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16-05-2011, 02:04 AM
Metric1

I would be lying if I said I believed in that. I believe in "try before you buy", so ...... After being in university, the girls who are sexually active are much more stable than the girls who are "holding out".. I just make sure I use a condom because herpes is ramped at Dal.
16-05-2011, 08:13 AM
Catzsy

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

Sex after marriage at least would ensure less teenage pregnancys and unmarried mothers who become married to the state and dependent on the state for their income. That is not to mention the thousands upon thousands of abortions we'd avoid taking as we do due to women being irresponsible and stupid by having sex and disregarding its consquences.

If you want to see the results of where the loss of morals since the 1960s cultural revolution has landed us.. check your local inner city suburb.

I think it takes 'two to tango' so isn't the responsibilty for avoiding a pregnancy also shared by the male here?

I really do not think it is an issue these days. More people live together than get married anyway. What is more important I feel is the reason that you have sex because these days to some it seems to have no meaning whatsoever when it really should be a bit more special than that. As far as parents are concerned the less said the better, I feel although they are fine & relaxed about it. @FJ what a load of bollocks! :P @Metric1 the other side of the coin is those who 'give out' usually give out to many and there could also be problems with that. Also what do you mean by more stable? Do you mean they are just interested in sex with no sort of relationship?
16-05-2011, 08:20 AM
Richie

How I see it is, do as you please but if you want a healthy relationship that will last wait until marriage. That way 1) You'll know the other person loves you and not your goods :P 2) I'm sure if you were not to have sex with your partner for say 3 years then you got married, it'd be stable relationship. Not to mention you'd be going at it like dogs.

Personally I don't think I would, I know that contradicts my first point but I can't see myself ever being in a committed relationship no mind marriage :P. I don't know anyone who could put up with my habboxforum rants :D. HEY, what do I know? I'm just a mad virgin who loves the internet lol.

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I'm not saying that having sex before marriage ***** up a relationship, that's just my opinion for the majority of relationships.
16-05-2011, 08:29 AM
buttons

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Originally Posted by PaulMacC

It's like what the grandpa said in Little Miss Sunshine, **** a lot of women. Not just one. A lot. We're all young. Put your stuff in a hole, that's what you do when you're young. Sex is a great thing. Plus, you don't buy a car without a test drive. Sex is a huge part of a relationship. Get married and find out your partner is a disappointment in bed, bad times.

yeah sure that'd be great but there are so many people who don't use condoms or contraception. it's not worth the pregnancy, STI's and poor reputation.

me and my mum didn't have 'the chat' till i was 17, she thought i was innocent bless her. she was disappointed but she can't really talk cause my brother was at hers and my dad's wedding so ;) i just find it ridiculous how people sleep with anyone and everyone, there's no excuse at all. sex IS a huge part of a relationship definitely but it's not just about being "good" in bed. people can improve and if you're really that in to the relationship you'd talk about what you do and don't like, if you're not attracted to them during sex then the relationship probably won't last anyway. you'll get past the '**** everyone you see' stage and then maybe you won't care about it that much. i have to do know a guy at least 24 hours before i sleep with them ;l only joking, mine has to be a serious relationship but then again sex bores me anyway
16-05-2011, 08:32 AM
GirlNextDoor15

If my parents ever found out that I'm making love before marriage, I think they're gonna kill me or at least kill my partner. It's so horrible. :L
17-05-2011, 01:26 AM
Zak

Erm this makes me sound like a bit of a yob but I lost my virginity at 14. I don't regret it, I thought I loved her at the time and we spent 2 and a half happy years together. We're still friends to this day, I know her new boyfriend well, I work with him as well, he's great for her.

Being so used to having sex now, I don't think I could wait personally till after marriage. Not that it applies to me anyway now. I just see it as you're young, you only get one shot at this.. So why not have a good time, as long as you're not using the girl and you genuinely have feelings for her.

Just think about it, you could wait till your 24 for 'the one'. Then he could turn around and cheat on you later in life, which would destroy you. Someone you put that much faith into, just for them to go and wreck it.
17-05-2011, 01:50 AM
-:Undertaker:-

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Originally Posted by Catz

I think it takes 'two to tango' so isn't the responsibilty for avoiding a pregnancy also shared by the male here?

I suppose partly, but at the end of the day the woman has allowed the man to have sex with her - her fault, her responsiblity as she knew of the risks before having sex. It is not the fault of the baby as we're supposed to believe purely on ideological grounds in order to justify abortion.

Don't want to end up pregnant then don't take the risk in the first place.
17-05-2011, 01:55 AM
HotelUser

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Originally Posted by Catz

I think it takes 'two to tango' so isn't the responsibilty for avoiding a pregnancy also shared by the male here?

I really do not think it is an issue these days. More people live together than get married anyway. What is more important I feel is the reason that you have sex because these days to some it seems to have no meaning whatsoever when it really should be a bit more special than that. As far as parents are concerned the less said the better, I feel although they are fine & relaxed about it. @FJ what a load of bollocks! :P @Metric1 the other side of the coin is those who 'give out' usually give out to many and there could also be problems with that. Also what do you mean by more stable? Do you mean they are just interested in sex with no sort of relationship?

I think it's equally the male and female's fault. However females obviously hold all the power thereafter in terms of deciding to keep it or not, and things (duh-- it's in their bodies).
17-05-2011, 09:55 AM
JerseySafety

I don't believe in this; tbh it's the persons choice and you gotta respect that.

1k post woooo :)
17-05-2011, 10:06 AM
Catzsy

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

I suppose partly, but at the end of the day the woman has allowed the man to have sex with her - her fault, her responsiblity as she knew of the risks before having sex. It is not the fault of the baby as we're supposed to believe purely on ideological grounds in order to justify abortion.

Don't want to end up pregnant then don't take the risk in the first place.

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Originally Posted by HotelUser

I think it's equally the male and female's fault. However females obviously hold all the power thereafter in terms of deciding to keep it or not, and things (duh-- it's in their bodies).

That is not the issue though. If the male did not want to have sex with the girl without any protection he has that choice as well and I am sure there are many sensible males who would not in these circumstances. Responsibilty for conceiving a child is an equal thing. Males who do not accept this are abrigating their responsibilities unless they have been assured by the female that they are on the birth pill.

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