ok so not that long ago. well cant really say more than ive already stated previously but again, good luck :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Kissed
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ok so not that long ago. well cant really say more than ive already stated previously but again, good luck :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Kissed
I'm really sorry to hear this, I don't know if anything can be done is prosecution laws unless she says rape.. As shes 16 :(
I've been in this situation before.
You'll have to talk to her about how she's got to tell someone, and if she doesnt, well you cant force her.
You must not tell anybody for her. Because that will lose trust in your relationship with her.
Unfortunately, if she doesnt want to do anything about it; you cant do anything.
Put as much pressure on her as you can, if she has younger siblings, say they could be at threat, if not say other younger children.
But likesay, if she doesnt want to tell anyone, you cant make her, or do it for her.
you need to get her to tell police or phone childline or something- before he does it again. ;l she could be in more danger...
You should tell her mum, and go to the police. This is a very serious offense, and that man should be brought into justice.
yeah bloody brilliant idea if she wants to lose a friend.Quote:
Originally Posted by Doomsboy
Do you have ANY idea how hard it is for people to tell people stuff like that?
Although her mother may be heart broken and upset for a bit, I think she would be all the more upset if she knew her daughter had being going through this sexual harassment in silence, through someone she brought into their life. Don't you?
I think you need to make your friend see sense soon. Tell her that he cannot get away with that and surely her mum would rather know her daughter was safe than just being with a man. And if she truly wants her mum to be happy she will tell her right now exactly what this man is like, rather than letting him continue and get away with such crimes and she will be even more heartbroken when it all comes out later.
If she refuses to tell, I seriously think you should consider telling her. Although I don't normally recommend this as it's kind of tredding on her toes - I think in circumstances as such people like this really shouldn't get away with it.
Does she know she told you that? If no, you should tell her you know & she needs to tell her mom & let her handle it because suppose he does it again to some other kid or something. She needs to tell someone. Or if she doesn't, tell her mom for her. She may get angry at first, but I'm sure she'll be happy you told with the ending results.
Right thankyou for everyones help so far.
We have talked about it, so she is aware she told me & she thanked me for being there for her.
We've decided to go and talk to our aunty about it after I get back from holiday (2 weeks from sunday I will be back.) so that she can have time to think about it, 'cos I know how hard it will be for her to talk about it to her so I know she needs a bit of time.
She's still not even thinking about telling her mum even though i've tryed to persuade her loads, I'm not gonna stop trying but I doubt she'll want to for a while.
He won't do it again, cos she won't give him chance.
She's a very strong person and isn't the kind of person who will back down from him, she's not scared of him so theres no need to worry about it reoccuring.
I'm gonna talk to her about the police thing, but if she doesn't want to go then I'm not gonna force her; I am however going to try my hardest to get her to tell her mum, and if she doesnt then our aunty will make her.
If you're getting confused why I'm saying our aunty, my mums sister is married to her dads brother.
So were not related but are very very close.
Again, thanks alot guys.
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i think it's actually legal now that you can check whether a family member is on the sex offenders register? i'm not being funny or anything, but these kinda things aren't the first time people like that try things. if you get me? i reckon you should find out how to do that, with your friends consent & all. and i'm pretty sure since you're over 16 you wouldn't need parental consent.
otherwise, i definitely think you should persuade your friend to consider the police. cause, y'know, tell her that if he's done it to her he could quite easily do it to other members of her immediate family.
good luck. i hope she sorts out, i can't imagine how vile that must be. xo.