have u ever cut?

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Originally Posted by karter

It's laughable when people use that phrase in an argument. There are so many people who have said the exact same thing on this forum and I am so tired of repeating my posts everywhere sigh

SO, you are trying to say that a person has no right to be unhappy with his life, I should be happy and satisfied because I have facilities and other people, let's say in Africa don't...This is an unbelievable, shallow and narrow minded approach because by overshadowing my problems with the problems people in Africa are facing, does not make me happy, nor does it improve the situation of theirs. I do not support self harm, nor do I know what people go through when they self harm, but one thing I do know is that being a jerk about it and telling people that they are being ungrateful to their life is really, really pathetic. Some people's lives are not so great you know, and regardless even if they are not happy with their lives, **** up, none of your business.

Apparently living in a first world country does not open one's mind.

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If they post it on a public forums they make it everyone's business thank you very much.
If people in for example Africa are happy without all of the pleasures that we get living in a first world country, then they are just being ungrateful. Genuinely ungrateful, you would damage the body you're given to live in because life puts you down, sulking in a corner cutting your arms isn't going to solve anything. Once again I say grow some balls and try and change your life instead of doing something stupid and endangering your life.

Brb telling 13 year old children who have experienced abusive bullying from people in and out of school, physical abuse from their parents and have emotional issues (possibly mental illness) to grow a pair and get over it because they SHOULD KNOW HOW TO COPE WIRH IT AND NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT PROBLEMS PURELY DUE TO A GEOGRAPHICAL FACTOR.

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Originally Posted by Intersocial

Brb telling 13 year old children who have experienced abusive bullying from people in and out of school, physical abuse from their parents and have emotional issues (possibly mental illness) to grow a pair and get over it because they SHOULD KNOW HOW TO COPE WIRH IT AND NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT PROBLEMS PURELY DUE TO A GEOGRAPHICAL FACTOR.

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If your shirt gets dirty you can replace it. THERE ARE PEOPLE YOU CAN CALL. IF YOU DON'T TRY TO SOLVE YOUR OWN PROBLEMS DON'T EXPECT THEM TO BE SOLVED.

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Originally Posted by oli

If they post it on a public forums they make it everyone's business thank you very much.
If people in for example Africa are happy without all of the pleasures that we get living in a first world country, then they are just being ungrateful. Genuinely ungrateful, you would damage the body you're given to live in because life puts you down, sulking in a corner cutting your arms isn't going to solve anything. Once again I say grow some balls and try and change your life instead of doing something stupid and endangering your life.

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Being lectured by a teenager online isn't going to help them either. You are just...unbelievable. Stop being sad.. that's the best advice you can give? That's like going to someone with a broken leg and saying "Start walking". Having the best facilities with you does not ensure happiness, no one in the world is happy (if you claim you are happy then good for you I guess)

What a lovely job of solving people's problems right? Insulting and humiliating them, telling them they are ungrateful and idiots, literally doing the opposite of what you should do. I hope you know that genuine cases of self harm are caused by mental disorders and are not so easy to cure as you think

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Originally Posted by oli

If your shirt gets dirty you can replace it. THERE ARE PEOPLE YOU CAN CALL. IF YOU DON'T TRY TO SOLVE YOUR OWN PROBLEMS DON'T EXPECT THEM TO BE SOLVED.

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Ever thought about the fact people might be too nervous to contact someone? Self-harming is a coping mechanism. Some people who do self harm have trouble with expressing their stress/anger in forms (such as talking). Yes OK you can get help, but it's scary for many. It's not an easy topic to talk to face to face either.

I am sure a 13 year old who feels victimised by everyone at school and in public. Plus their own family, would find it incredibly easy to acquire the courage to confide in a stranger about their issues. i see no fault with that assumption at all.

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Originally Posted by Detective

Ever thought about the fact people might be too nervous to contact someone? Self-harming is a coping mechanism. Some people who do self harm have trouble with expressing their stress/anger in forms (such as talking). Yes OK you can get help, but it's scary for many. It's not an easy topic to talk to face to face either.

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It's scarier to cut yourself.

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Originally Posted by oli

It's scarier to cut yourself.

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Depends on the person. Some people find it easier to communicate with people whilst others have other coping mechanisms, like I said.

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Originally Posted by oli

It's scarier to cut yourself.

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My point probably has nothing to do with what you just said
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Cutting isnt THAT scary i spose, Because you ddo it for relief, emotional relief instead of build up in your head. The build up can get so terrible and i dont know.
The scary part is what ACTUALLY CAUSED YOU TO CUT. That you felt so sad angry depressed worthless that you needed relief in the first place wether it be bullying, family issues. They all take a toll on you. Some people dont have parents to tell, Friends to trust, or even the courage. Cutting is a terrible thing, i think technically a mental illness because most of the time you cant stop. So by you calling the, idiots or ungrateful is rude, because theyre doing something to stop stress and actually try and cope instead of giving up

I think its more painful , I don't know about scary as some people aren't really afraid after they've done it once and adjust to that kind of habit. I have always found telling feelings to people much scarier than anything else.