretty much forgotten about it all and yeah i'm better off than some of them now but it's not always the case. bullies aren't always bully victims or do it because they're unhappy with themselves and it doesn't mean they're going to be worse off than you are in a few years. in saying that, bullies aren't always bullies forever either - people can change.
Reading this thread there seems to be some people coming across as if they boasting about how proud they are of how they've bullied people, didn't think it would be something to be proud of/boast about but anyway!
Because I'm past caring about them. It's cyber bullying that went on back and forth between people for over a year and I personally couldn't give a **** about them anymore. I'd explain the entire story but it would literally take hours because so much happened between me and 3 other people.Quote:
Originally Posted by buttons
I'm not just talking where I could just hit "block" on them and that would be the end of it either.
And don't tell me it's a serious issue, I know that, I was falling into the same problems late 2010, something I'd rather not go into to be honest.
*REMOVED*Quote:
Originally Posted by lizzieTBH.
I know...I know.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stephen!
@lizzietbh; are you fat?
yah tbhQuote:
Originally Posted by bethany
There is no reason why anyone should be cyber-bullied really because from a computer you can be who ever you want to be. I've had people try and bully me online and it was an epic fail. Because even if the things they say offend you, you just type a response that they're highly unlikely to understand and they'll go into a state of confusion.