Arguments in a relationship

Rarely if ever argued. Broke up after a year and won't be going back.

I think arguing is normal in a relationship. I think if youre arguing too often or about the same things then it can break the relationship. I personally think some arguements can make the relationship stronger just not too often.

Argue very rarely, but whenever we do we always make up quickly.

Never argued and we've been together just over a year, I think it's because we have so much in common and we're so alike in some respects that we have no reason to argue. I think when we decide to live together they might happen, but I have no doubt we'll work through them!

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Originally Posted by Samanfa

Never argued and we've been together just over a year, I think it's because we have so much in common and we're so alike in some respects that we have no reason to argue. I think when we decide to live together they might happen, but I have no doubt we'll work through them!

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It'll happen, definitely. At least arguing means that you are able to communicate to each other instead of keeping secrets! That would lead to insecurities.

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Originally Posted by !Landon

It'll happen, definitely. At least arguing means that you are able to communicate to each other instead of keeping secrets! That would lead to insecurities.

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Well, we have no secrets at the moment either, it's going really well! I know what you mean though, my boyfriend was worried about telling me something before and vice versa and it was so much easier just to come out and say it, and now some of them are running jokes because we can actually talk about the stuff lmao.

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Originally Posted by Samanfa

Well, we have no secrets at the moment either, it's going really well! I know what you mean though, my boyfriend was worried about telling me something before and vice versa and it was so much easier just to come out and say it, and now some of them are running jokes because we can actually talk about the stuff lmao.

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Yeah, that's how mine ended. Couldn't communicate well enough and insecurities happened. Sucked

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Originally Posted by !Landon

Yeah, that's how mine ended. Couldn't communicate well enough and insecurities happened. Sucked

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One of my first proper relationships was like that. I don't think it helped that we were both in college and lived around 20 minutes apart either. He used to go to sleep fairly early because on some nights he didn't finish college until 10pm (he was a chef and the college had a restaurant so they opened one night a week) and it was horrible because we would never see each other. Not to mention that if anything was wrong instead of waiting to see him I'd have to text him, but then I would always think it was my fault and apologise when it wasn't, then he dumped me by text and had tried it on with my sister and best friend during the relationship, so you can see that was a great relationship!

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Originally Posted by Samanfa

Well, we have no secrets at the moment either, it's going really well! I know what you mean though, my boyfriend was worried about telling me something before and vice versa and it was so much easier just to come out and say it, and now some of them are running jokes because we can actually talk about the stuff lmao.

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This is one of the biggest obstacles that my partner and I faced. It was a big reality check when I realized that I didn't need to 'know' everything and everything.
That his agenda could be hidden and that the level of trust for him had to improve. It was a two way street with this one as well.

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Originally Posted by Brad

This is one of the biggest obstacles that my partner and I faced. It was a big reality check when I realized that I didn't need to 'know' everything and everything.
That his agenda could be hidden and that the level of trust for him had to improve. It was a two way street with this one as well.

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Yeah I understand that too, we're not so caught up in each other and each other's business that we need to know everything. It's like the games we play too, yeah he knows what Habbo is (although he mocks it :P), but he's not exactly going to go play on it, likewise I wouldn't with the games he plays. It's like one of those relationships who need their partner's passwords and access to their phone stuff like that? I don't see the point in that, some things are private and that's how it should be!