Her mums boyfriend took advantage of her.

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Originally Posted by Bef

This guy needs to be out of her life. Hes done it once and may well do it again!! her mum needs to know what sort of a man she thinks shes in love with!

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agreed.

This happened to a friend of mine

It wasn't sex.
I'm not going in to detail about what happened though.
+ Thanks for all your concern but i'm not going behind her back, I have a good idea of what she's going through myself and you can't even imagine how it feels. So to have the only person you've told to go behind your back and do exactly what you've asked them not to, on top of all of it would just be really harsh to her.
I'll try and convince her to do things, cos I know she should. But I'm not doing it if she doesnt want me too :)
I'm going to try and help her any way I can, any way she wants me to.

Oh + no its not her real dad.
Its her mums boyfriend.

well you cant help her if you go behind her back.

But you can make sure it doesnt happen again with him.

-Nvmmmm

Edited By Rizter (Forum Moderator): Please dont post pointlessly, thanks :)

nevermind at what?

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Originally Posted by Criminal

Who would want to leave something like that alone? Going through the ordeal again would be the dad doing things to her, not going to court and getting the sicko locked up :S.

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yes, but describing it is nearly as bad as it being done.
when this happens to people they think of it subconsciously 24/7.
Making them think about it 100% is not good, or nice for them.

I know about this, not saying why, i've spoken to Katie (Kissed) via PM, and it really is the best thing to do.

Yes the idiot needs locking up.
I've had to sit in the same room as one of these sick perverted men knowing I could do nothing that wouldnt really really upset my friend even more.

Usually these things do not happen again because the girl becomes scared of the man and will do anything to fight him off.

They really are (ok not in your mind, or mine tbh) but in the mind of the victim, these things are best left alone.

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Originally Posted by Dentafrice,

nevermind at what?

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I posted and then realised I misread, dippyyy.
Sorry

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Originally Posted by Kissed

It wasn't sex.
I'm not going in to detail about what happened though.
+ Thanks for all your concern but i'm not going behind her back, I have a good idea of what she's going through myself and you can't even imagine how it feels. So to have the only person you've told to go behind your back and do exactly what you've asked them not to, on top of all of it would just be really harsh to her.
I'll try and convince her to do things, cos I know she should. But I'm not doing it if she doesnt want me too :)
I'm going to try and help her any way I can, any way she wants me to.

Oh + no its not her real dad.
Its her mums boyfriend.

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Yeh. DO NOT tell anyone for her. Try and get her to tell her mum and your auntie but dont do it for her. She needs to do it herself and she needs to be able to trust you 100%
Situations like this make it hard to trust anyone and if you told then she would proberly feel completely betrayed.
U r def doing the right thing by being loyal and not telling anybody!!

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Originally Posted by invincible

yes, but describing it is nearly as bad as it being done.
when this happens to people they think of it subconsciously 24/7.
Making them think about it 100% is not good, or nice for them.

I know about this, not saying why, i've spoken to Katie (Kissed) via PM, and it really is the best thing to do.

Yes the idiot needs locking up.
I've had to sit in the same room as one of these sick perverted men knowing I could do nothing that wouldnt really really upset my friend even more.

Usually these things do not happen again because the girl becomes scared of the man and will do anything to fight him off.

They really are (ok not in your mind, or mine tbh) but in the mind of the victim, these things are best left alone.

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I agree with you 90%
But alot of people who go through abuse do need some sort of closure. Sometimes speaking out about it is the closure they need, sometimes they need revenge and sometimes they need to take things through with a professional.

Did anyone hear about that girl fighting in court about that pervert man from the bbc program.