if your bf/gf was unable to have children, is it ok to end the relationship?

It's a bit harsh to leave someone because they are not able to have children.
They could always consider adoption or where someone carries the baby for the person. (Forgot what it's called)
There is always a way to have a child.

Honestly? I'd just adopt...

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Originally Posted by scottish

Yeah and if they did stay together for say 10 years then he's slowly going to resent her more and more every day cause shes unable to give him what he wants when he could have been with someone else and have a kid etc

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It's call talk to each other and adopt a child. I know it's know his own but you don't go and break up for this reason..... come on seriously.

Imo he's allowed to as he doesn't see the relationship working out but there's ways around it rather than simply ditching her just for that reason. It's a bit silly to break up if that is the only reason though and to me it's a bit wrong but it's his choice in the end..

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Originally Posted by Cassiieee

It's a bit harsh to leave someone because they are not able to have children.
They could always consider adoption or where someone carries the baby for the person. (Forgot what it's called)
There is always a way to have a child.

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Surrogacy!

And erm, yeah, surrogacy is a good idea but some people have really strong views about stuff like that. Sometimes people can get really picky and only want a child unless it's their own or they wouldn't feel like a mother/father.

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Originally Posted by XxZammyxX

It's call talk to each other and adopt a child. I know it's know his own but you don't go and break up for this reason..... come on seriously.

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Of course you can break up for that reason, if he wants a kid, his own kid, then he has every right to break up for that reason

well he has every right to break up with her for ANY reason.

Just cause he wants a kid doesn't mean he wants to adopt one...

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Originally Posted by scottish

Of course you can break up for that reason, if he wants a kid, his own kid, then he has every right to break up for that reason

well he has every right to break up with her for ANY reason.

Just cause he wants a kid doesn't mean he wants to adopt one...

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Wanting a child of your own is obviously a big thing but if you really loved someone surely you'd be an adult about it and compromise by adopting, using ivf or whatever, instead of fostering such a sense of resentment just because they can't 'give you what you want' without help. There are so many options available today that this is just not a valid enough reason for me, obviously it's a potential strain on the relationship but it's not something that can't be overcome. If she wasn't prepared to go down another route though, I think I'd call it quits since I do want children and am not prepared to let someone prevent me from doing so.

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Originally Posted by scottish

Of course you can break up for that reason, if he wants a kid, his own kid, then he has every right to break up for that reason

well he has every right to break up with her for ANY reason.

Just cause he wants a kid doesn't mean he wants to adopt one...

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Well that's you but I find it quite harsh. If you can talk to the person first instead of say hey it's over as you cannot have a child seriously there are many ways to not end up in a relationship.

Seriously people are saying that one is MORALLY OBLIGED to stay with someone when the relationship makes them resentful and sad? Some of you are sounding like Dan with his "no-one can ever split up it will create gays and Muslims" ideas

I never said they are forced to stay together but if they really love each other it's called communication. I know I wouldn't leave my fiancée if he couldn't have kids. That's my opinion. I truly love him and there is nothing that will make me change direction of path. If you just go out with someone for just having kids then seriously do you love the person then if she/he can't have any?