Do you stand up for gays and lesbians?

How do I know they make a big deal out of it? I only have to read a few threads in this Forum, "OMG how do I come out", "I came out like this, what do you think of that", "I came out, did I do the right thing" are the kind of threads posted every day. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it I am just saying that Forums usually reflect society and if this is the behaviour then I'm not suprised people's reactions are "huge".

BTW I don't mind debating things with people but if all your posts are going to be as rude as that then I suggest not debating at all until you've grown up and learned to accept other people may have different views to you.

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Originally Posted by lethal

that's utter crap. how the HELL would you know? it takes a hell of a lot of courage to come out to friends & family, somthing you OBVIOSLY don't know anything about. a lot of people don't want to make a huge thing out of it, but it's others reactions that make it a huge thing? jesus christ..

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Originally Posted by Seacat

How do I know they make a big deal out of it? I only have to read a few threads in this Forum, "OMG how do I come out", "I came out like this, what do you think of that", "I came out, did I do the right thing" are the kind of threads posted every day. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it I am just saying that Forums usually reflect society and if this is the behaviour then I'm not suprised people's reactions are "huge".

BTW I don't mind debating things with people but if all your posts are going to be as rude as that then I suggest not debating at all until you've grown up and learned to accept other people may have different views to you.

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lol i was hardly being rude. people only post for help because they havn't got the first clue about what to do. and others post about when they've came out because they see it as a big achievement for them. and yeah i do know you don't have a clue because it's quite obvious your straight, so you wouldn't have the slightest idea about how hard it is would you? :s

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Originally Posted by Seacat

How do I know they make a big deal out of it? I only have to read a few threads in this Forum, "OMG how do I come out", "I came out like this, what do you think of that", "I came out, did I do the right thing" are the kind of threads posted every day. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it I am just saying that Forums usually reflect society and if this is the behaviour then I'm not suprised people's reactions are "huge".

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They do it like that on a Forum because it is actually very hard to gather the confidence to come out in real life. The fact is that on a Forum if people don't accept you, you can just turn off the computer or close your browser and that's that. In real life it's a lot harder and so people seek reassurance on Forums etc.

I Feel It's Their Choice. If That's How They want To Be, Then Let Them Be It. People Just Make Fun Of Them because They're Different!

No I wouldn't so I am quite biased. But my point is that if the gay and lesbian people themselves find it hard to come out then they must be ashamed or something? Obviously there is something that stops them and if they saw it normal themselves then they'd just do it and not care what others think, and then over time people in society would also accept it. That's kinda starting to happen now, especially with gay marriages been legalized e.t.c.

Take abortion for example... In the 1950s abortion was unheard of and society would exclude anyone who even thought of one. Then the Abortion Act 1967 was introduced and now when someone says they're having an abortion it's "fine, good luck". That'll probably happen with been gay now this new law has been passed where gay people can marry. But it's not going to happen until gay people themselves see it as normal and don't make such a big thing of coming out or defending gay people at every opportunity.

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Originally Posted by Seacat

No I wouldn't so I am quite biased. But my point is that if the gay and lesbian people themselves find it hard to come out then they must be ashamed or something?

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You will find that the majority of gay/lesbian and bisexual individuals are scared of the reaction they may receive. I know you say they shouldn't be ashamed, but it's still very hard and you wouldn't know that because you are straight.

Well until they accept their sexuality most people won't either :) Me not included because I don't really care what sexuality people are but I wouldn't ever go out of my way to defend them.

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Originally Posted by Seacat

How do I know they make a big deal out of it? I only have to read a few threads in this Forum, "OMG how do I come out", "I came out like this, what do you think of that", "I came out, did I do the right thing" are the kind of threads posted every day. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it I am just saying that Forums usually reflect society and if this is the behaviour then I'm not suprised people's reactions are "huge".

BTW I don't mind debating things with people but if all your posts are going to be as rude as that then I suggest not debating at all until you've grown up and learned to accept other people may have different views to you.

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For the first time (IN HISTORY... IT'S GONNA START RAINING MEN) i agree with him, and if something reflects society it's called a "microcosm" ;)

Urm i don't defend them, as i don't see the point on being biased simply because there's a few haters. For everything people CAN stand for there will always be haters and cynics, and on the other hand defenders and supporters?

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Originally Posted by Seacat

Well until they accept their sexuality most people won't either :) Me not included because I don't really care what sexuality people are but I wouldn't ever go out of my way to defend them.

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Yes I see what you mean. In my opinion (mainly because in my experience it works) you should just do it, and ignore the often negative reverberations that result from it. Eventually it dies down and no one really cares.
You must appreciate the fact it is difficult however, you would know if you were put in that situation :P.

lmao I bet you only agreed with me so that you could use that word :P

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Originally Posted by Casanova

For the first time (IN HISTORY... IT'S GONNA START RAINING MEN) i agree with him, and if something reflects society it's called a "microcosm" ;)

Urm i don't defend them, as i don't see the point on being biased simply because there's a few haters. For everything people CAN stand for there will always be haters and cynics, and on the other hand defenders and supporters?

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