Sex before marriage

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Originally Posted by Cataclysm,

Erm I don't think my mom cares, tbh she gave me condoms when I was 11.
But I don't think people should wait till they're married to have sex. Enjoy life, don't like trap yourself at a young age. Go out, have fun.

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That is ****** up.

It should be when they both feel ready, actually.

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Originally Posted by Zeptis

All i have to say about sex before marriage is "HHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELL YES", well at an appropriate age of course, which would be eighteen.

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Originally Posted by Jssy

I don't think anybody needed to know.

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well that is the topic of the thread..sex before marriage therefore it's relevant to the topic and this is a discussion forum

dont think my parents would mind tbh. i mean i was born before my parents got married. then my brother was born after they got married (A)

Personally I'm not married and have had sex and seeing someone at the minute.
My parents tried to do the whole sex before marriage stuff when I was younger, I understood it however but my parents days were my parents days and these days are different.

I do however respect everyones views on sex before marriage so I'm not slating anyone, but when my parents found out they just made sure that I used protection, which I did. But obviously being careful is #1.

Well, that's my opinion :).

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Originally Posted by maken

My parents tried to do the whole sex before marriage stuff when I was younger, I understood it however but my parents days were my parents days and these days are different.

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Indeed they are, but does it make you and us a better person?

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

Indeed they are, but does it make you and us a better person?

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But does it on the other hand make you a worse person?

waiting for sex until marriage, to me, is a load of rubbish. not hating on anyone who chooses to wait but sex is like, the most natural thing ever, it's like a gift and it would be rude to not use it

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Originally Posted by Cataclysm,

Erm I don't think my mom cares, tbh she gave me condoms when I was 11.
But I don't think people should wait till they're married to have sex. Enjoy life, don't like trap yourself at a young age. Go out, have fun.

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oh... erm... i don't like to judge but that's kinda weird

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Originally Posted by Catzsy

But does it on the other hand make you a worse person?

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I think so yes, it doesn't have to be followed - but we should certainly be a lot more sceptical about sex.

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Originally Posted by Judas

waiting for sex until marriage, to me, is a load of rubbish. not hating on anyone who chooses to wait but sex is like, the most natural thing ever, it's like a gift and it would be rude to not use it

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What a lovely attitude.

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

What a lovely attitude.

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I'm so glad you agree.

On the other hand I couldn't care less what you think of my attitude towards anything, there's nothing wrong with what I said and if you don't like it, then consider evaluating your priorities.

The argument that sex only exists for reproduction is bull anyway, if that is the case then why are we one of two (I think?) species that get pleasure from sex...? If it wasn't supposed to be an enjoyable experience then it just wouldn't be.

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Originally Posted by Judas

I'm so glad you agree.

On the other hand I couldn't care less what you think of my attitude towards anything, there's nothing wrong with what I said and if you don't like it, then consider evaluating your priorities.

The argument that sex only exists for reproduction is bull anyway, if that is the case then why are we one of two (I think?) species that get pleasure from sex...? If it wasn't supposed to be an enjoyable experience then it just wouldn't be.

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Nobody has made that argument as far as i'm aware, i'm not even making the argument for 'no sex before marriage' to always be followed - I simply state that we should be a bit more sceptical about sex and have a bit more self-respect for ourselves and others.

As opposed to seeking to act like animals.

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

Nobody has made that argument as far as i'm aware, i'm not even making the argument for 'no sex before marriage' to always be followed - I simply state that we should be a bit more sceptical about sex and have a bit more self-respect for ourselves and others.

As opposed to seeking to act like animals.

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http://www.habboxforum.com/showthrea...06#post7275906 - I don't know if it has been a point of discussion before that as I can't be bothered to read through 8 pages

And yes I agree but that has nothing to do with marriage, does it? I honestly don't see what's wrong with having sex with multiple people as long as you're sensible about it?

Funny you should say we shouldn't act like animals when animals are the ones that only have sex to reproduce lolz.

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Originally Posted by Judas

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthrea...06#post7275906 - I don't know if it has been a point of discussion before that as I can't be bothered to read through 8 pages

And yes I agree but that has nothing to do with marriage, does it? I honestly don't see what's wrong with having sex with multiple people as long as you're sensible about it?

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Nor do I, but one night stands and so forth? I look down on them, as we should do.

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Originally Posted by Judas

Funny you should say we shouldn't act like animals when animals are the ones that only have sex to reproduce lolz.

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Well i'm not making that argument concerning reproduction so there's no irony at all on my part.

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

Nor do I, but one night stands and so forth? I look down on them, as we should do.

Well i'm not making that argument concerning reproduction so there's no irony at all on my part.

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But why do you have a right to look down on people who choose
to do that and are just enjoying themselves? As long as they are using protection and not in relationships what is the problem? I understand it's not for some people, I wouldn't go out every weekend and sleep with any random person, but some people choose to do that and if they want to do that it's none of my business or yours.

And I didn't say it was ironic on your part, just making the point.

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Originally Posted by Judas

But why do you have a right to look down on people who choose
to do that and are just enjoying themselves? As long as they are using protection and not in relationships what is the problem? I understand it's not for some people, I wouldn't go out every weekend and sleep with any random person, but some people choose to do that and if they want to do that it's none of my business or yours.

And I didn't say it was ironic on your part, just making the point.

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I'm a libertarian, I agree its none of my business or that of any government.

But I still view it in a negative way, I think we should have respect for ourselves and one another concerning sex.

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

I'm a libertarian, I agree its none of my business or that of any government.

But I still view it in a negative way, I think we should have respect for ourselves and one another concerning sex.

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What would you define as having respect for yourself concerning sex?

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Originally Posted by Judas

What would you define as having respect for yourself concerning sex?

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Not sleeping around, not going out looking for sex, not having the attitude that we should just have sex, talk about sex and go out looking for sex purely because 'its natural' or 'is good' - anything other than that comes across to me as somebody who is shallow and has little self-respect.

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

Not sleeping around, not going out looking for sex, not having the attitude that we should just have sex, talk about sex and go out looking for sex purely because 'its natural' or 'is good' - anything other than that comes across to me as somebody who is shallow and has little self-respect.

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See, I don't see what's wrong with sleeping around. I agree we shouldn't treat it as "just having sex" so casually, but I think it can be a casual thing and if you want to have sex with someone then why not?

I think that when people like you in situations like this say someone has no respect for themselves, it's just because that person isn't acting in the way that you want them to. If you wish to have sex with someone, it's your decision and no one else's. Respect has nothing to do with it unless you're just banging everyone that moves when you haven't even really met the person or just fancy a bit of sex.

And I don't see what's wrong with having sex because "it's good" ..... Why else lol

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Originally Posted by Judas

See, I don't see what's wrong with sleeping around. I agree we shouldn't treat it as "just having sex" so casually, but I think it can be a casual thing and if you want to have sex with someone then why not?

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Sleeping around is 'just having sex', you can put lipstick on a pig and its still a pig - same with words and phrases.

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Originally Posted by Judas

I think that when people like you in situations like this say someone has no respect for themselves, it's just because that person isn't acting in the way that you want them to. If you wish to have sex with someone, it's your decision and no one else's. Respect has nothing to do with it unless you're just banging everyone that moves when you haven't even really met the person or just fancy a bit of sex.

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I'm not proposing to enforce my attitudes legally *unlike many others* in any way so I have no idea where this point came from.

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Originally Posted by Judas

And I don't see what's wrong with having sex because "it's good" ..... Why else lol

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Well because it demeans the act then, its hedonism in a sexual sense. A great deal of people who act in the way you state is correct will, when older, come to regret their actions. Not being judged by others, but how they feel about themselves and how they themselves acted.

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Originally Posted by -:Undertaker:-

Sleeping around is 'just having sex', you can put lipstick on a pig and its still a pig - same with words and phrases.



I'm not proposing to enforce my attitudes legally *unlike many others* in any way so I have no idea where this point came from.



Well because it demeans the act then, its hedonism in a sexual sense. A great deal of people who act in the way you state is correct will, when older, come to regret their actions.

Not being judged by others, but how they feel about themselves and how they themselves acted.

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When on earth did I talk about anything being enforced legally? What are you on about :S

And so you think people should not have fun while they can because there could be a chance they regret it one day? You could say that about literally anything you do for enjoyment.

In the same way, maybe a lot of people also, when older, wish they weren't so uptight and had a bit more fun when they were younger... Who knows

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Originally Posted by Judas

When on earth did I talk about anything being enforced legally? What are you on about :S

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....'it's just because that person isn't acting in the way that you want them to. If you wish to have sex with someone, it's your decision and no one else's' - I have not proposed or suggested once that what other people do has anything to do with me or the government. There is big difference between what I think people should be allowed to do (and as you know i'm always arguing for this to be allowed in 99.9% of cases) and what I approve of/disapprove of in terms of my personal tastes.

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Originally Posted by Judas

And so you think people should not have fun while they can because there could be a chance they regret it one day? You could say that about literally anything you do for enjoyment.

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Indeed, I think personal restraint is a good quality to have - drugs, drink, sex, a great deal of things.

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Originally Posted by Judas

In the same way, maybe a lot of people also, when older, wish they weren't so uptight and had a bit more fun when they were younger... Who knows

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They might, but then they might be rather happy that they hadn't acted in such a low grade manner whereas many of their peers did.

I don't really believe in it but i can understand why people do. I'm not sure if i do want to get married yet. I think if anything i'd wait till i am dedicated to someone and when i know i could trust them completly.