Nosy Mom

I have not come out of the closet yet. but today my mom was snooping around my computer and she saw that i had looked at a myspace gay group... so she was like 'are you having feelings of being gay' and i said no. now she is acting really weird and so am i and i dont' know if i should come out.
I'm scared to, i wasn't expecting to come out until atleast 3 years or so.
please help.

How old are you?

I am almost 14.

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EDIT by: -50 (Forum Moderator): Please do not post homophobic comments.

you can't just decide not to be gay :rolleyes:

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Ignore that Homophobic fool.

If your mum really loves you then she simply won't care about your sexuality.

It may take her some time to get used to the idea, yet she should come around.

- Dan

Raremandan your advice gets on my nerves so much! The whole world is not against you! He was not asking if his mum would react ok he was asking if he should come out.

Hehe, I would stick to your plan of waiting a few years. Or, wait a week and see how she's acting.

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Originally Posted by 8Freak8

Raremandan your advice gets on my nerves so much! The whole world is not against you! He was not asking if his mum would react ok he was asking if he should come out.

Hehe, I would stick to your plan of waiting a few years. Or, wait a week and see how she's acting.

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Lol sorry :)

- Dan

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Originally Posted by 8Freak8

Raremandan your advice gets on my nerves so much! The whole world is not against you! He was not asking if his mum would react ok he was asking if he should come out.

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Same difference, rareman is actually right here, he was worried about how his mum would react, aswell as other people, thats pretty much the only reason people dont come out immediately. psh.

You'll have to reveal sooner or later, just make sure it's the right time. You will know when, but right now is not a good time as she feels that you're not communicative enough or something along those lines, but hey, that's mothers for you, so overprotective and caring that they're nosey and they do things that are OTT.

Ack, wait a while, see if she will make the move on asking something..

I told my mum and dad, and they where fine about the whole situation and where extremely understandable. It takes alot of guts to face parents for this reason. Perhaps you should contact a specialist in these areas and they could help you further.

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Originally Posted by Kaiora

I told my mum and dad, and they where fine about the whole situation and where extremely understandable. It takes alot of guts to face parents for this reason. Perhaps you should contact a specialist in these areas and they could help you further.

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Yeah i've thought about doing that
thanks for the advice guys i dont know how im going to break it to her still

Hehe. i was going through the same stage as you a few months ago. I didn't know how to break it to my mum. I knew that i had different sexual feelings to everyone else every since i was young.
I was just really distressed and i sort of blurted it out to my mum in august and she took it well. She always had a feeling that i was attracted to boys anyway.

Hehe. just take you're time to tell your mum, it's not a race, just do it when you feel it's right.

I hope it all goes well for you hun.

Tom x.x

Remember to keep on topic everyone, also alot of homophobic comments are being posted. We do not want them here, if you have any sort of problem, deal with it instead of posting in here

Thanks very much,

Chris =#)