Girl trouble.

I broke up with my girlfriend about three months ago now. Hit me pretty hard and in all honesty I haven't been the same since.

Me and her were very close and very serious. It really was love between us, not just a teen lust. We'd been together for just about a year and then she changed. Changed her outlook on life and just wanted to be free again, which hurt me but I could understand and I accepted it.

So we broke up and we'd promised to remain friends. We'd also been like best friends as well as lovers, told each other absolutely everything, never stopped talking to each, it was always happy and amazing. But then sh was just so cold towards me, just totally blank and would always give blunt answers to me. Nothing like I'd ever been used to and she really hurt me. It's like she hates me, I did think that this was just a her way to get over me, like she's telling herself she hates me so that means she can't love me, but also I don't think her feelings go as deep as that. Anyway about a month ago she was out with her friends and another guy hit on her and they kissed, me and her were still talking and she told me and I was pretty shocked. I got talking to one of her friends about it and I said that I thought she was making a mistake. This got back to her, foolish mistake of mine to trust the friend but there you go. Anyway, my ex then 'fell out' with me over what I'd said and we haven't spoken since.

The thing is I do miss talking to her and I would still like to be a close friend to her. It feels like she has just forgotten me when at one point in her life I was the most amazing guy she knew.

Anyone got any advice? Any girls able to give me an insight in to what shes thinking?

Well, I think you should get her alone for a few minutes, away from her friends, and explain to her how you feel and that you'd like to talk. I've never been in a situation like that so I can't garentee it would work, but I think thats the best option. Tell her that you shouldn't have talked about her behind her back and that your sorry, and also talk to the friend and ask her why she told your ex. Basicly just tell your ex everything you wrote up there. Hope this helps >-<

She won't give me the time of day.

It's like she doesn't care about how I feel anymore. Like she'd give no sympathy at all to me.

And the friend told my ex what I'd said because they were both talking about the other guy and I got mentioned somehow and the friend told my ex what I thought about the situation.

I know its hard but maybe its time to move on.

I know from personal expreience its hard but Its worth it, as something like that can become a real problem.

Try talking to her if not try to move on

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Originally Posted by Depression!

I know its hard but maybe its time to move on.

I know from personal expreience its hard but Its worth it, as something like that can become a real problem.

Try talking to her if not try to move on

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Believe me I am trying. I've just built my life around her for the past year and considering what we once were to each other I don't think it is right that we just stop all communication with each other.

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Originally Posted by Impel

She won't give me the time of day.

It's like she doesn't care about how I feel anymore. Like she'd give no sympathy at all to me.

And the friend told my ex what I'd said because they were both talking about the other guy and I got mentioned somehow and the friend told my ex what I thought about the situation.

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Maybe it's time to move on with life, seems like she's indeed very selfish.

Hm.
You want her back, then you play hardball, Show intrest in another girl, check how she reacts.
Or, Sit her down and talk to her.

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Originally Posted by KickerFliper

Hm.
You want her back, then you play hardball, Show intrest in another girl, check how she reacts.
Or, Sit her down and talk to her.

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Doing the same will just cause carnage. Dude, from personal experience, just do what these people are saying - move on. She sounds very self-fish from what I have heard about her, but I won't judge her since I have never met her.

If you can't move on (and I know it is very hard) then try and get her back. Seriously though, if she kissed another guy two months after breaking up with you, isn't that encouraging you to move on more? Come on, if she felt real bad for you, she wouldn't go kissing another guy two months later after breaking up. Some say girls can move on easier and quicker, but I will never believe that.

Now that was one big mistake. Talking to her friend? I am feeling for you bro, but you shouldn't have done that lol. Instead of talking to her friend, you should have talked to her. I think you might be right, give her a few weeks to "cool" down and get over it.

If you do get time with her, tell her how you feel and give her a slap from Joshilini (lol, ok, this isn't a laughing matter). Tell her how you feel and see how she feels. The guy who kissed her, break his neck. After you tell her how you feel, ask her how she feels. If she wants to be friends still, confess that you are responsible for breaking that dude's neck, and then you can move on. Don't live in the past, it isn't a blast!

Well, You said that you spoke to her friend and they told her, Why not tell her friend how you feel about her and that your sorry and stuffs. Maybe then this friend will go tell her that, and she'll come round sooner or later.

Or, you could just give it sometime, you never know you may get over her and move on, Or she may wanna be friends with you again. She may need sometime to get over what you said and maybe the whole relationship too, As she could still like you and is trying to act/hide the fact she don't.

Or, you could also try to talk to her, I know you said she didn't wanna, but talk to her friend. Try and get them to try and get her to listen to you for a little while, Maybe you can talk and sort everything out.

Wow, I've never typed so much before. I hope it helps you and that everything turns out okay.

Edit; I wouldn't go kissing other girls to try and make her jealous or something as she may still like you and by doing that you could make her think you don't like her back, Thus destroying future chances?

i think u shud just keep telling her your sorry it always works girls always wanna have friends

Listen ye, when you two are alone some day pull her aside
without hurting her and she will say what you doing then say
shut up and then say how much you love her, there will be
no chance of her not feeling anything to you im sure of it.

:)

She's probably hiding something, and she's not telling you?